Someone from my local scene makes me very uncomfortable, despite many no’s. There are things said or happened that, taken independently, are ok but combined, I think make him a predator. I’m vocal w/ leaders in the scene & they recommend a direct message setting boundaries. I don’t want him to contact me & I’ve blocked him. I fear he will gaslight me when I send that even if I knew what to say. What should I say to set a boundary scene leaders can see & enforce?
Hey there
Rather than making it a list of reasons why (Which would potentially give him that opportunity to gaslight) I would recommend simplifying it to revoking personal consent.
By this I mean, in a message rather than in person - you could write out that for personal reasons, you withdraw consent for interaction from this individual. Then wish them the best, and reblock.
Be sure to screenshot/forward this message so that you can show the leaders of your local group the clarity of your consent/lack thereof. If he approaches you again in person, he is directly violating your clear limits.
This puts the leaders in a valid position to take action against this member of the group, for the safety of yourself and others.
Consent violators don’t get second chances.
All the best,
💠Kitten💠












