Unfuckable
I see a lot of people who hates that Shane is described as unfuckable. And I get it. It's valid to dislike that. But I'm a low support needs autistic person and it's also true sometimes?
I remember when I was in one of my Facebook groups and this literal smokeshow, absolutely super hot guy was posting about how he struggled to find a romantic relationship. It wasn't a red pill situation. He talked about a lot of struggles he had, like the fact that men are expected to lead. But even getting on the dates, and being in front of this person, he's not able to pick up the signals and escalate the conversation.
And this is a very common thing for autistic people to report. There are quite a few people who just talk about this in autistic communities. It's a social communication disorder. We struggle with nonverbal communication. So much of romance and sex is a nonverbal dance. It's not just saying the right things, but your body responding to what someone else is nonverbal signals are saying, and also giving off those nonverbal signals in turn. And also appropriately responding to what the person is saying, which is difficult even when you don't add the pressure of romance on top.
I personally struggle with this because even though I'm pretty good looking (humblebrag), I don't recognize when people are bidding for my romantic attention. I tend to turn the conversation platonic, but I'm not even realizing that there is a different conversation happening here. I'm not able to radiate those signals for romance. And that means that the pushy ones, are the ones who get past that, and they're usually awful. (Shane was lucky with his pushy person!)
It literally is the reason why Shane gets on with Rose. They're talking platonically about his favorite thing, hockey. They're relating their experiences, so he's able to better recognize the bids for communication from a shared background, being famous, her empathy and social skills and patience adding extra seasoning to the mix.
In the books, Shane reports how easy it is for him to get women to give him blowjobs. That's to be expected because he's hot and rich. But nothing happens beyond that. He's able to walk around and easily get sex from men. But nothing happens beyond that.
One of the funniest things about being late diagnosed, is people will discuss how they met the love of their life. If they're lucky. Many times, they were friends first. Sometimes, it's completely long distance and through discord or chat rooms or specific special interests. One author, discussing her late diagnosis journey, met her husband in a mental institution. I remember one person mentioning how they were talking to some man over text, and he basically showed up to her place and never left. Even she knew how unhinged that was, and took great pains to recommend not doing that.
So yeah, if I'm some person on set, and I'm trying to give someone tips on how not to be attractive when you are objectively attractive five ways to Sunday by being rich, hot, athletic, and young, I would say to be unfuckable. Miss out on bids (accurate). Scroll through several social scripts while the person waits (accurate). Reference the conversation that was being had five minutes ago when you find the correct script (accurate). Redirect the conversation to your own special interest instead of learning about the other person when things stall (accurate).
