Transformational Thoughts
1.
When we define ourselves by what we do for other people…
We essentially forfeit our own power.
We allow those outside of us to determine how we feel and think about ourselves.
And I want you to know today...
Your worth is not in your helpfulness.
2.
If people are angry about your boundaries. It's because they plan on pushing them.
Just because people push your boundaries, test your boundaries, ignore your boundaries…
Doesn't mean your boundaries are failing and not working. It actually means they're working fine.
So don't keep adjusting your boundaries because people don't respect them.
Remember, boundaries aren't for other people. They're for you. Your boundaries are about self respect, not their respect.
3.
The deepest ways you know who you are...
Is that when you are that you feel a deep sense of alignment, contentment, presence, connection with other humans in your life that matter to you.
Above all... a deep sense of connection with yourself.
You don't feel that when you are behaving at that time in the way that you are in any way violating who you really are.
It's not a mask, it's not a persona, it's not a role or a personality.
It's you.
Another mistake I've made in public speaking. And I think this is very uncomfortable for people listening to us.
I have spoken from my open wounds rather than spoken from my healed over scars.
I think what I'm advocating that we do is…
Wait until your open wounds heal or you'll bleed over us all and nobody likes that.
Wait until it's healed over and become a scar and you've figured things out and you've learned and grown from it. Wait until your cry for help has become an act of service to the rest of us.
Can you relate to this mistake I made?
@PAULSCANLONUK
