#tw:aphobia

[eli-void]

a close friend a few days ago told me "hey can i be honest? i didn't really believe that people can be aro until you vented to me about your breakup and explained your experiences to me, huh" we were in a gay club, i had just won queer bingo and got a dildo as a prise, which i gave to her and her girlfrend for two drinks because i didnt have a bag to take it with me and the night was young. if you were wondering how aro acceptance in the queer community is going lol

(also as somone who is on the aro spectrum and at some point was wondering "idk maybe im not aro, maybe I'm just autistic and don't like touching people" this was weirdly validating in a confusing way lol, that it was my explanation that convinced her)

[theghostisametaphor]

Wanted to reblog a good post about biphobia, checked the OP and they have posts condescendingly explaining how they don’t want asexual people in lgbt safe spaces, but of course they support the non-asexual parts of lgbt people! And I’m so tired of having to vet people because of shit like this, and I’m also tired of these people pretending that they’re supporting asexuals while they insist I divorce parts of my identity from myself before I’m allowed into their so-called loving, safe, supportive spaces. 

[the-lonely-angel]

If Amazon owns the Aces then I want my cut of the money, Bezos.

[goldeneyedshinah-blog]

I am so tired. I am so tired of ace/aro people being thrown under the bus. I am so tired of being excluded from spaces, being told aphobia and violent ace/aro experiences don’t exist, I am so tired of seeing people treat ace/aros as “watered down gays” (if we even get the recognition that we aren’t straight in the first place), I am so tired of not having a safe space because straights think we’re broken and LGBTQA+ (note how there’s an A there and it doesnt stand for ally) people don’t think we have it bad enough to deserve a safe space.

I am so tired of fandom violently rejecting ace/aro headcanons. I am tired of being told that headcanoning a LGBTQ character as ace/aro is “homophobic”.

I am ace.  I feel no sexual attraction. That’s all that means. There are nuances specific to me, but every ace/aro is different.

I am tired of being told by the LGBTQ+ community that the only characters we can hc as ace/aro are straight characters.

I am not straight. My fellow ace/aros aren’t straight. Stop treating us like we are.

I am tired and I am tired because we have no safe space except with ourselves.

tl;dr The addition of ace/aro orientations does not lower the value of a LGBTQ+ relationship. If you think it does, you are the problem.