#weddingventures

[luxurybrownbarbie]

I’m sorry, I’m clearly not evolved™ and girlboss™ enough, because my fiancé putting a little extra bass in his voice and defending me against a bunch of soul sucking leeches is quite literally one of the hottest things I’ve experienced. The toxic masculinity really does hit in those instances. Sawri.

[luxurybrownbarbie]

Now why would my aunt ask if I plan on wearing my engagement ring after my wedding? Telling me that wearing it with my wedding band is “disrespectful to my marriage”. Her ass is so infuriating. Can’t stand her.

[luxurybrownbarbie]

How has wedding planning been? What themes are you going for?

Goddddd. I’ve tried to keep my wedding whining to my group chat and like... M and I’s couple’s therapy sessions, but honestly. The actual logistics and everything? Very relaxed, because I just need to get my vision across and the planner and her team do it. The craziest part of all of this is that none of the issues are coming from the two of us, lmao. We’re incredibly high strung and stubborn individuals, and yet.

M was like, “I want to get married in a church in Europe, like all of our friends.” And I was like, “I would rather die, thanks. 👍🏽 I want to get married outside, in a garden, somewhere on the East Coast, like Cape Cod.”

And then we both went, “Well, if it’s more important for you for us to be married in Europe, and it’s more important for me that it’s outside and surrounded by flowers and nature, why don’t we do it outside in Europe?” Compromise. Problem solved.

And then it was like the universe sprinkled insanity powder on our entire extended family. My parents are currently gaslighting me about how much I hate my mother’s side of the family because I refuse to send them a single invitation. I had to bully my mother into understanding that a cathedral length veil is both impractical and way out of place at a garden wedding, outside. His maternal grandmother is annoyed because she feels we aren’t acknowledging her side of the family enough in our locations and traditions. My mother is adamant about inviting her former lover and his wife. Acquaintances are going crazy because I’m having seven bridesmaids and suddenly “I’ve literally known this woman since we were six” is not a good enough reason to invite someone to be a part of your wedding, but “I met you through my fiancé and you invited him to your wedding and not me, even though we’d been together for over 18 months by then,” is a bond for life. 🙂

And also? One of his sisters has gone absolutely balls off the wall insane. Like, trying to usurp my wedding insane. We knew she was legitimately crazy before, and she has specific triggers we Do Not touch, but we didn’t realize a wedding was going to be one of them??? And I don’t know what to make of the fact that she’s doing this while she hates M and their other sister with an intensity that makes we wonder how they all made it through childhood alive. Very concerning!!

Anyway, we’re going for a pretty formal and super traditional theme. It legitimately gives me hives to think about looking at my wedding pictures 20 years from now and seeing a million trends. Timelessness is key. Calligraphy invitations, a lot of flowers (it’s my dream and I’m going to take Claritin every day starting January 1st so I’m not wheezing and crying on the day 😭), classic updo (getting my extensions put back in for this, rip to my hair😭), and we’re going to develop wedding cocktails based off of gin and tonics and espresso martinis, since I was drinking a g&t and he was drinking a cappuccino the night we met. It’s very cute.

How are you doing darling? 💛

[luxurybrownbarbie]

Most of the time I forgo the engagement ring (or similar rings) during the day to be practical/appropriate but don't most places have the wedding band + engagement jewel custom? isn't the latter a more obvious symbol of "im taken" anyway

I wear mine everywhere except working out and the beach (also not in the shower) or anywhere where I feel like I might be robbed.

I don’t know what her deal is, I only know some women choose to only wear their bands because it makes them feel “more mature” (lol.) but I don’t know of any tradition that makes it disrespectful to your marriage to keep your engagement ring on after the wedding. I’m glad she’s not invited, because she’d be giving me hell for wearing it on my right hand like I’m planning to. Annoying lady.