the jellybean monologues

a different opinion for each color and bean

[tamlamusette]

"Life's short. Drive fast and leave a pretty corpse."

Stanley from the hit television series "The Office" 

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Truth or Dare Challenge

Hey Fellow Muses and Musettes, 

Have you ever told a small white lie and it turned out to be this big thing or just a fairytale to get out of doing something? Share it but don't incriminate yourself! Take the Truth or Dare Challenge! At the end of your post just #truthordarechallenge! Let's see who has the juiciest and funniest story! Until next time!

Stay Sweet and Kind, 

MissMusette

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Is Honesty The Best Policy in a Relationship?

We all have told little white lies to protect people's feelings. But when it comes to relationships, is honesty the best policy? 

In most healthy relationships, both parties are looking for their partners to be totally honest with them about everything. Since we are all humans, we know that telling the truth all the time is near to impossible. (And if you are one of the rare breed of human reading this and never told a lie, kudos and handclaps to you! :0)) Anyway, one of the major reasons for a break up or divorce is lying. Whether you cheated with another person or withheld crucial information about whatever it was, the point is this; You lied. But it's not the big lies that I am referring to. I am talking about the little white lies. For example, if you read your boyfriend's text messages off of his phone and he asked you if you did it out of suspicion, would you lie just to keep the relationship on smooth sailing? Things of that nature.

Some people (myself included), cannot handle being lied to. For me, I think that it is an insult to my intelligence and I feel that the person who is lying to me doesn't respect me enough to tell me the truth. There may be many of you out there who do not understand this logic, but let me give you a little story to help you understand my side of things. 

Just recently, I had a situation where a friend lied to me. I wanted to buy my friend something. At the time, I couldn't afford to get it so I told my friend that when I had the money I would get it later. A week later, my friend tells me that they found the item at a cheaper price. I had the money, so I asked my friend if they wanted the money to go get for themselves or did they just want to wait? They told me not to worry about it. Minutes later, I see my friend had already bought the item and they spoke to me as if they hadn't. I was very upset and hurt because I felt that they should have been honest with me and told me they couldn't wait or they just wanted to get it for themselves and I could buy them something else instead. My friend thought that they were protecting my feelings because I didn't have the money and so they were just going to get it anyway. 

I think that honesty is the best policy. We must always treat others they we would expect to be treated in return. The guy in question and I haven't been together in years but you can bet that I learned a lot and grew from that relationship. The most important thing I learned from that experience was to be honest because it hurts to be deceived. 

Stay Sweet and Kind, 

MissMusette

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******Friendship Can Be a One Way Street******

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***The Mouth vs. The UpperCut***

I am more than positive that everyone has see the video with the young woman getting assaulted by the bus driver. Let me express my sentiments before I drop knowledge...

When I first watched the video, I honestly thought wow..here is another situation where some ghetto girl is running her mouth so prove a point i.e. tough, "she goes hard"; whatever her deal was. As I continued to watch, I did not expect to see what I saw next. My mouth dropped. I might have even expelled a tear because that uppercut hurt me and I wasn't even there! 

Time to Kick Knowledge: 

In no shape, form, or fashion am I condoning nor will I ever condone a man physically assaulting a woman. I don't care how much crap comes out of her mouth, as a man, just walk away. HOWEVER....this was clearly not the case in this particular situation. This young woman was disturbing the peace on the bus and disrespecting the bus driver. To be honest, the driver was not focused on the road but he was focusing on her and thusly, impacting the safety of the other patrons. Now, I witnessed this woman verbally threatening the driver and he reciprocated the threats as well. Then the young woman puts her hands on the driver. We can not say that she punched or hit or anything but whatever she did was enough for him to stop the bus and knock her to next Tuesday! Many of my friends and acquaintances have agreed that in this instance, the young woman was wrong. She was clearly the aggressor and some might add that she got what she deserved. Here is the unbiased truth and reality. Both parties were equally wrong. The bus driver was wrong for using excessive force on the young woman. He even admitted that he didn't care that she was a woman and because her actions dictated that she was masculine and therefore justified his reaction. It is easy to conclude from his actions that he has no problem abusing women. Could this behavior be normal for him? Who is to say? As for the young woman, there were so many things wrong with what she did. She verbally and physically assaulted the bus driver and endangered the lives of others. What gets me is, after he beat her up she decides now would be a good time to play victim. NOOOOO! In some sick way, the bus driver was right when he stated if you act like a man expect to get treated like one. By siding with the driver it is only his statement not what happened after he said this. Ladies, stay in your place, stay graceful and sweet as God has made you. If this young woman felt that the driver was disrespectful in anyway, she could have just reported him and vice versa the bus driver could have easily called the police and removed her from the bus.

This video is a disgrace to our society. As SpokenReasons, a YouTube phenomenon and sensation stated, "Rosa Parks got kicked off the bus so that you can stay on the bus". 

