I'm not out to people except for close friends and im not able to start passing because of family reasons... I really like this guy and he told me he likes me back. When should I tell him im trans? (ftm). Thanks for the advise.
Hey, I wanted to get you both sides of a relationship between a cis person and a trans person, so I first asked my partner Will (journeyintomanhood.tumblr.com) what he thought: "I would say the sooner the better, because if you are wanting a future with someone they’re going to need to know. That being said, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with just casually dating and getting to know someone for a while and not telling them. You have to weigh any dysphoria you may have, especially if you are getting physical with someone - you want to be comfortable enough to fully explain how you are feeling. Whatever is feeling right to you is probably the right time, as unhelpful as that is." From my own partner POV, I think that if you’re just dating casually it’s okay to just do what makes you feel safest and most comfortable. I think if you want something long term, though, telling them early on will be better. That being said - again, you are not obligated to just tell someone straight up the first time you hang out if you don’t feel comfortable doing so! I strongly believe that partners need to earn their other partners’ trust.
I hope that helped, both our inboxes are open if you want to talk more. Rebecca
