My QPP's sister was being transphobic after my first time seeing them both in person and was asking my QPP "what are they /really/" and little did she know she was bringing my self esteem up by showing that I pass as nb
Ahh, as someone who tries to present as sort of ambiguously feminine/masculine, I definitely know that feeling. At a school dance once, actually, there were a couple of boys who were like “Here you go... ma’am? Sir? Sirma’am?” and on one hand.... Eugh, okay, maybe not, but also, I couldn’t help but feel pretty smug about it. In my experience, you can still put some shame upon them for the unnecessary gendering and transphobia while also feeling proud about your presentation and how people perceive you.
Being trans is often too great for cis minds to really comprehend, you know?