right now i am going to speak on something that bothers me. i’ve spoken on it before but i continue to because it bothers me just that much. this notion that one day this person will come along that perfectly understands you, and your love language and someone that just perfectly fits with you. that is wrong. there is a learning curve for everything. you two come from different families, possibly cities, cultures, it’s not gonna be just this fairy tale sold to us on tv. it’s a process. and in this process: learning, adapting, sacrificing, communication, and work are required, from both sides. this same notion also suggests some entitlement. that you are so important and great that someone will come along and learn you. because it’s never “we’ll learn each other”, the posts say “be patient and someone will love you how you need to be”, that’s not the way love works. to love, in essence, is to work—give. not receive. healthy relationships, both parties put in the work to learn each other not someone just learning you and you have this marvelous relationship. that could be why many people are still single and unsuccessful with relationships. you have to invest in people, not what they do for you. learn people not their beneficial function to you. it’s a give and receive, on both ends. if not, it’s simply a dynamic of admiration and fetish which is short lasting. trust the process, do the process, love the process. enjoy the fruits of your labor after. you can’t microwave a steak.