hi!! i’ve been meaning to ask u abt this for a while, but the pic u posted of your 2025 journal inspired me to reach out. i would rly like to get back into using a journal as a way to organize, plan, and feel more in control of my life. i used to use a bullet journal throughout high school and college. but my situation is different now (no classes or defined work schedule) and i remember often having a hard time keeping up with it + missing a day or two and then just falling off. i also tend to be a perfectionist and get stressed out abt making The Perfect layout. ig i’m just wondering if you have any tips or advice for getting started again and figuring out a setup that feels good + manageable? i’d send this as a message but i feel this might be helpful for other ppl too. ty!!!
(rubs hands together) ty for asking >:3 i was in your boat too for a while, and what a lot of bullet journalers tend to understandably forget is that the bullet journal system is customizable and flexible. what this also means is that you can frankenstein the bullet journal method and create your system made up of sewn together components of various other methods.
if your primary goal with your notebook is feel more in control and present in your life, then it's important to view it as a second brain. it is reasonable to believe that not all brains work alike. when combining both thoughts, you can start to see the reason why many people who try the bullet journal method are unable to keep it up long-term. they try to be too rigid with the method. they expect themselves to create artsy complicated layouts that aren't actually conducive to their brain. they need to have the same notebook as other people, the same pens, the same supplies.
but each of our minds work differently. when you believe that, then it becomes easier to accept that your notebook does not have to look the same as others to be successful. you aren't failing because you're unable to work with the system the way others do. it is the current system failing you, and that simply means it's time to tweak it and change it as necessary until it becomes more compatible with your brain. maybe the size of the notebook is the problem. or the type of paper. for example: i find that tall and skinny notebooks like the traveler's notebook work best for me. but maybe you prefer big a4 sized notebooks. i also refuse to work on anything that isn't grid paper. but maybe lined paper works better for you.
for me, i use my notebook as a writer the way an artist keeps a sketchbook.
that means i don't play with the layouts unless it serves me. my creativity is expressed solely in the pages i want to be creative in, like when i'm writing fiction or sketching storyboards, but i am intentionally not creative and artistic in the basic setup.
for the basic setup, i'm using a hybrid system of the basic bullet journal method and the life hacker. my intentions are to be mindful of the goals i want to achieve and keep some memory of each day. otherwise it feels as though the month has gone on without me and before i know it, it's the next month and i remember nothing of the past few weeks.
i make sure to keep an index on the back of my notebook. i write down page numbers of pages i want to refer back to later.
i start with a "one line a day" page:
that way, if i miss a few days, i can always try to catch up and write down a single line of what i remembered that day. i also tell myself it's okay to write "i don't remember what happened" on days where that happens. in a way, that also indicates something about that day - usually that i was too depressed to engage with my interests, and that's important to log.
then i set up a basic monthly spread to track upcoming events, bills to pay, habits, tasks i want to do that month, and goals i want to achieve. i also added a d20 roll every day just for fun. if i really need the guidance, whatever i rolled that day determines how i go about with my day.
i also don't really treat it like a chore. i miss days here and there, but when that happens i just set the next day up and move on. this notebook is meant to serve me, not the other way around!
this notebook also serves as my commonplace book. if you've seen me occasionally tag posts as #commonplace, that's me saving posts to write down in my notebook. i love to save advice i appreciated, quotes that resonate with me, and other bits and bobs of information i'd want to re-read in the future.
i also like to write down my thoughts on topics that interest me. it actually is one of my biggest passions and special interests: optimizing a notebook system for myself and helping others find their system. so if you flipped through my current notebook, you'll find rambles about notebook systems and how simply following trends is ineffective.
hope this helps!! i wrote a lot more than i thought i would dfkghdf but this is a huge interest of mine.
feel free to tell me to hit google’s line, but i thought you might like the opportunity to infodump and i’m curious. can u tell me about yakuza and what kind of game it is
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Okay so I actually don't know a ton, I've only played Kiwami 1 and heard about the rest of the games a bit but I will tell you everything I know !!!!! (That is not spoilers)
So if you hadn't guessed, the Yakuza are a pretty big part of the game series, through from what I've heard later games a a bit less about them. I think they're decently widely known, but if you don't know what the Yakuza are, they're organized crime groups from Japan kinda like the Mafia. But still active and shit. I've seen a thing where somebody actually showed a member Yakuza one of the games and the guy said it was pretty realistic to how the actual Yakuza works and acts but that the main character, Kiryu, dresses like shit (intentional) and that he got into an absurd amount of fights (it's mostly a fighting game so. I think that's a very excusable inaccuracy lol).
