that white gaze

The posts here are dedicated to supporting and encouraging the process of decolonizing ourselves and therefore allowing our full selves to unapologetically take up space! // Email: [email protected] // Check my sidebar full of content filters for easy-reach: browse tools for decolonization, submit your story, and more. // I look way better and am easier to use on a browser on a computer ;0) 

[thatwhitegaze]

Let Nina Simone soothe you. A big, warm, musical hug. 

[remcatt]

He's asked, how is abstract art political? @6:00

[thatwhitegaze]

"It messes with you."

[spiritroots]

Hoodoo is..

Hoodoo isn’t voodoo. Hoodoo isn’t a racist stereotype. Hoodoo isn’t the commercialization of black culture.

Hoodoo is sweetening and souring, crossing and uncrossing, 

drawing and banishing, domination, fixing, 

conjuring, candle reading, casting candle spells, jar spells, 

petition papers, hot foot tracks, war water, mojo bags, 

and nkisi bottles, but the Hoodoo itself can’t be bottled up…

Hoodoo isn’t just a certain set of magical techniques.

Hoodoo is becoming a tree whisperer, speaking to the plants, the trees, the herbs, the dirt, the roots.

Hoodoo is remembering those little traditions your auntie or your pops taught you when you were a kid, and realizing they have so much power.

Hoodoo is making do with whatever ingredients you can afford between paychecks so that you can get more paychecks.

Hoodoo is our silence when we’re listening for the whispered guidance of ancestors, spirits, or deities to teach us our path.

Hoodoo is reclaiming agency by cursing those who seek to take our power, our pride, and our self-determination away.

Hoodoo is following in the footsteps of our enslaved ancestors, in awe of their strength and in remembrance of their pain.

Hoodoo is tuning into our DNA and channeling black magic of the diaspora.

The magic isn’t just how we do it,

The magic is us.

Keep reading

[thatwhitegaze]

trigger warning: trauma, physical, emotional abuse, abandonment, fatherhood, motherhood. 

[breeananykole-deactivated202104]

to the women that can water themselves and still pour into others, i love you.

[remcatt]

Also, look at the books behind them! :-o

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[dillings]

[cockroach-queer]

Some things it is A-OK to say to your doctor:

No

Wait

Stop 

(These are full sentences! You do not need to say any more) 

I am not comfortable. 

I am not comfortable, I would like… 

you to wait a moment.

another person in the room. 

everyone else out of the room. 

a doctor/nurse of my same gender to preform this test/procedure. 

the person who came with me to this appointment in the room. 

you to explain everything before you begin. 

you to tell me what you are doing as you go. 

to do this another day. 

I want to get a second opinion before we proceed.

I don’t understand, please repeat that. 

I don’t understand, please explain more simply. 

Please say that slower/spell that, I want to do some research myself.

I would like to talk to [someone in my life, ie my parents to SO] before making this decision. 

No, I do not need to talk to [anyone] before making this decision, I am confidant on my own and am ready to proceed. 

What are the side effects of this medication/procedure? What are the potential complications? 

Why are you recommending/prescribing this specific thing? 

What other treatment options are there? Why are you choosing this?

Would your treatment plan be different if I were a man/woman older/younger had kids, etc? Why are you choosing this one then?

IS there anything I should know about this treatment you have not yet told me?  

I understand you say not to, but If I choose to do X, against medical advice, what risks am I running? (ie taking recreational drugs while on medication)

How much will this cost? 

Are there any less expensive options/tests we can run first? 

Is there a generic of this medication you can prescribe instead?

I think you are not understanding me, I said…

You are not listening to me, please let me finish describing my symptoms. 

You are not understanding how much pain I am in, let me clarify… 

I do not think it is anxiety/depression/my weight/etc, what else could it potentially be? 

I think by assuming it is anxiety/depression/my weight/etc you are ignoring some symptoms. Please listen again and let’s discuss what else it could be. 

Please write in my chart that you are not testing for X and why not. 

I am in enough pain/this is detrimental enough to my life that non-treatment is not an option. If you can not treat this/figure out what is wrong, to whom can you refer me?

Please write (or help me write) a summary of what we did today so I don’t forget 

What are our next steps? 

If [what you are recommending] is ineffective, what would my next steps be? What other doctor should I talk to? 

What is the best way to contact you if I have additional questions or issues? 

Remember, a doctor is a person YOU pay because they know a lot about bodies in general, to help you figure out whats best for YOUR body. It is still your body, not theirs! They know about medicine but you are the expert in your body. Don’t let them act like they own you. Don’t leave if you’ve still got questions, don’t stay if you’re uncomfortable, and feel free to insist on ANY information you want. 

[enbyriot]

To help add to this, doctors want you to say these things. We are on another wave of future physicians and nurses who are becoming more and more emapthetic, kind, and better at overall patient care.

We need you to explain to us what you want, what you don’t want, what you need explained, what you’re afraid of, etc. because the whole reason we got into this was to help people.

Your voice matters in medicine. Your health is more valuable to us than anything and if your physician is acting like it isn’t, leave them.

You deserve nothing less than amazing care. It doesn’t matter who you are. As long as you are in existence and able to recieve medicine, you deserve the upmost respect and top tier care.

[nayyirahwaheedpoems]

[30-minute-memes]

Myth: Trans rights are not human rights

Status: BUSTED

[30-minute-memes]

This is a real tweet btw

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50 compliments that have nothing to do with appearance @theconsciouskid

[thatwhitegaze]

[diversemovies]

A video showing Wong Kar-wai’s influence on Barry Jenkins, with side-by-side comparisons of Moonlight with In The Mood For Love, Days Of Being Wild, and Happy Together.

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[thatwhitegaze]

sometimes, it’s an ocean that can heal you. 

if the ocean can calm itself, so can you. we are both salt water mixed with air.

—Nayyirah Waheed