walls and the illusion of control We can never ultimately control the outcome of a relationship. We can not control the creation or death of love. We can only show up as authentically and vulnerably as possible to stand before the other. Naked and unprotected. So that they may love us in the full truth of our being. We can not hide our true self for long behind a facade of falsehoods and images we believe to be more desirable and ideal. The truth always shows through our cracks in the end. And through this false persona, for whatever reason, we are actually creating a separation between us and the one we desire to connect closer and deeper with. This is a manipulation. We are trying to manipulate the situation to get what or who we want. This counter productivity is self sabotaging and grounded in fear and lack of self love. If we loved ourself enough we wouldn’t be afraid to show our true self. We would be confident in the understanding that we are good enough as we are for this person. That if they do not connect with us, in the end, they really aren’t meant for us anyways. This is what begins to happens when we start surrendering to what is and stop trying to control the outcomes of situations we have no control of in the first place. If we love ourselves in totality we reduce the fear we have of others not loving us and this in turns strengths our ability to open up into our vulnerability completely. Through complete vulnerability we show our shining authenticity and scream out, ”this is me, love me for who I am, or do not, but I will not, I cannot, show you anything other than my true self. Love me for everything I am and everything I am not for I will love you the same." This is unconditional love When we throw down our weapons of defense and shields of protection we surrender to what is and what will be. This is our responsibility, from which we can then enjoy what is truly meant for us. Our divine plan as it unfolds. In this vulnerably we find our strength. We are only responsible to show up honestly and authentically. When we do this our work is done. We have no battles to fight, no castles to defend. Not behind ramparts, walls of stone, or shields of chainmail. We can join our partner on the fields of peace and true connection. There is no battle of love, only choice of the vulnerability to show up in our truth everyday.