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@asexyconfessions
Why wasnāt friendship as good as a relationship? Why wasnāt it even better? It was two people who remained together, day after day, bound not by sex or physical attraction or money or children or property, but only by the shared agreement to keep going, the mutual dedication to a union that could never be codified.
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I am tired of people saying my asexuality isnāt valid. Iām tired of people saying I canāt be asexual because Iām Christian. Iām tired of people saying I canāt be asexual because Iām heteromantic. Iām tired of people saying I canāt be asexual because Iāve been abused and thus am obviously just afraid of sex. Iām tired of people saying I canāt be asexual because Iām ātoo youngā to know. Will I still be too young next year, in five years, in ten years? Iām tired of being asked, ābut how do you know?ā Iām tired of being called homophobic because Iām Christian. Iām tired of being drowned out by contradictory hypocritical people. Iām tired of people telling me to just get better. Iām tired of people telling me that I canāt really be asexual because I was forced out of the closet/basement early* so I obviously have no idea what Iām saying.
Iāve gotten used to ignoring people but I shouldnāt have to. I am a heteromantic asexual. Iām a Christian. I was abused. Iām not homophobic or any kind of phobic. I am sex repulsed and afraid of sex but Iām also sex positive. I am capable of having a romantic relationship, asexuality just means not having sexual attraction. I donāt want a sexual relationship. I am valid and so is anyone under the asexual spectrum regardless of romantic orientation or of events in their lives. Iām really tired of being tired of everything.
*I confided in a friend who introduced asexuality to me and then they started to tell people I was asexual when I wasnāt even comfortable calling myself that
some valentineās dayās positivity for my aro/ace spectrum friends; youāre valid and i love you, no romo
Asexual Rainbow Pride Brooch
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Person: *flirts with you in a sexual way* You: Iām asexual. Person: *continues to ask really personal questions about your sex life*
Honestly I wonder how many aces with sex drives actually thought they were bi/pan before discovering the term asexual?
I wonder how many aces thought, āhuh, sex sounds alright, and I get turned on while thinking about sex no matter the gender of the person, so that must mean Iām bi/pan.ā
Because for me, thatās exactly how it was - before I learned what sexual attraction actually was, that having sexual desire for somebody who WASNāT engaged in a sexual act was actually a thing, I thought I was bi simply because sex with any gender was appealing. It was the stimulation, not the person.
Same thing for aromantics interested in life partnerships/QP relationships, who thought that wanting that intimacy with somebody and not caring what gender they were.
That kind of journey of self discovery is just as important as feeling broken before discovering the terms asexuality and aromanticism; donāt let anybody invalidate you because of your past identities, or for having a sex drive/want for a intimate relationship. Youāre beautiful and valid and so important!
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one of the easier ways to meet ppl in my area is thru dating apps like tinder and okcupid, which i'm fine with, but it sucks cuz i feel like i have to proclaim being ace to everyone i talk to on those(not that i'm ashamed, it's just personal ya know?) and that i'd rather ease into a relationship slowly than jump striaght into dates, or i feel like i'm leading them on
I feel your pain anon. Itās really difficult to relate to people, especially when you feel like you have to preface interactions by coming out. Maybe try looking for friendships first, and then deciding after if itās worth the effort to come out and try for a romantic relationship? Also Iāve been informed that OkCupid has an asexual option, never used it but thatās good to know.
-Mod Grace
Hi there, I have a friend, Jamilah, who's putting together an episode of her radio show (called Guess Who's Coming to Radio??!!) on asexuals and asexuality in the African community (Black, African-American, Afrikan). If you're interested in participating, email her at electlumbia2006 at gmail!
thank you for letting us know!! :D
I'm having a hard time answering messages on mobile. So I'm sharing a screenshot with my response to both: EXACTLY!!!
Finally decided to post these now that the closing reception for the show they were in happened today! These were for a social activism in art show at my college. The pieces are part of a set called āTheyāre Real.ā Each piece is floral foam carved and then felted by hand. These pieces were focused on the perceived mythicallity of different sexualities, in this case pansexuality and asexuality. Iām really pleased with how they turned out.
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Every other Saturday we will post links relevant to survivors. Please feel free to discuss these links in the comments, or post more links! Trigger warnings appreciated, and self-promotion welcome. Blanket trigger warning for all of these posts.
For a long time, it didnāt even occur to me that there was a sexual orientation that defined me, or that there were other people out there like me who didnāt see relationships with people through a sexual lens. I ended up in a lot of damaging relationships because I thought sex was what was expected of me and that it was what I was supposed to give in a relationship. Understanding this new world of asexuality has been an important step in coming to terms with these unwanted sexual experiences. And for a lot of asexuals, being able to say they are asexual is an incredibly important identifier and ācoming outā is just as much of step as it is for those who do not define themselves as heterosexuals.
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Interview: Mick Greene
Today weāre joined by Mick Greene, who also goes by fiyhi.Ā Mick is an amazingly talented visual artist who works mostly in digital mediums.Ā They have a unique style and their work is stunning to look at.Ā The expression on the faces is absolutely remarkable.Ā My thanks to them for taking the time to participate in this interview.
WORK
Please, tell us about your art.
