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The Gendering of Sexual Assault - The Cascade

Recently there has been an upswing in attention paid to sexual assault crimes, and awareness about the nuances of consent. With much attention focused on the issue, it is time to investigate not only the effect on women, who seem to have the bulk of resources given to them, but also how this type of …

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Wow I'm actually shocked that I've been apparently violating FB standards of hate speech????? For this comment as someone mentioned rape culture and that some men don't believe it exists as there is violence on men by men. And I said women can also be violent towards women. So I'm banned from Facebook for 24 hours 😂 what the actual hell? WOW. I am fully aware that the OP was about an event in Australia about Violence against women, which I fully support... But I'm merely highlighting to this person who says Men also are violent towards men, that it works within all genders. Gotta say I'm confused? How does one get into Facebook Jail, is this by someone reporting you? 🤷🤷🤷🤷🤷🤷🤷🤷🤷🤷🤷🤷🤷🤷🤷🤷😍 #Feminism #HateSpeech #RapeCulture #ViolenceAgainstWomen #ViolenceAgainstMen #SolidarityMarch #FacebookJail #Feminist #StopViolenceAgainstWomen #SMH

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Congratulations to Prince of Wales Hospital General Manager Tobi Wilson on taking part in this morning's White Ribbon Walk. Taking a stand against domestic violence, no matter your background, lifestyle or age is so important in our communities. It can affect anyone. #WeWillStandTogether Pictured: Tobi Wilson, Prince of Wales Hospital, Dominic Morgan, NSW Ambulance, Dr Michael Brydon, Sydney Childrens Hospital Randwick, David Dutton, NSW Ambulance #DomesticViolenceAwareness #DomesticViolence #WhiteRibbonWalk #ViolenceAgainstWomen #ViolenceAgainstMen (at Grant Reserve)

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What Happens When Men are the Victims of Domestic Violence?

A couple of weeks ago, the Independent published an article that discussed the problem of domestic violence from the perspective of three men who were violently abused by their partners. David and Daf both sustained injuries and were hospitalized after their female partners attacked them. Both are now living under fear of the aggression they are dealing with and afraid of what their partners might do next. After his partner threatened to kill him if he got another boyfriend, Roberto has suicidal thoughts.

At the same time, the Guardian reported that a woman in the UK, who tried to “boil her husband” by pouring scalding water over him after being told they were “getting divorced”, has been jailed for four years. Ken Gregory, 65, who suffered first and second degree burns to 14% of his body after the assault has scars that have remained one year after the attack. Some of those scars may never fade. A judge ruling on the case said, “The pouring of hot water is the use of a weapon and you clearly intended to injure him, but mercifully his injuries were not more serious.”

These reports got me thinking: when we talk of domestic violence, rape and assault, we primarily think of women being the victims, but the reality is much different. While we can agree thta the majority of such crimes are against women, it doesn’t not end there, nor does it exclude men. Violence against men is a very real problem, something we are only beginning to learn.

Despite violence against men being a very real issue, it is seemingly overlooked. According to the National Domestic Violence Hotline, “more than 1 in 3 women (35.6%) and more than 1 in 4 men (28.5%) in the United States have experienced rape, physical violence and/or stalking by an intimate partner in their lifetime”. If we think 1 in 3 women is a heavy statistic to describe the amount of women experiencing some form of aggressive behavior, we cannot discount the gravity of 1 in 4 men experiencing much of the same. When calculated, the same research shows that nearly half of all women and men in the United States have experienced psychological aggression by an intimate partner in their lifetime (48.4% and 48.8%, respectively). Such statistics are not acceptable and show us the reality of abuse against men. But we do not hear about it and we rarely read about them in the news.

So why does violence against men seem invisible in the grander scheme of things?

In the case of heterosexual partnerships, a part of the problem is due to the fact that people have difficulty understanding how men cannot defend themselves and have to surrender to a woman. In short, people wonder how a man could be violated by a woman when physically speaking, he should be much stronger than. Why does he not push her away? Why can he not use his strength to stop the attack?

Questions like these, as obvious as they seem, are instrumental in making men believe they will not be taken seriously. They silently push them to keep quiet and not report the abuse. If their masculinity is questioned, they are likely not to step forward, not to admit subservience to what is supposed to be a less dominant woman.

Another issue is the fact that all major campaigns focus on women. Granted, women remain the population most affected by domestic violence, but the lack of visibility and publicity for men’s issues makes them feel as though their problems are not real, as though they are the small percentage having this experience, as though it wouldn’t matter to step forward. A good question to ask ourselves is how would we respond if a man came and told us he was being abused?

Would we laugh at him or would we take him seriously? How many of us would tell him to “man up” and teach his partner a lesson? How many of us would tell him to get real and “solve” the problem like a real man?

And what do these words mean? What are we referring to when we ask the man to “man up”? Are we asking him to use his superior physical strength and cause harm to the woman he has decided to not use any violence against? And if so, then what kind of message are we sending to society? We are further contributing to ingraining the gender stereotypes that we should long be distancing ourselves from.

If we accept that violence against women is a serious issue, why are we turning a blind eye to the problem of abused men? If a man hitting a woman is unacceptable then a woman acting belligerent is objectionable as well. Equal rights means equality for all members of society – men, women, and children, irrespective of their sexual orientation, race, age, religion, immigration status or any other cultural differences we can conjure.  If not, we are on our way to creating another bias in this world. We are all entitled to the same justice, the same pay and the same service. Anything less is discriminatory.

If you know a man who needs help getting out of an abusive situation, in the U.S. and Canada: please call Domestic Abuse Helpline for Men and Women at 1-888-7HELPLINE (1-888-743-5754).

This article first appeared on skirtcollective.com

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And i saw this post thinking it was just the girl defending herself. NOPE (I saw a post on tumblr of just a gif set so i googled it)