Following my previous post, Kar being a nonbinary person portrayed as a cis woman is very interesting in the lens of Falenan politics. Kar's basically stuck in some diplomatic limbo: royal but not, foreigner but not. With some things there is agency, with others there isn't.
It is because she is Ferid's sister and therefore close to the queen that is her political value. Her title of "Lady" is simply an honor with little clout, her only clout being in the Knighthood. (And occasionally representing Ferid/Arshtat in a similar manner that Sialeeds does, but more in secret as she's the Knight's Intelligence officer...)
She can't be married off without her consent and is free to choose her spouse. Though Falzrahm did threaten it in her reign. Kar had enough of her despotism long after the succession crisis and Kar's lack of deference and inability to have any fucks to give at that point almost has her married off to someone's distant cousin to send her to some far flung reach of the queendom and away from the Palace. (Y'know, disregard she was already an established Queen's Knight and involved with a Feitas Dragon Calvaryman living in the far flung reaches of Sauronix at the time, but Falzrahm was a vindictive, paranoid, petty woman...) As such her and Sen (and later Georg) wasn't actually an issue at all. It was more a matter of making sure it didn't effect their duties as Sen was vice-commander of the Feitas Dragon Calvary, and Georg was fellow Knight. (And lucky for them there wasn't any rules about fraternization! Not that it mattered much since in a few months neither one was a Knight anymore...)
As for inheritance, I suspect because she's not ennobled, merely a Knight and a foreigner, Kar is free to follow Obellian firstborn primogeniture. That being said, her children can only inherit what she's brought with her/earned in Falena, inasmuch as she has.
Which is really, her weapons, her plants, her books and her research, her manuscripts, some trinkets she's collected over the years, her clothing. The nobles would have freaked if she was given any form of title and land to develop an income as a foreigner--even though she's a celebrated hero to the country! Nope, she can bleed and die for them... but Sun forbid that she gets a formal noble title and little bit of land to call her own. All her income comes from her stipend as a Knight-- with a little extra being that she's also part of the royal household and needs to afford the additional upkeep of certain things. She has some side income from some side hustles, investments, and gambling, but nothing that could be significant. Enough for maybe a comfortable life outside the palace if needed but crazy money.
Sure, she could technically buy land off one these fuckers that keep screwing her over, but they'd still get a good chunk of her or any hired hand's labor in their pockets. And any trusted nobles, though she liked them, were too buddy buddy with Barows for her liking. Though Rovere was a third, neutral faction until his death. However Kar did dodge a bullet of sorts by not buying land around Lordlake...given in a few years it'd be scorched to dust. So.
Basically, it wasn't any surprise that Kar fucked off back North after the war. Which fair, given she gave up a lot for the country, and all she got was a broken body and (eventually) her late fiancé's dragon horse. She may have seen her father during Arshtat's Coronation and then eight years later the meetup on Nirva, but hadn't seen her mother or any of her other siblings in person in years. She loves her niece and nephew, but at the same time, how much should she have to give up and continue giving to a country that tolerated her at best and saw her as a foreign freak at worst? How much longer was she going to tolerate being in a diplomatic limbo?











