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Alright, so
Saying that asexuals arent LGBTQ+ is fucking toxic, im sorry for being serious but i encountered an acephobe on twitter, she called me a f*g, and said my identity was not valid. I am not saying her name since she doesnt even deserve the light of day. She is a clown, but like on another level of clownery than me.
I am so tired. I am so tired of ace/aro people being thrown under the bus. I am so tired of being excluded from spaces, being told aphobia and violent ace/aro experiences don’t exist, I am so tired of seeing people treat ace/aros as “watered down gays” (if we even get the recognition that we aren’t straight in the first place), I am so tired of not having a safe space because straights think we’re broken and LGBTQA+ (note how there’s an A there and it doesnt stand for ally) people don’t think we have it bad enough to deserve a safe space.
I am so tired of fandom violently rejecting ace/aro headcanons. I am tired of being told that headcanoning a LGBTQ character as ace/aro is “homophobic”.
I am ace. I feel no sexual attraction. That’s all that means. There are nuances specific to me, but every ace/aro is different.
I am tired of being told by the LGBTQ+ community that the only characters we can hc as ace/aro are straight characters.
I am not straight. My fellow ace/aros aren’t straight. Stop treating us like we are.
I am tired and I am tired because we have no safe space except with ourselves.
tl;dr The addition of ace/aro orientations does not lower the value of a LGBTQ+ relationship. If you think it does, you are the problem.
This is quite insulting, actually. Asexuals have their problems, but they're nowhere near the level that homo- and bisexuals have to deal with and had to deal with for a very long time. Being called 'prude' and get laughed at is not the same as being beaten, raped, killed or put in prison. Quit appropriation struggles of gays, lesbians and bisexuals to seem progressive. I know it's considered cool, but learn before doing that.
I am disgusted I have to say this, but oppression isn’t a competition. This message is what is actually quite insulting. Ace people still are barely considered real, let alone valid. Many ace or aro people also fall under a different aspect of the lgbt+ community, so it is not in your ability to judge our level of struggling. This message nearly made me throw up, that I still have to reaffirm both my identity and many others for the sake of people like you.
Please don’t come back into this ask box with acephobic comments like this again.
Sincerely, a genderfluid bi ace.
Hey friends I want you to be on the look out and stay safe.
I’ve received malicious messages and I’m not sure if it’s because of my stance against acephobia or if it’s just a fuckboy.
But to be safe you should block http://a-l-t-e-r-e-d-s-t-a-t-e.tumblr.com/ just in case.
I’m sapphic, and many of my friends are ace/aro. Those beautiful girls belong and have the right to mourn as much as I do.
Why are we like this? We as a community should stand together in times of tragedy, yet I’m seeing acephobic posts on my dash? Yes, someone who was presumably “cishet” (I hate saying that. I hate this site for spreading it.) joked about bringing a gun to Pride. That is unacceptable, without question. However, I’ve noticed the term “cishet” is being used to describe the ace/aro individuals who have expressed (from what I’ve heard) unpopular opinions about how they are treated at Pride events.
…Ace/aro people are NOT straight, and they are not always cisgender. Also, could we as a community make a better effort to maybe NOT USE HETEROSEXUALITY AS AN INSULT?
Gatekeeping doesn’t just stop at excluding any “otherized” orientation from the LGBTQPIA+ community. Yes, that’s my personal preference for our acronym. I don’t appreciate the visual “cut-off” presented to us in “LGBT” as it isolates so many people who don’t know where they fit on the spectrum.
Don’t tell me that questioning kids aren’t effected by that. A bunch of letters doesn’t mean anything if the people behind them aren’t open and accepting to anything different from them when they know the pain of exclusion.
My rant is done. I’m in mourning, as I said, and am sick at heart.
Writing Aro/Ace characters? Boooooring. 10/10 would not ever read. Unless it was about them getting therapy and becoming normal again.
Did I actually ask? No. No, I did not. If you only want to read sex and romance subplots, go read something else and leave me alone.
Fun fact: I, an aro/ace, am probably the least boring person I know. I can and will talk about almost any subject, I have opinions about everything, and pretty spectacular comedic timing. Without me around, my friends have about two topics of conversation (homework and Pathfinder), which they run through almost immediately.
Your two topics of conversation seem to be sex and romance. How sad for you.
What the hell. I’ve been writing about ace/aro stuff for over a year, and this week people decide to start sending me hate about it.
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Four men chased me down a dark street last night after i left the bar i work at Earlier that night the same four men noticed my ace ring and questioned after it i was open and polite even though they were smiling and making jokes about it As they chased me they called out that i wasnt asexual and all i needed was "some dick" to change my mind I was so scared Thank god for diner i ran into and called my mom
