♡ Synastry Observations ♡
These notes are from my own experiences and observations so please take it with a grain of salt. I am not a professional astrologer. Most of these aspects are gonna be a hard pill to swallow so please be mindful about the fact that, to determine a specific dynamic btw two people whole chart is important and not just one or two aspects, cause some good aspects do balance the bad ones. Thankyou.
♤ I haven't seen many people talk about this but Sun opposite Mars is by far the toughest aspect I personally find hard to overcome without mutual understanding. Especially in case of fixed signs. The Ego battles are so exhausting and nobody is ready to backdown even if it means loving someone to death and still not initiating the conversation after an argument for months just cause you'd have to sacrifice your Ego for it.
♤ Sun conjuct Midheaven 🤝 Using your partner to build your own in some way. I had this as a double whammy with my Ex. We helped and always motivated each other to work on our goals. I would feel genuine happiness to see him succeed as if its not his alone but a shared success. Also we tried so hard to keep our relationship a secret but no matter what it blew up and people couldn’t stop gossiping about us.
♤ His sun squared my lilith and initially he thought of me as a big challenge. We were infact in a controversial situation and I was the last person he should have thought of getting his hands on but... yeah the things lilith makes you do, its no joke. I was his dark little secret.
♤ The urge to be responsible for someone’s emotional needs and not being fully able to provide the support kinda hits hard when you have Moon square Saturn synastry. Saturn comes off as cold and detached to moon without intending to—making moon feel like saturn doesn't wanna listen and won't understand what he is feeling. Fear of judgment and disappointing each other is real. Not only from moon person but even Saturn feels like he should not come off as weak infront of the moon and has a hard time opening up.
♤ Moon sextile Uranus is such a smooth longterm placement for people who get easily bored in a relationship. There is a constant mental stimulation and mutual spark. Being the uranus person I felt like I can finally breath in this synastry without hurting his feelings or coming off as detached out of nowhere. We would always have something surprising and exciting to include in our dynamic.
♤ No clarity? No explanation? No closure? One moment you feel like you know this person and the next everything feels hazy? Bet you have a hard time believing this person is yours and at the same time you want them to be the one while also simultaneously building unrealistic expectations. And then every small beef or unmet expectation feels like your heart is being ripped apart atom by atom. Yes, very much Moon square Neptune coded.
♤ Having different emotional needs and not being able to connect emotionally on a deeper level is common with people having Moon square ascendant in synastry. Both don't know how to reach out without feeling like their feelings are valued. The emotions of moon person can affect the ascendant person's actions directly. Many suppressed and internal conflicts which no one wanna address.
For example—if the moon person is going through something, the ascendant person will feel the energy but instead of seeking comfort, the moon will act distant which might make the ascendant irritated and anxious. And it reflects in the relationship making the moon person feel even more vulnerable and helpless.
♤ Mercury sextile Sun is one of the easiest backstage aspects that makes sure things run smoothly in the background. If I had to visualize it, I'd see mercury casually complimenting and boosting sun making him feel more confident.
♤ Mercury conjunct Moon, mercury knows exactly what moon wants to hear and moon can easily detect even the slightest change in mercury's voice and tone. Its like finding peace in each other's voice.
♤ I love having Mercury trine Saturn in synastry. Even if there is chaos everywhere in the chart, this subtle grounding in conversations can keep both of them under check. Mutual trust is built and there is this feeling of no matter how many times we argue, we'll still find a common ground and come back to each other.
♤ Imagine feeling dragonflies in your stomach the moment you talk to that person? That lively spark and over the world kinda euphoria where you end up saying nonsense and unconventional stuff to that person which you would never say to anyone? Yeah that's Mercury square Uranus. The only downfall here is, the timings can be off. One might end up getting ghosted or unprioritized. One wants to talk while other doesn't wanna listen. But with positive aspects like the one above, this can be stabilized...sometimes that is.
