WildWomen, WiseWomen & Witches - A new paradigm for Maiden, Mother & Crone
I run a small private group on FB with adjacent sites at IG & YouTube on the Feminine Divine - A safe space for women moving forward during a lot of cultural change. The following essay was written for my previous Patreon by the same name. I hope you enjoy
Maiden, Mother & Crone
The times are changing… with the growing awareness of the spectrum that IS gender, the range and diversity of expression, the many colorful and unique voices that are part of our humanity, it is time to reevaluate in our ongoing effort to Restore the Goddess,
some of the more traditional forms perhaps needing a bit of an update to evolve into a more inclusive and embraceable form of the Feminine Divine.
I have spoken to many women over the decades who have expressed great dissatisfaction with the Great Goddess archetypes of Maiden, Mother and Crone. From discussion on the fact that a Maiden does not mean virgin, to the ageism that is intrinsic in the form of the Crone to the feminist movements of the 70s that exalted the independent woman, not for her womb, but for her intelligence and power and to many other patriarchal nomenclature we can no longer embrace.
It might be a time for a deeper dive into this concept and new ways to embrace the concepts represented. For quite some time, I have chosen agrarian terms to express this 3-Fold Goddess… with the sprout of a plant being the maiden, the bloom or fruit of a plant being the mother and the seed itself, in the dark earth, the crone. This is a really
lovely way to approach the energies of the Goddess, but more importantly, we must examine the various thresholds that are part of our feminine experience, expressed in divine form.
We are WildWomen, WiseWomen and Witches…
Maiden:
I think of the Maiden archetype as ripe with youth, empowered by passion and dancing precariously on a precipice of life & death… challenging mortality with an independent spirit, self-assured and maybe even cocky, with a deep connection to Nature that will
remain throughout her days. She is like Diana of the Forest and a sister of the Dryads, fierce and untamed. She is a WildWoman, young and with lots of energy, driven by a rather naïve sentiment retained from childhood, but coming face to face with her own power…the New Witch just beginning to blossom on her path and deepen her connection with herself by connecting to nature. She is the seed of the WiseWoman and will hold fast all the experiences of this time in her life as they inform her future. If you are in the Maiden phase, how you relate to the Mother or Crone (Blossom and Seed, Young Woman and Mature Woman) will be different in these years… The Mature Woman will be a mother or a mentor and the Crone will be an elder who perhaps you have been taught to respect, or have chosen to honor because of a special connection, like a grandmother or teacher.
Mother
Mother…We must never allow this role to be devalued. Being a Mother, bearing a child is a phenomenal and life-changing experience. As a single mom, I have great respect for the responsibility that comes with this and as the daughter of an amazingly spiritual woman, I am thankful for how I have been ‘mothered’, but just like me, my mother was a woman first. And not every woman chooses to be a mother. That does not make her any less of a woman. This is the one ‘concept’ within the 3-Fold Goddess that has become the most problematic, at least at this moment in time. How many young, fertile women hear
“when are you going to have a kid”? OR “when are you going to settle down and start a family”. These are patriarchal remnants of a cultural fabric that is unravelling, so it is incumbent on us to weave a new and stronger tapestry that honors women as autonomous, unique and sacred beings.
So, how do we redesign? Blossom for Mother is a simple start, but let’s examine the period of life that Motherhood encompasses. I use the term ‘mature’ woman because she is no longer an ingenue’. She has experiences under her belt that make her wiser, more discerning, but perhaps not yet free or even finished with patterns and habits that
inhibit her growth. She has greater resources, more refined desires and hopefully, a strong support system not only of family, but other strong and confident women. I think of Hera and Brigid, but also of figures like Mary Magdalene and the Goddess Sophia, perhaps the most supernal expression I know of Feminine Wisdom besides Shekinah.
The Mother is the ‘Presence’ of the Goddess, comprised of the experiences of her youth while shaping the events of her future, preparing for a time when life will slow down, her
responsibilities will diminish and the body will need more rest.
As someone who is knocking on the door of the Crone (delightfully so, I might add) how I now relate to those in their ‘Sprout’ or seedling phase as more than one generation removed, as the ‘younger generation’ to whom we must provide as much support as we
can. As I leave this sense of ‘mother’ albeit raising my grandchild, I see more with the eyes of the Crone…
As a mature woman, I engage with the Goddess much differently than I did as a young woman. Then, she was the Great Mother Isis and the Independent Goddess Diana… I looked up to Her, sought Her guidance. Now, I think of Isis as my sister. It was actually a very natural development. When I work with Hekate, I go to Her Hearth, sit beside the fire for a spell and converse with Her as if She was my older and wiser sister….
Crone
And now, when I work with the Crone, I see a true WiseWoman, shaped by her experiences and allowing life to flow gracefully and eternally, awakening to worlds not only beyond death, but beyond time, space, perspective…. The Crone is the Elder, the Sage, the Seer, the Shaman, the WiseWoman in the Woods. Her knowledge is buried deep in the earth, where the seed of ‘All-Potential’ lies dormant from one season to another, always part of the cycle… what must it be like beyond this dimension? Does the same cycle apply?
So The Great Goddess is all these things… She is Maiden, Mother, Crone, Daughter, Sister, Lover…. Provider, Savior, Destroyer….
I encourage you to start embracing a more inclusive paradigm, not just the politically correct terms, but the ones formed in compassion and empathy for all human life. That is why I chose Sprout, Blossom and Seed. My Blossom is fading, but the seeds that will result will help create a new generation of love and hope.