Fertility Awareness/ Natural Planning Post #3:
Possible trigger: Unwanted Pregnancy. TTA topic.
It was Christmas morning, probably around 5 that I woke up, pulled a pregnancy test from the drawer and snuck into the bathroom.
I was on day 42 and still hadn’t gotten my period and with everything I have going on, I was scared that I had messed up with my charting and that my first birthcontrol free bleed wasn’t my period but withdrawal bleeding. This was my 2nd test a week later and I was hoping for another negative so I could breathe.
It was a negative. At 5am in the morning, I was ready to celebrate. Completely ignoring that the sensitivity in my nipples, the discharge and break outs, high temps were taletells of me ovulating and PMSing afters. So, to my surprised as I packed up to spend another holiday with my CP, my cycle graced me with its presence December 30th.
Was I mad? Slightly, because in all honesty, I was not allowing my CP to touch me, I felt like my body betrayed me while I waited for the two weeks. We were avoiding the talk of an unwanted pregnancy with him only telling me I had his support or me breaking into tears. I was honestly looking forward to being intimate with Him. So..in the end I texted him, and he replied with a, “I have candy and booze,” which had me chuckling.
I’m still learning FAM and having an understanding partner helps cause you learn together and it forces both sides to be responsible .
8 February 2021 edit:
I’m glad I let this sit in my draft for a while. The whole event was exhausting and I was worried of even exposing something so intimate but it’s 2021, this needs to be shared:
Not everyone using FAM is TTC (trying to concieve). Some of us want to enjoy/explore sex+body without the burden of using HBC that wrecks havoc on our bodies.
This also needs to be shared because there needs to be a 3-4 cycle time period before you can actually track your cycle correctly. I only allowed 1 cycle which was in fact a withdrawal bleed so had I collected any information it would have fudged all my records.
Finally, FAM isn’t just for you. Your partner needs to be involved or at least show some interest. Whether you’re a TTC or TTA, let them know what’s up.