♤ His mercury sextile my Neptune. God...the way I loved his voice... I was addicted, addicted to his voice. His words seemed very charming to my ears. While he was addicted to the sense of high I made him feel through our conversations. Ngl I remember it all started with— "Let's imagine something..."
♤ Mercury sextile Ascendant is weird honestly. Look, being the ascendant person I have a reason. His way of texting and talking was very minimalistic and secretive, thanks to his 12th house mercury but I didn't mind it at all. I felt comfortable with how he communicated and found nothing wrong. While when I showed the same to my friend, she said why tf is he talking like it costs him 50 grands each for an alphabet 😭 and I couldn’t defend him. But the point is, things that under normal circumstances would get under my skin, felt normal with him. Like yeah...thats just how he texts and I understand his language. Also I took so many new slangs from him and got influenced, help.
♤ Often those with Venus Square Sun synastry have different love languages. Or the venus person feels like the Sun doesn't get their love and keeps pushing them for no reason. No matter how much venus tries, his efforts go in vain infront of Sun due to many indifferences and Sun can’t see their love. There is initial mutual attraction like boom everything feels magical but then overtime nothing seems to work out cause venus doesn't get the validation from Sun and Sun feels unloved.
For example... someone is suffering from an illness so you go and make them medicine with so much efforts, love and care but unfortunately its not used for what he is suffering hence he refused to drink. So now you both are hurt cause you don't know where you went wrong and why your efforts are not appreciated while he feels like you don't care about him and don’t know shit about him.
♤ Crush at first sight is most likely Venus Sextile Uranus. You don’t know why you are attracted to them but you are. Boredom? Nah never. Loving each other's quirkiness and falling in love all over again at unexpected moments is the best part.
♤ God help those with Venus square Northnode. Definitely didn't help me tho... sigh. Not an easy aspect. I knew the very second I met him— this guy is gonna be my end game or worst heartbreak ever. His venus squared my Northnode. After a period of time, I wasn’t really happy with how he treated me and even after a breakup that I sacrificed my soul for, I wasn't happy without him either. Its wasn’t really his fault, circumstances forced him to be the way he was and I struggled to know why...why can't he love me the way I want him to? At one side he helped me overcome all my insecurities, healed me, brought the lover girl outta me that even I didn't recognize and on the other, forced me to redefine my definition of love through not so pleasant experiences, hurt me in the ways that completely changed my perspective of looking at love. So many lessons and hardships to overcome together... it felt deeply karmic.
♤ Mars square Saturn makes the saturn person irritated or annoyed at mars for being too much. Mars is generally excited and very assertive by nature, wanting to explore everything and demanding to the point saturn finds them overwhelming and spoiled. Sexually also, Mars would be like a demanding animal in heat and saturn feels repulsive of all those demands at one point, restricting mars and making him more frustrated.
♤ Talk about exploring all kind of kinks with each other and here it is —Mars sextile Uranus. Ah, the satisfaction when your kinks get aligned and there is no discomfort with trying new stuff with each other is just chef's kiss.
♤ I heard Mars square Neptune is a stalker aspect. Guilty as charged. Well, imo nothing can beat the sexual chemistry I felt with him. Him being the mars person knew every nook and corner of me and desired to know even more. I opened doors for him that were closed for everyone and the risk factor? It was like a fantasy, the forbidden charm, the dreamy nights and heavy idealization from both ends. 24/7 horny for each other. Doesn’t help with the fact that we both have this aspect in Natal. On a serious note, this can turn into a obsession you can never get rid of. So much hidden stuff and deception going on in the background. With other positive aspects you might not necessarily lie but you'll find it easier to hide than to expose or confront.
