A post that I responded to...
I constantly see this sort of behavior and statement made in the poly community. And it's always just glossed over, sympathied by others, and never contended with constructive thought. There's too many people (in general everyday life) that seem to revel in their problems and since they see themselves as having good intent they think it automatically deducts them from being the central cause of the problem(s).
Basically this attitude or tendency to play the heroe in being irresponsible and not in control of your decision making...choosing what or who you deal with... and then emoting your hurt as to rally people to your side so you can feel validated is immature. People that do this don't see how they wrongfully absolve themselves of self accountability and won't take ownership of their self-destructive behavior patterns.
You're constantly dealing with bullshit? Why? What role do YOU play in the equation? If you're polyamorous why the fuck would you choose to date a monogamous person or vice versa? Wouldn't that be the number 1 red flag that you are incompatible? What I said applies to anyone in any situation. I stopped being an enabler a while ago because it causes more harm than it helps. If a friend comes to me crying I'm known to tell it like it is...you may not want to hear it but you need to hear it.