Yeah it should be a last resort
But some kids need it (some more than others). I tried everything under the sun (exempting drugs) to get my toddler to do what I know he understands I want him to do i.e. pick up his toys, pee in the potty, be polite, and eat his food, all things he was doing perfectly until the level of praise changed.
When I brought the praise levels up it was already much to late to fix things that way and make them the way they were before. I tried talking to him, bribing him with candy, hugging and kissing, even ignoring his bad behavior in hopes that he’d get bored with throwing tantrums and saying “no” to me.
It wasn’t until I fell back on what worked for me growing up (getting my bad little butt spanked) that he started straightening up and flying right.
He now eats his food, picks up his toys, and does all the things he used to do before he suddenly decided he didn’t have to do it any more. Yeah he pokes out his lip and whines about it allot, but he does what he’s supposed to do. He doesn’t play on the stairs, he doesn’t eat things he finds on the ground, or stomp on ant hills, spanking didn’t explain to him why these things weren’t okay, but it did teach him that it’s not a good idea to do those things, he will learn why he shouldn’t do those things when he masters his ability to conjugate and master the basics of English. It taught him that there are consequences to his actions. Spanking my kid makes him think twice about doing things that could potentially harm him or any one/thing else.
“Well I don’t have to spank my kid and s/he is well behaved” well that’s lovely, but not all kids are like yours. Not all kids poses the same since of right and wrong, not every kid has the same attention span or sugar intake/deprivation. All kids are different and the fact that YOUR child specifically doesn’t need a flip flop to the butt doesn’t mean others don’t.
“Spanking children is wrong and causes physical and mental damage. You’re a horrible parent”
1). You may have “spanking” and “beating” and “abuse” all grouped together in ways they don’t belong. Abuse/beating is when you’re excessively punishing a child weather it be for a “good reason” or not, often leaving bruises or scars or brain damage (basically things that would actually harm them). Spanking is a quick 123 tap to get a child’s attention and show them that what they are doing isn’t going to be allowed.
2). Mental abuse? I was spanked as a child and I’m just fine (but I suppose that’s not enough to argue with) just look up the statistics and ask people you know/ don’t know about how they were disciplined as a kid. You’ll find that those two sources will tell you that spanking is NOT a key factor in the development of metal illness, abuse is. Also you’ll find that a great majority of the people you know that were spanked as kids are just fine too.
“How would you like to be spanked?! Maybe you forgot how it feels!” Lolz! Are you kidding? That’s how my kid was born. I love a good spanking! But that’s not the point. I’m an adult now, adults have a system of punishment and it’s called tickets, fines, probation, jail, getting slapped or beat up, illness as a direct result of the bad things we did, and just feeling really bad about the things we do is sometimes the worse punishment. As adults we still get punished for not abiding by rules, adding spanking to that list isn’t a big deal (especially in comparison to existing adult punishments and the fact that spanking is a kinky fetish that a lot of adults enjoy. if you don’t believe me, well, you’re only a google search away from understanding).
Spanking isn’t for every one, it’s just what works for me. I hope that every one finds the time and is blessed with the patients to try alternative ways to get their little ones to behave. I’d love to live in a world where children don’t need to be tapped.
