Headcanon Prompts | Always Accepting
@virarosea What are Bruce's individual relationships with his kids like? How does he perceive each of them? How do they perceive him in return?
I’m glad you asked because I wanted to talk about this given how important his children are to him.
Richard ‘Dick’ Grayson- Richard is the first of Bruce’s adopted children and on one hand there’s a super strong bond because of that. They both went through similar traumas and helped each other grow as people. But as Bruce’s eldest I think unfortunately that also meant Bruce made a lot of mistakes. I think he was harder on him that he should have been when it came to his training and could be extremely hurtful with how cold he could come across at times. So that’s definitely strained their relationship when Richard got older (not even getting into the fact the two have very different wiring in general) but I do headcanon that Bruce addressed his mistakes after Jason died and held himself accountable to how he’s hurt him which helped their relationship a great deal moving forward.
And Bruce just is??? Super proud of Richard???? He’s so impressed with how outgoing he is and how easily he makes friends not to mention for making his own life for himself in Blüdhaven and what he’s accomplished there. Also while I do headcanon Bruce wanting ‘The Bat’ to die with him I think if he had to pass it off to one of his children Richard would be the one because he believes Richard is the only one who could survive and not be broken by that persona.
Jason Todd- While Bruce had learned a great deal with how to parent after Richard that doesn’t mean he was totally prepared for Jason. Richard was rambunctious but also fundamentally a very sweet kid whereas Jason had a lot of troubles that Bruce wasn’t necessarily equipped to handle. And he definitely let his worry about where Jason’s more troubling behavior might lead dictate how he handled him which isn’t great.
That said his loss was devastating for Bruce. So much so I don’t think he intended to adopt again or have another kid. And then to see what Jason became is absolutely heartbreaking especially given Jason’s attitude towards killing. That line is so important for Bruce and not crossing it really defines his morality and sense of self and I think he feels by crossing it Jason is diminishing himself. But even having crossed that line Bruce’s door and arms are always open for him. He also keeps almost obsessive tabs on him since he’s come back and panicked if he loses track of him if even for a few days because he cannot and will not lose him again.
Tim Drake- One of the things I find so interesting about Tim is that with Jason and Richard obviously Bruce’s taking them in comes from this very emotional place. Whereas Tim approached and appealed to Bruce from a more cerebral angle ‘you need a robin’ basically. So I think in some ways Bruce almost interacts with him more as an equal than he does with his two eldest children.
Tim also strikes me as the son who’s most like Bruce in terms of how his mind works so I think he’s also Bruce’s easiest at least for Bruce. He’s constantly impressed by how intelligent Tim is and has no worries about the type of person he may or may not turn out to be. Imao he really should tho.
Cassandra Cain- Okay so while Tim may be similar to Bruce in terms of wiring I think Cassandra is the child Bruce feels closest too. Because she gets what Bruce is about and what The Bat means symbolically and to Bruce personally. So I see Bruce as putting a lot of trust in her and confiding with her in a way he might not with his other kids.
Though that said he’s also extremely protective of her as his only daughter and given her background.
Damian Wang- Let’s start at the beginning, Bruce never expected or planned to have biological children if only because his relationships can be so messy. Talia is also one of the first loves of Bruce’s adult life (the way my headcanon is structured anyway) and I think even though he left her when he left the LoA he still carried a bit of a torch for her for a long time afterwards. But Damian’s very existence feels like a betrayal to Bruce. For one she didn’t tell him about their son until he was at least ten. And second she trained him to be an assassin which goes directly in the face of everything Bruce believes in from a moral standpoint.
Given all that I think Bruce has much stronger emotional reactions to Damian and his antics than are necessarily appropriate. Also not to mention his fear Damian will end up like Jason. So he has very little trust in Damian and keeps him on a much, much shorter leash than he did his other kids but also tries to encourage his love of animals to teach him empathy and to care for other living things.
Though fucked up upbringing aside Damian is still fundamentally a child so I don’t think he really understands why Bruce treats him the way he does especially when compared to Tim and Richard especially. Not to mention his values are radically different given how he was raised in the LoA which puts them at odds more often than not. Though that said I think Bruce will try and explain to Damian when he’s older what it means to not kill, why it’s so important to him and how it came to be important to him. Damian has so much potential and a very good heart underneath everything and Bruce will happily spend everyday of the rest of his life helping him realize that potential.