A Week Out and My Dad's an ASS
** I kind of hop around my subjects so I bolded different subjects/tags to make it easier to scan through
So, we got pretty much all the reservations made. My mom was upset to be spending so much money all at once and because of waiting for my dad's sleeping bag from REI she scheduled everything to be pushed back. We're leaving on the 3rd instead of the 30th and we'll be summiting on the 5th instead of the 1st but it's alright. When I spoke to "Ole Man" at the AT Lodge he said June was pretty early and slow going, but I think it'll be fine since I'm expecting it. I've had people tell me on more than one occasion I'm stubborn and I expect to be uncomfortable and miserable.
There's a strange sadistic quality to my thoughts when it comes to imagining my dad going through all this with me though. He's not in shape, but neither am I. He's pretty stubborn and thickheaded too, so maybe he'll hold up. The first day after the ascent is going to be pretty flat so I don't think we'll separate - unless he's planning to leave me behind and gain some ground in the future - which is pretty wise in the long run but totally a dick move. He's a competitive person so I think this trip will have a different meaning for him. I think though, that he'll get worn down and crabby pretty fast and I don't want to be around that, but I'll need to stay with him or he might get washed down a river fording it. Once we start getting into mountains again it'll be harder to stay together because he's really slow on ascents.
I may have said this before, but I planned this to be a solo trip. Life is easier without compromises and I'm at a selfish stage right now so I really didn't plan on accommodating anyone. Which basically means I've been doing research and planning for the past 2 years and buying quality budget equipment but here my dad comes.
He wants to know all I know and have everything I have, but the more expensive version.
And this is even more stupid because he doesn't even work! Right now he's using all of my mom's money, when I saved and spent everything I made from part time jobs and was a frugal as possible, just to show that I was going on this trip and they didn't have to support me and couldn't stop me. I guess getting better equipment thrown in my face is just one of those struggles I have to go through. It's just one more reason I don't want to hike with my dad though. Can you imagine the two of us strolling into camp, setting up our stuff, and he's got the better equipment acting like he knows something when he's just standing on my shoulders. It's some weird ploy to make it look like I'm the tag along and maybe that makes him feel more comfortable.
I guess I can see where he's coming from - he doesn't know all that much about equipment so he's trying to make up for that insecurity by spending a lot of money. It's obnoxious and a little sad and unfair. He bought a sea to summit dry sack to keep his toiletries in order and I'm using gallon zip-lock freezer bags for my clothes! It's more economic, which is more sensible which just makes me more mad at him for unnecessarily spending money on nice things that I want as well when I'm skimping.
What I'm really having problems with is my tarp right now though. I spent all this time researching a great cheap tarp and found a lightweight $20 option - kite making tyvec. But when I told him about it he went out and bought a $60 roll of 3 foot tyvec house wrap for the both of us. I don't even know if we can return it, but I want the tyvec I originally wanted.
What I'm really afraid of is that we're a week out and I've already taped mine together - I just need to hem it and add tie out reinforcements - but he hasn't done anything yet! I don't want him to go out and buy a nice expensive tarp last minute while I'm stuck with an ugly tyvec tarp that I didn't want in the first place! Unless he starts on his tarp soon I'll just get the tyvec I wanted fast shipped to me and give him the tarp I already made.
Other than finishing the tarp I've been trying to decide on getting gaiters. I've only got a week so I'm not sure they'd reach me in time if I did order them and even then I don't know if I should just forgo them. I think once I get out there I'd see a lot of people with them and dad would be like, "How come we don't have gaiters? Everyone else does, I want some" even though I've told him multiple times we need to get them and he's asked me multiple multiple times what a gaiter is when I mention them (he can't seem to remember what they are or why they're important). I can order them and have them shipped up to the AT Lodge for them to hold it for me, but if we get there before them we don't have anyone to send it ahead and the next town is after the 100 mile wilderness in Monson. I guess if I get them shipped here and they show up like a day after us my mom would have to pay postage to send them to Monson.
Right now he's not concerned about either the tarp or gaiters (or food drops for the 100 mile wilderness - surprise surprise! he's leaving that planning up to me, just like the tickets and lodging) He's just researching what food to take on the trail. For me food drops are definitely more important than food type right now. I still have to call ahead to the different companies that offer food drops and figure out their rates and how the resupply process works - do we bring the food to them, do they recommend buying it in town, which is cheaper, where can they/do they usually make a drop?
Based on the guide it looks like Coopers Creak or something like that is the midway point, but there's also a campground - Jo something or other - that's just a short hitch away with showers and laundry facilities close to the midway point that might be easier to get food drops to. I think it would be cool to go there despite the cost but I need to coordinate with my father and he hasn't got a clue even though at this point we have the same info sources - he isn't reading through them!!
The thought I just had, that sounds stupid to me even as I have/write it, is that I don't like doing things for other people. That's all life is - our value is all measured in the services we can provide for others, what we can do for them, but I resent having to pick up the slack for someone I was forced to bring along when I never asked for their company. It's like an unplanned pregnancy or something. It's like I'm being handed off my mother's responsibility for supervising my father in the guise of him supervising me which I don't even need!!
I mean I expect to offer assistance to my parents once they get older. They'd probably move in with me or something (I don't think old people should live alone or be put in homes) but it is not yet that day!
So, yeah, it's a real drag. I think I've maybe got 3 more entries before I don't have my laptop anymore, then I'll start posting pictures of my handwritten journal entries. I probably won't be able to post in the 100 mile wilderness though.
I'm really looking forward to the second half of the 100 mile wilderness. I bet it would be really peaceful...and if I were going alone I bet it would be a really nice place to be alone for 2 weeks.