If I had to describe it, Iād say itās a big mish-mash of colours, textures, and wacky expressions. I tend to exaggerate features and use a lot of different ways to highlight different characters like coloured noses, cheeks, fingers, and elbows/knees. Big curly hair is always fun. And of course a lot of anime sparkles. Sometimes thereās big bold lines, sometimes none, sometimes itās coloured, sometimes black and white. People tell me they can tell it was me who made the art, that they can āseeā me in it, but I certainly hope I donāt literally look like the characters, haha. I almost always work digitally with an intuos tablet and photoshop but I try to keep a painterly style when I can.
What inspires you?
My art has evolved so much throughout the years. It started off as a horrible lovechild of Johnen Vasquez meets Tim Burton. Then I went through my Homestuck phase (a four year long phase) and imitated popular fanartists. When I started drawing from life, I realized that I didnāt need to take directly from other artists to be a good one, I just needed to look at the world around me and try to inspire myself! I really love stuff with bright colours like flowers and succulents, and underwater things are also a huge inspiration. The one thing thatās never changed from the beginning is how much space inspires me (which is why my upcoming webcomic is set there!). I still take inspiration from other artists I love like Magnolia Porter, Michelle Czajkowski, Shelby Cragg, and Maya Kern to name a few.
What got you interested in your field? Ā Have you always wanted to be an artist?
Well, when I was really little I was convinced I was going to be a marine biologist (I thought dolphins were aliens and thought if I could just get close enough they would adopt me and take me to space). As I grew up, though, I realized that making art was something I really enjoyed and I just ā¦ kept doing it. I hope Iāll be doing it for a long time.
Do you have any kind of special or unique signature, symbol, or feature you include in our work that youād be willing to reveal?
I like to use a lot of star shapes in my art when I can fit them in and include varying little easter eggs for people to find. If youāre talking more along the lines of illuminati/conspiracy theory stuff then [REŅDAĢ¢CĶ¢TĢØEĶD]Ķ.
What advice would you give young aspiring artists?
Oh gosh where do I begin ā¦ Iād say the most important thing is, if you really want to be an artist, if you know thatās what you want to do, then you canāt give up. You may hate your art and everything you do, other people may seem way better than you, but you canāt stop trying. You have to be like a steam train. As far as style goes, you canāt compare yourself to others at all. If you learn from studying life, your style will emerge on its own. It may take time but it will happen. And another good tip: try your best to thrive off negative critique. Let it inspire you to work harder, keep trying, and achieve your goals, rather than bring you down. It isnāt something everyone can do, but it will help you a lot in the art world if you can manage. Overall: learn from life, donāt let negativity knock you down, and keep trying!
ASEXUALITY
Where on the spectrum do you identify?
I consider myself grey asexual and panromantic. It took me most of my life to figure out why other people seemed so focused on sexual attraction while I felt like it just wasnāt a big deal in my life. Iām glad I found a word for it, and that the info is out there for other people to find too.
Have you encountered any kind of ace prejudice or ignorance in your field? Ā If so, how do you handle it?
Iām lucky to never have experienced any kind of ace-specific prejudice in my field or otherwise, mostly because itās not usually something I talk about on Tumblr, let alone in real life. Most people find it ātoo complicatedā so I just stopped trying to explain. Personally Iām comfortable enough to do this, but I feel like a change is really needed. People need to take the education on themselves instead of relying on others to do it for them. Remember: knowledge is power!
Whatās the most common misconception about asexuality that youāve encountered?
Thereās a mile long listā¦ People think youāre incapable of love, that youāre some kind of cold unfeeling robot (or b*tch especially if youāre dfab), that you reproduce like plants, or that youāre straight up a mean person because of your asexuality. This frustrates me beyond belief, especially considering what a simple concept it is!
What advice would you give to any asexual individuals out there who might be struggling with their orientation?
You are valid. You are needed. You are loved. People may be confused, disgusted, or even hateful of you because of your asexuality. People may try to āconvinceā you, change you, tell you that youāre ātoo good looking to be aceā or that youāre wasting something by not wanting sex. You will come out of this struggle and be happy with yourself one day. You will find people who accept you and love you wholeheartedly. I love you and I donāt even know you! Everything will be ok. <3
Finally, where can people find out more about your work?
You can check out my art blog or my art tag on my personal blog!Ā
Thank you, Mick, for participating in this interview and this project.Ā Itās very much appreciated.
Happy Ace Day Everyone!
So as I sit on my couch in ace colors (I have black leggings, a gray shirt with a white and brown bulldog and purple lettering-these colors are SO easy, actually), I just wanted to say THANK YOU (after all, it is Thanksgiving).
Ā I just wanted to say how thankful I am for the ace community. I struggled for a really long time to figure out who I was and find a word that described how I felt that I could be comfy with. That being said, Iāve only know I was ace for less than six months but already I feel so much love and am so grateful for this community, both on AVEN and on tumblr.
So to all the aces out there, be it closeted or out, romantic or aromantic, demi, gray-A, or anywhere else on the spectrum, thank you so much for being a part of this community. Thank you to all the aces doing great visibility and advocacy work. Yāall are so inspiring.
Thank you to those who have posted graphics and images that put a smile on my face when I really needed it. Thank you to all my AVEN friends who helped me become a part of the community when I had no idea what I was doing. Thanks for all my allies out there who havenāt unfollower me even if Iāve basically thrown ALLLL the ace stuff on their feed. Thank you all. Youāre all amazing. *sniffle*
Can I have cake now?
All the cake for you!
So i heard today was AceDayā¦
Happy Ace day! Iāve been hiding my identity for too long, but the fact that my birthday occurred on the same day as Ace Day made me realize that itās okay to be the person I was born to be!
