I'm older now and I can forgive and overlook alot of things my family has put me thru that couldn't a yr ago.
One thing that I've accepted is that my adhd will never be seen as an actual thing that impacts my life and will always be seen as a state of mind
I no longer hate my mom or hold it against her because I understand that's she's old and set in her ways and it's not all she is
However
It does get to me sometimes
The one thing that always makes me so mad
Is when she tells me that my forgetfulness is a choice. That bugs me so much especially because I've tried to explain to her so many times that forgetting isn't fun for me, it costs me so much, if it was a choice I would never forget anything ever. But it's not, and I literally can't help it
And when I tell her I can't help it she's says I'm not trying and I've just accepted it. ... no? I literally have multiple ways of trying to get around my forgetfulness but they don't always work
I have sticky notes, a white board, lists in my notes app, I msg myself, screenshots, dates on my calendar in my phone and my physical one, I try and record as much as I can because I know I'm forgetful
But I can't exactly record every single thing that was said to me or that I have said, it's impossible.
And then she'll say, just do what I do and repeat it to urself over and over until it gets done.
U think I don't do that as well??? If I'm given instructions do u really think I'm not constantly going over it in my head? But it doesn't. Always. Work.
I dont know what else u want me to do really
Alot of my techniques work for most important things like appointments or assignments. But for small things like instructions, it's so much harder and more likely I'll forget smthn or misunderstand smthn (don't even get me started on misunderstandings I could go feral)
And then when I try to tell her that I literally have adhd, it's harder for me, she throws me with, everybody's a little adhd and u can't keep using it as an excuse
I've had this thing that I do since young and I just wanted to know if it's a nurodivergent thing or if it's just me
So from a young age I always liked growing out my nails for one reason and one reason only, I like how they feel. By that I mean the feeling of it tracing my skin. It's smoooth and it feels nice. So I grow them out and play with my fingers.
Tracing along my hands and feeling the smoooothness. I do this all the time, my hands are never still, if they aren't occupied I'm playing with my nails.
I've never met or seen any1 else that does this and I'm just curious to know if
If we make plans and u need specific details like what time i wake up, how long itll take me to get there, how it'll take me to get ready, what im wearing, whos going with, etc, just ask me
If ur being asked these questions, just answer
Don't make a big thing out of it, ppl ask questions for a reason and they don't need to explain themselves
And no, there's no hidden meaning behind the questions either, like them not wanting to go with, or not wanting to do the thing, or that they don't like u. Trust me. They just need answers
And don't be afraid to ask questions if u need to. Sometimes, we need a little clarification, and it's ok.