#unsolicited asks

[hollifo]

I'm sorry, but if you send me an ask begging for money, you don't follow me, I don't follow you, we've never interacted in the slightest... I'm not going to repost it. I have no way to verify whether or not the sob story you're copy-pasting to hundreds of others is a scam, and after decades online I sadly don't believe any of them.

Also, I'm unemployed, you're VERY MUCH barking up the wrong tree.

[cryptid-artha]

Stop sending me asks begging for money or donations.

Stop.

I am barely surviving myself. I legit CAN NOT AFFORD TO SEND MONEY TO PEOPLE.

I don't care who you are or what you need money for. Sending things to my inbox asking will get your post deleted and ignored.

And now, it will get you blocked. I have started blocking blogs doing this, because deleting and ignoring 5 copy pasted asks begging for money from the same account didn't get the point across.

I know it's mostly people trying to escape a genocide happening, but I automatically assume it's a scam if it shows up in my ask box written like it's generated by Chat GPT. I know some of these may be legit and some of those are from people who actually need money. But harassing random people on the internet trying to get donations is not how you do it.

Stop. I am going to start blocking every account that comes into my inbox begging for donations since simply ignoring it isn't getting my point across.

I am fucking sick of it.

[dommesticpet]

Thanks for the answer. I like your ideas. As far as the why, it's somewhere along the lines of "the people who most want to be president probably shouldn't be." Although, often, I don't even feel like it's organizers at fault in particular, so much as that they have to make decisions that are difficult to make when the people involved are right there with you physically and in your online circles - and I think as a result there's an instinct to sweep things under the rug in the name of a "strong community" and minimizing conflicts. But all that means is that other people drop out silently, one by one, as it becomes clear that the rules don't mean much when someone "important" is involved.

And if this community needs someone not afraid of a little assault charge to make sure cons stay protected spaces, well...that can be my job. Being a shrimp has its perks in terms of looking like the innocent one >:)

Whoever you are, I am unsure again why you are singling me out as someone who has not been posting much as of late but thanks? Since the decline of Tumblr, and FetLife, in favor of Discord (and probably somewhere else) it's a lot harder to skim peoples' scene logs and generally good ideas. More than anything else, I think that's what built the framework of a really good online community just a few years before the pandemic.

Everybody out there is doing their best and there's a very high bar for a lot of people. Nobody's going to be perfect and ConCom people can get burned out or turned over very regularly. If you had a team of people whose job it was to run these things from outside those who may play there you might get a completely different experience, but probably one that's more of a business. Which has its own set of problems. People running these things are doing their best and it's a lot of unpaid work so people can meet up and have - hopefully - a totally fantastic time.

I hope everybody brings their "A" game and sets a good example to everything they do. Which is, of course, making sure the other people involved also want the same thing they do. Ultimately these are really big private parties with an admission fee, and nobody has accused me of throwing a good party.

As much as I think we all care about the people involved, I doubt any of us want to do a part-time job planning an event for a minimal stipend like maybe a hotel room or a car rental reimbursement.  It’s a lot to ask of anybody, and why I may not need to ever consider being involved.  Also, nobody asks, which makes it very easy to not be involved.

Thank you for reaching out, and I appreciate the kind if most likely not deserved compliments. (But also, the people putting on these events do deserve a lot more applause because it can be a thankless job. One of my best pals was involved with it and it's amazing to see what they can roll up their sleeves to accomplish.)

[jolieteraqueenofeverything]

You lead everyone on

I really don't though.

[jolieteraqueenofeverything]

You're the girl of my dreams but I know I'll never be the guy of yours

🤨

[lazywritergirl]

If you got transformed into any animal/creature for a week, what would you become and why?

If this happened to me I would be a momonga for a week. Know why? Because those things are fucking terrifying, but everybody thinks they’re cute as shit.

[mightydeerprince]

i ike ur blog

oh shit, thanks!!