What are Spike's feelings towards individual members of Buffy's circle? (Willow, Tara etc) Does he prefer some over others?
we all know spike starts out hating everyone. we all know that this changes.
first off, i’m gonna talk about oz. yes, i know, he wasn’t part of the gang at the point where spike gets vamp!neutered and stuff, but what else are headcanons for? the two never become buddies, and probably only ever tolerate each other. it’s potentially due to the natural enemies of werewolf & vampire, but also very much their personalities.
cordelia is another that doesn’t get the interactions when they’re not fighting. he’d have a mixture of low tolerance but also really get a kick out of her sass and bluntness towards the rest of the gang. though he wouldn’t put up with any tossed at himself.
as for xander, the two basically are on tolerable levels, for the most part. hate is a bit too strong of a word for them, but they know each other are important to buffy, hence why they put up with each other. they’d likely kill each other if they had the approval of the others, honestly.
anya is like that little dog. he doesn’t hate her. hell, she’s pretty tolerable and on the side of liking her than anything. sure, she can get on his nerves, but then again, that’s really not hard to do.
tara is someone that spike is a bit impartial to. he’s got nothing to say against her, for the most part. she’s cool, but she’s also not high up on his friends list.
willow he’s got a sort of fondness for. hell, even when he’s trying to kill her after he got chipped, he comforts her; ‘i’d bite you in a heartbeat’. he also has some damn respect for her, knowing she’s a super powerful witch and could easily have him dead without batting an eye.
andrew, the brief time that he was in the gang--sort of-- oh man. andrew annoyed the shit out of him. he literally only tolerated the guy and put up with him because they were trying to save the world
faith, the brief canon interactions with her shows they’re friends that punch the shit out of each other. and honestly in canon divergence, they’re a thing. honestly tho they’re probably the most tight out of the group
giles, oh giles. bickering, mocking, they literally barely put up with each other, but at the same time, they’ve got that whole englishman thing in common. they’ve got some sort of understanding despite the whole vampire & watcher rivalry.
joyce was spike’s favorite for a while. they bonded over passions and even had conversations like he wasn’t a vampire. she treated him like a normal person, and he’ll always appreciate that.
dawn, nibblet. he was super protective of her and really did enjoy her company. he very much was the one wanted dawn to be her own person, never holding her back and never keeping her out of the dark for her own safety. he didn’t see her as just a kid, but just a smaller, younger person who had to grow up too fast in this dangerous world.
and last but not least is buffy. this man went from wanting to kill her to being head over heels with her, which is incredible. the whole show, everything he does is driven by buffy, whether it’s to kill or to kiss her tbh. honestly there’s so much i could write here i don’t know where to start. he goes through so many phases with that girl it’s crazy. he gets his goddamn soul back for her for crying out loud.
needless to say, buffy is his number one preference of the scoobies. he has a fondness for all of the summers ladies, clearly.