Stay Sweet and Kind,

MissMusette

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Accepting the “Baby Mama” or Baby Daddy

Since the beginning of relationship time, we all have entered intimate situations with baggage. Whether the baggage is emotional or mental, in some shape form or fashion, it has impacted our significant other. In today’s world of relationships many of us are have physical manifestations of ourselves in which we call children; another type of baggage that most are willing to accept. With that being said, more often than most the children are not the issue. The main baggage is the other part of the parental equation: that infamous baby mama or baby daddy. Many times when you are dating as a single parent whether we want to admit it or not we are in a relationship with three people: the child of your significant other, the person you are dating and the child’s other parent. There are times where one might feel that the baby mama for this example is what people call now a “hater” and will do anything to sabotage the relationship due to their own insecurities within themselves or contempt for the past lover in which you have attained. There are times where the baby daddy in this example will be completely genuine and want to have a relationship with the new man in your life. But no matter the situation, if you accept your significant other and their child or children you must always acknowledge and respect the other parent. As much as you hate to admit the fact that this person was capable to love someone before you, the reality is: it happened but they are with you now and that’s all that matters. So be optimistic and open to the Baby Mama/Baby Daddy other person in their life. Try to have a mutual respect and adult relationship into which you can discuss the child/children; unless circumstances permit you from doing so. Always be the bigger person and don’t over step your boundaries with their child unless the three of you have discussed certain responsibilities or privileges that are privy to you.

Stay Sweet and Kind, 

 MissMusette

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Settling for "Wifey"

How many times have you heard a man entitle his significant other "Wifey"? But what exactly does this term mean? According to urbandictionary.com Wifey means the following; 1. A REAL Lady, Not your only but your favourite, different from them hood rat chicks. Sexy in everyway possible, when she smiles it's sexy, even when she's mad at you it's sexy. 2. a girl you care a lot about, she's more than just your girl. 3. A woman that you treat right, respect and feel good having her as your girl. Wife material.

With these definitions, it can clearly be concluded that women are placed at a status in which they are in a pseudo-committed relationship. Why is our generation so accepting of these relationships that do not involve marriage or any type of family life? Is it because our generation has suffered from the "broken home" syndrome and family life was not an example? Or could it be that society has desensitized us as a generation that marriage is not necessary to be happy. What ever the issue is, men and women a like are procreating, establishing families, becoming "engaged" or rewarded a ring but there is no legalization in their union. Are we settling for Wifey or Hubby status? Recently, I did a podcast with the one and only Monika Pearson who is the author of Doodlebugdiaries.com and we discussed this in great detail. Tune in to carriemusette.podbean.com and tell us what you think!

Tamla Musette

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"Life is like a ocean at times..too deep for some to understand." -Tamla Musette

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Is Online Dating for you?

Recently, I finished an experiment with a friend that explores the world of online dating. You will be surprised that the things people are looking for and who people portray themselves online. In our research, we found people that wanted to have sex with pregnant women, there were men that dressed up in speedos and wanted to clean your house while you ordered them around. We even found the gentlemen that felt they were a catch (they really weren't anything to write home about)! In a recent interview I conducted with my friend, I asked her is online dating crippling our generation from actual interpersonal dating. We deliberated the pros and cons but the question still remains, can you have chemistry online or is it true that chemistry needs to be physical. Here is an article that I read that I found very interesting: 

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/08/23/dating-virtual-world-online_n_934064.html?1314119919#s336246&title=Matthew_Heick_and

tell me what you think. 

Tamla Musette

[to-young]

“I have tattoos, so I’m a trouble maker. I have curves, so I’m fat. If I wear makeup, I’m fake. If I say what I think, I’m a bitch. If I cry some times, I’m a drama queen. If I have guy friends, I’m a slut. If I stand up for myself, I’m mouthy. Seems like you can’t do anything nowadays without being labeled. So what, go ahead and label me, see if I give a damn…”

[bubblywubblydubbly]

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thedietriot:

Yes thank you!! I have been looking for a great workout for the pesky Muffin Top! 

[peetaah-blog]

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OMG ROTFLMBO! Hilarious

letsplayroulette:

peetaah:

Best Nicki Minaj impersonation. 

lol funniest thing ive seen in a while

lmfaooo shit just made me cry hahaha

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Loving Someone Even When They've Hurt You

Have you ever been in a relationship where you've loved someone unconditionally and it was not reciprocated? Then you find out that the person that you loved was totally not the person you thought you knew? It's devastating to learn that you may have been in this type of relationship. In your point of view, everything was fine and chemistry was great. In your mind, things were going well because there were talks about marriage and moving in together and then... Things changed. On his side, he claims, "I wasn't ready," or "It was too fast." So when the air clears, and all the emotions and dirt are in the atmosphere, you are filled with so much hurt and resentment. So how do you move on in life or to the next relationship without all the baggage? It takes a really strong person to just let go of all the hurt and pain that someone else has caused you. More often than most, space and time away from the person in violation of your heart. Find things that make you happy like hanging out with your friends or practicing your religion, exercise or even going to the movies by yourself. A wise person once told me that there is no reason to hold to someone or the pain that someone has caused you because at the end of the day you cannot change what they did or said. Move on with your life because they will need you before you will need them.

Stay Sweet and Kind,

 MissMusette ;0)

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Quote of the day: "People fear death even more than pain. It's strange that they fear death. Life hurts a lot more than death. At the point of death, the pain is over. Yeah, I guess it is a friend."

http://www.quotesandpoem.com/quotes/listquotes/author/jim-morrison

[kooley-high]

Reblog if people say you don't look your age.

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all the time . 

[dreamsandecstacy]

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two of my absolute FAVORITE people !

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Yes!

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"Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free." -Jim Morrison

http://www.quotationspage.com/search.php3?Search=&Author=Jim+Morrison&C=coles&C=lindsly&C=poorc&C=net&C=devils&C=contrib