The guy you play as at least in the first games is Kiryu Kazuma. He was orphaned as a child and raised by a Patriarch of the Tojo Clan, Kazama (very simular names but they are not related). Patriarchs in the Yakuza run their own families in their clans and can have smaller patriarchs above them. For instance, before Events, the Kazama family was under the Dojima family.
Kiwami 1, which is on of the games most people start with Kiryu being 27, then going to jail for a decade for a murder he didn't commit but took the blame for to protect his really close friends. When he gets out, the Tojo clan is a wreck and one of his friends turned is super unwell and eeeevillllll and the other is missing and a suspect in a massive crime. You spend the game trying to figure out what's going on, beating the shit out of people who are mad at you for the murder you didn't commit, protecting a girl you found in the streets who is now essentially your daughter, trying not to get scammed, being confused by modern technology and the changes in the world since you were in prison, and getting jump by My Favorite Character!!!!!!! Goro Majima!!!!!!!!
Majima is a freak and is obsessed with Kiryu and I think you would really like him too!!!! He is possessive and violent and spends all of his free time watching Kiryu and trying to plan ways to suprise Kiryu and get him to fight him!!!! I love Majima!!!!!!!! There's and entier mechanic in the game called the Majima Everywhere system where he's!! Everywhere!!!! And may attack you at any given moment in a wonder variety of ways!!!! Also he crossdresses!!!!!
Now, I don't know as much about the other games, but I know that Yakuza 0 is a split story that takes place before Kiwami 1 and is about both Kiryu and Majima and about how Majima turned his freak up and about how... Kiryu is being accused of murder again?? Bro can't catch a break. Anyway, they don't know each other until the end of 0, they've really only heard of each other and apparently have some shared finances.
I think the rest of the games focus around Kiryu trying to avoid the Yakuza because he's tired of that bs but the Yakuza being like "Nooooooo Kiryuuuuuuuuu helllpppppppppp you're so good at punching people so hard they die pleaseeeeee come back and punch these people so hard they dieeeeeeeee." And then there's also a guy named Ichiban bar and grill and I think he might be a main character in later games. I don’t know a lot about him but I think he is very beautiful and it is likely I will fall madly in love with him when I finally get to the games he's in.
There's also a lot of cool stuff in the Yakuza game series like mini games! such as karaoke (kiryu is the guy who sings the Dame Dane song if you've heard of it), baseball, billiards, darts, horny card fighting, tiny race car racing, bowling, and claw machines (at least in Kiwami 1). They're also really cool about sex work! And queerness! And it's so fun!
I really recommend playing it if you are able c: It's on the Xbox (free with game pass) and $20 on steam!! Maybe other places too idk. If you have any questions or ever want to vc and watch someone play it hmu !!!!!!!!
List 5 things that make you happy, then put this in the askbox for the last 10 people who liked or reblogged something from you! Get to know your mutuals and followers:)
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Gotta start of strong with myself 💪💪took a lot of work to get here but I'm literally my favorite person now (I love my friends very much if you see this hii you are amazing love you but sadly you are not a constant voice inside my head so I win sorry love you to the stars and back though)
My friends. Which I already said. But yeah. Especially those of you who have seen me through rough times especially Marshall. The world would be a darker place if I had not met you. Idk what I would have done but probably nothing good.
Science!!!!!!!!! Ever since I was a little girl-boy-thing I've always known I wanted to know everything. Sadly I will die one day but I'm going to try to learn as much as possible until then.
Art!!!!!!!! Art is like an applied science to me also of course a physical skill of course but yeah I love learning and making and trying to create stories.
Fiction!!! Uh. Escapism coping mechanism user. Also you can learn so much through fiction, it's a really great teaching medium.