♤ Mars square Ascendant is a red flag. Yes, you heard me, stay away from him girl! I know he can't keep his hands off of you and you feel this irresistible pull to him because he gives you so much attention like he is the Sex God or something but girl what about those drool worthy clothes you returned cause he didn't approve? What about those times you were forced to change your outfit cause he found it too revealing and attention seeking? Okay what about the angry glares he gave you cause someone accidentally touched your arm?? What about those aggressive pulls, waist grabs, neck grabs, and telling you how you're only their fucking property? Okay nvm my bad, you into that.
♤ Jupiter conjunct Mercury can come up with best ideas while brainstorming together. Jupiter helps mercury broaden their horizon while mercury encourages Jupiter to innovate new ideas and appreciate small things. Mercury can't stop talking while being with Jupiter and Jupiter loves to listen patiently and not judge. Intellectual and humorous banter which stimulates both.
♤ Jupiter trine Uranus is being batshit crazy with each other. Like yk those two besties who meet after years and still got that energy in them that screams, Girl! We just met yesterday. Yeah that crazy duo you see laughing like hyenas after one slips and falls down, instead of helping, the other one starts laughing and falls down too. Now they both are laughing. Chaotic. Forget judging, they'll even help you in disposing a deadbody. Same dynamic in romantic synastry too.
♤ Saturn sextile Sun is definitely Saturn keeping the Sun person in check every few minutes, like a parent—but not in an overbearing way. It’s more like gentle parenting, holding yourself responsible for their well-being, boosting their confidence, helping them overcome difficulties, and making sure they don’t end up in unnecessary trouble. If the Sun is wrong, Saturn will say it to their face and reprimand them instead of sugarcoating or letting it go. There is so much potential in this connection, because the Sun genuinely respects Saturn, and the loyalty between these two is unmatched.
♤ The ease with which one can express their inner child without fearing being labeled as childish is chef's kiss with Saturn trine Moon. Saturn can easily handle all kind of tantrums coming from moon. That too with such an understanding and maturity that Moon feels satisfied and even a little suspicious. I mean...how tf he knows all my tactics? Am I that predictable? And did he just pat my head??? Its so cuteee!
♤ Saturn opposite Neptune is indeed a hard pill to swallow. Neptune often feels that Saturn doesn’t understand life as a simple, beautiful fairytale. Neptune tends to overthink and get lost in the imaginative world more often than not, while Saturn feels it’s his responsibility to ground Neptune and provide constant reality checks. But instead of appearing as the hero, Saturn often comes across as the villain in Neptune’s love story, since his methods are usually dismissive and harsh—even if he doesn’t intend them to be. Under Saturn’s guidance, Neptune feels restricted and boxed in.
♤ One of the karmic relationship indicators that suggests long lasting bond can be Saturn trine Northnode. Its truly hard to get separated from the other person. It feels like you’re sacrificing your soul to the devil's feet in order to maintain distance. Hurts really bad, I swear. Saturn will bonds in such a way, you'll always find reasons to get back together. No matter how toxic the relationship gets. Not only this but any Saturn-NN aspect is like a glue. Trine is definitely a good quality glue. While negative aspects can be a type to make things fall off and attach again and again until the whole tube is finished.
♤ Saturn opposite ascendant.... the fact that every other guy I meet somehow has his saturn conjuct my DC and opposite my ascendant. Definitely, they end up taking any kind of bond with me super seriously but they also try to restrict me in some way or other. Saturn tries to be the caretaker while I end up feeling helpless instead. Like boy it's just a small scratch, that doesn't mean I am irresponsible. And please don't tell me what to do, I can take care of myself, thankyou. Mind you... this is a karmic placement.
♤ I absolutely don't like Uranus square Venus. No hate but imagine everything is going super fun, smooth, your relationship is at its highest and suddenly one random morning Uranus decides they need to explore other things too and now they're done with you. And no bby, not done as in leave no crumbs behind...nah nah they'll ghost you for weeks...even months with no explanation while you cry yourself to sleep every night thinking what went wrong? And then again one random morning they'll reach out like nothing ever happened. So much breadcrumbing istg.