I find it interesting when men / society poses the question to queer women along the lines of "how can another woman give you what a man can?" As if I am unsatisfied with the f/f relationship. After consideration I have come to realise that I have never wanted what a man can give me - and that my set of needs and wants can very much only be filled by a woman. I think that goes for all women who love women - that it's the trait of homosexual tendencies that make the queer relationship of greater or equal value to that of a heterosexual one.
Hey, I’ve been having trouble with self love I was wondering if you have any tips for improving my self love.
Loving yourself is a process that can take a long time, sweet pea. It's like learning a new language, especially if your last language was that of self hatred. But if you work on it every day and show kindness to yourself, you can be taught of your own value. It took me a full year of intense self love (even sometimes fake love) to get where I am and to confidence and happiness, and even i struggle sometimes.
In the mean time, wake up and when you see a mirror, combat your negative thoughts with one positive one. Say in your head "my hair looks nice" or "I have a pretty smile". Something to push down the bad thoughts is better than nothing every time.
Self care is also really important. Making sure you have some vitamins and get enough exercise can do a number on the way you see yourself. Doing a face mask or putting on lotion can also help. Sometimes just taking a shower can clear your mind and help your self love.
Last, just love yourself recklessly. Speak into the world that you are great and deserving of love. Show the universe that even when you make mistakes you love the body and consciousness that you have. At the end of the day, your existence is not irrelevant, and you are made of pure magic. Hang on to that.
Hey all! I'll keep this post brief, but I'm just announcing a little bit of a hiatus for a little bit. I'm putting a hold to requests and for those of you who regularly chat with me, know that I'll probably be on Do Not Disturb mode for a few weeks. I'll probably be taking my asks off anon so I can answer all asks privately. In the past few weeks I've had to deal with a personal death, the death of my nation's greatest King, work /financial stress, and also some personal and medical issues. I want to spend my energy working on finishing existing commissions and working extra hours at my day job in order to pay some upcoming medical and potential counseling expenses. I thank everyone who supports me and understands my need to take a break from social media. I promise everyone that I will be back healthier mentally, emotionally, and physically! 👌
I just wanted to thank everyone who messaged me last week with all the kind words of encouragement. I took a week off from doing artwork, I spent a weekend at a lake with my friends, and I gave myself some time alone to do other things outside of art to recuperate. Things still are rocky for me, but I feel so blessed that I have both friends and strangers who are cheering me on through this rough patch in my life.
I’m going to get back into the groove and try to post more artwork soon, I just needed some time away to remind myself that I shouldn’t let my skills as an artist define everything about who I am as a person, and remind myself that everything takes time to develop and mature, including myself, my career, and my actual art. I apologize for the lack of art and for the delays in shipping out orders, and I’m happy that people understand.
I was tagged by @tikiwiki to show my lock screens. Honestly, what did y’all expect? I’m husband trash, okay?
Gonna tag @summer-of-the-shinx, @loafa, @dark-nohrian-princess, @knickerdoodles, and @supuru and honestly anyone who wants to LOL (let me see your screens~)
it’s 3 am and I’m an emotional wreck right now but like... I need to get this out into the void that is the internet.
Everyone drop everything you’re doing and follow my girl @summer-of-the-shinx okay? Just. Don’t question it, just do it. Follow her on Twitch, watch her play vidya games, give her love and send her nice asks telling her how great of a human being she is okay?
Rest of personal story under cut so as not to take up people’s dash with personal shit they might not care about.
I just... I don’t want to brag or put it in anyone’s faces, because I don’t want the gift itself to be a form of judgement, but like... Penni just got me a limited edition item that I personally couldn’t exactly afford and I just... I’ve been looking at it for days, wondering if I could save up money in time before it ran out, (wondering if I could even justify buying it for myself even when I did get enough money). I casually showed her my interest in it, joking about this unattainable desire, and she just... got it for me!? Like... in 5 minutes??
I didn’t know what to say, just words couldn’t form, and so I called her up and I literally started crying like a child. Like a fucking 12 year old. Even now I’m tearing up thinking about it. It wasn’t the gift. The gift itself was something that while I yearned for, knew in the end I could go living with out it. It wasn’t the fact that I had so deeply wanted this, so much as it was the fact that someone would, without question, do something like this for me.
I’m the sort of person that finds a lot of difficulty in maintaining friendships. I like talking to people, I’m not shy, but friendships carry a lot of weight on me and I value the people in my life a lot. Penni is one of those people I have a lot of affection for. The thing is: the thought never crosses my mind that people might have equal affection for me.
I’ve lived a life of friends, best friends, coming and going, people in my past (friends and family) bullying or taking advantage of me, and parents who care more about getting back at each other than supporting their only child. So, naturally I’m the kind of person who gets extremely happy when someone draws me a doodle, or send me a personal letter in the mail, or gives me homemade brownies. Small compliments on my art make me smile for the rest of the day. So this gesture that was done for me tonight literally brought me to a sobbing mess because I just couldn’t comprehend how someone could be so kind without second guessing it.
Seriously, Penni isn’t like this with just me. She’s an incredibly wonderful, sweet, supportive, caring, and lovely woman who, despite all the shit society and ignorant people throws at her, remains strong and true to herself, and honestly that’s the kind of person I’d like to see in myself some day.
