#unmade decisions

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How tremendous the agony of unmade decisions.

M.L. Rio, If We Were Villains

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healing era except i keep on getting worried about everything

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Unmade decisions - a burden and a gift

“Unmade decisions have the power to either close us up in fear or open us up to love.  This is both the burden and the gift of our indecision.  We get to choose which one we carry.”- Emily P. Freeman

Emily P. Freeman concludes Chapter 1 of The Next Right Thing as she reminds you that Christ dwells in you and delights in you.  In addition, you live in the strong and unshakable kingdom of God.  Therefore, the decision is rarely the point.  What really matters is that you become more fully yourself in the kingdom of God.

Yet, as Mrs. Freeman’s spiritual director explained to her, the Western world trains our minds to go down the path of explaining.  As a result, we think we can control something if we understand it.  Consequently, our Western culture conditions us to believe that we should only do things if we:

know why

know where we’re headed

understand the purpose

Without clear answers, then, taking a big step feels like a risk at best.  Or, at the worst, a fateful mistake.  Thus, Emily explains the importance of decisions.  She writes:

“We know decisions are important because each one carries a consequence.  Decisions shape our lives. But what we often overlook is not only how our choices shape outcomes but how they shape us too.  They reveal our character and help to create our character.”

In conclusion, the author observes, we always have decisions to make – big or small.  Hence, you need to create a space in your soul as well as you schedule to remember not only who you are but why it matters.  And as you explore the next right thing, you also explore where God’s with you in your indecision and exasperation.

Today’s question: How do you see unmade decisions as both a burden and a gift?  Please share.

Coming Monday: the June Short Meditation, “Hear the music – don’t just read the notes”

Tomorrow’s blog: “Minimalism – nothing owns you”

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Jockeying for position - how we go through life

“Most of us go through live praying a little, planning a little, jockeying for position, hoping but never being quite certain of anything, and always secretly afraid that we will miss the way.”- A. W. Tozer, The Knowledge of the Holy

In Chapter 1 (“Do The Next Right Thing”) of Do the Next Right Thing: A Simple, Soulful Practice for Making Life Decisions, Emily P. Freeman points out what keeps us awake at night.  It’s the mights and maybes of our lives.  Yet, Mrs. Freeman adds, we all handle the pressure of decision-making in different ways.

Furthermore, the specific nature of the decision doesn’t matter.  As Emily explains, any unmade decision holds power:

“[Unmade decisions] pull, they push, they interrupt where they aren’t wanted and poke us awake at night. . . .  Like toddlers at our feet right before dinner, they follow us around and refuse to leave us alone until we face them head-on and either pick them up or point them in the right direction.  If only we knew what the right direction was.”

Therefore, the advice Emily builds her book upon is based upon a concept most famously found in the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous – the strength to do the right thing.  However, the author observes, unmade decisions smoke out our addictions.  Perhaps, Emily states, you:

find yourself addicted to clarity and certitude – before you move forward, you must be absolutely sure of all the details.

value approval more than anything else – this accounts for your lack of confidence and chronic case of hesitation.

find yourself averse to making decisions – hence, you delegate them, avoid them, or make them too quickly.

consider activity, hustle, or the fast pace of a well-connected life the way to go – as a result, you leave no space to consider what’s best.

Today’s question: Do you find yourself jockeying for position in a field of unmade decisions?  Please share.

Tomorrow’s blog: “Life plan or clear vision – our addiction to clarity”

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