Tumblr-verse, I need your help
So there’s this girl, I met her at a party once, found out we had a common friend, and I ended up helpibg her out with this outreach project of hers where for a while I’ve been running half of the operation for and doing everything she freaks out on doing. Found out later that my friend let it slip that I liked her to her, but no one’s done anything. We chat, we talk, she’s asked me about my type of girl and she’s commented that whoever I fall in love with is one lucky girl. I’m a lesbian, she’s bi. She flirts with me, I coyly flirt back. We’ve had this thing going on with us.
Then she cancels plans with me three weeks in a row for no real reason.
She asked me lately my thoughts on dating as I finish my PhD and I said that I wanna wait until I finish because I don’t wang to be unfair to whoever I date. She asked about what I think about just casual dating, I said I want to build something with someone, get to know them, and have strong foundations. She said that’s something she wants too. I told her later on I needed a break from the project I helo her with to focus on finishing since we’ve grown into a team of people.
Here’s the thing. When we met and first had coffee she said that she’s not dating anyone and her tinder is off for the most part and if it is on, it’s set to girls only. Yet she posts random chats on tinder for matches. I told her I just wanna meet someone to build an actual relationship with and be says the exact same thing. She jokes around saying I’m amazing and that for my birthday she wants to do something special like fill my apartment with flowers or balloons. She also whines about how she’s still single but then... well, now I find out she has had a boyfriend she’s been dating the entire time we’ve been hanging out. That she was with him when she cancelled plans with me. That this guy was this friend she’s casually mentioned to me before when we were out just checking in on her because stuff has happened and they were good friends and he was worried.
I feel played. Especially because the gruth only came out after I said I waned to take a break from helping her...
So tumblrverse, what should I do? I feel used and kinda wanna get even because she played me like a fool. My friends (the ones she doesn’t know) wants me to make her feel the pain of kinda using me and losing me so they think I should flaunt fake girlfriends, stop giving her my attention and all? Any advice is welcome. That said, anyone wanna be my fake girlfriend?