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"Why" by Bob Flanagan

It never occurred to me before my last breakup that a broken heart meant not being able to feel like it used to.... literally broken as in not working.

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requested by deiraxinhui

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Bronze Fortuna Roman, 2nd century CE Christie’s Sale 14231

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Reblog Fortuna for good luck.

Reblog at the Summer Solstice for extra luck.

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Difficult People 3x02 “Strike Rat”

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Agree or disagree: adult (18+) virgins fall into one of two categories. 1. Those who are making a conscious choice to abstain and 2. Those who have no qualities that make them sexually desirable (bad looks+bad personality+low social status)? Explain your answer.

Um, teacher, is this due Tuesday right after the holiday? I think I need an extension. I don’t even remember signing up for Incel Logic 101, and now there’s homework due?!?!

But anyway, disagree:

1. The average age of first sexual intercourse in the US is only a little under 18. That means almost half of 18-year-olds are virgins, and the vast majority of them will go on to have sex at some point. (And from extensive anecdotal experience I can tell you there are a lot of people who don’t get any in high school but things change big-time after graduation.) It’s hardly the Age Of No Return.

2. Some people aren’t choosing to abstain, but are also not rushing into things. Like they want to be in a long-term relationship, or it’s taking them a while to find someone they feel really attracted to or really comfortable with.

3. Looks, personality, and social status are all subjective and changeable. (Social status in particular is really situational. It’s not like people in a new social group, or on Tinder or whatever, can sniff your butt and find out whether or not you were popular in high school.) And if you can improve even one of them, you’ll be able to find people who are pretty forgiving about the other two. It’s not helpful to think of these things as fixed qualities.

4. Say you’re right, then what? What are you trying to prove exactly? That the world is unfair and tragic? It kind of is, in certain ways, but it doesn’t help much to convince yourself or anyone else that you’re doomed by unfair tragedy at age 18.

5. Christ, that’s so young. You could at least cut it off at 35 or something, when people might have had a chance in the world. Really can’t stress enough, as an Old Person, how ridiculous it is to treat 18 as the age when people’s genitals might as well dry up and fall off. 18 is barely starting at life! Give it a damn minute!

the-princesshoneybee

I was 20 when I had sex. I had some non penetrative play at 19, but by 18 I had only done kissing and a little groping.

I wasn't as successful at dating in adolescence as I would have liked, but I wasn't a total strikeout. I did have a number of unrequited crushes.

I also wasn't saving myself for marriage. I was from a generation that came of age during the height of the AIDS crisis, and we were scared. I guess I had some vague notion of waiting for a variety of reasons. But most of all, I wasn't ready.

I had a minor freak out after making out with my first boyfriend. It was overwhelming. That's all. I just needed more time to process it.

Believe me, I've more than made up for lost time. Sometimes late bloomers turn out to be the freakiest ones on the block.

Not everyone needs to have sex by 18. And they don't have to be devoted to abstinence til marriage to make that decision. It might just be that they haven't met the right person yet. Going away to college was definitely the big catalyst for me, as I'm sure it is for many young people. Those years of maturity in between are significant.

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Tallahassee Democrat, Florida, March 7, 1927

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nice idea: my fingers in ur mouth as ur desperately trying to get urself off on my leg. my hand on ur throat to quiet ur whining.

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NOT BEING PHYSICALLY ATTRACTED TO SOMEONE IS A VALID REASON NOT TO DATE THEM

Not being physically attracted to someone is a VALID reason not to date someone. You should be attracted to the person for their mental as well as physical aspects. You don’t HAVE to date someone ONLY because you like them as a person. Yall can be friends.

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AND not being physically attracted to someone isn’t an excuse to be an asshole to them. There’s a difference b/w being “I don’t wanna date you ‘cause I’m not attracted to you personally, but ik other ppl will/do find you attractive” and “You are ugly as fuck lol why would you even ask”

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I think this post is important. I’m never offended when someone isn’t attracted to me because of my physical appearance, I am however crushed when they use it as a reason to mistreat me. I’m fat. I know I’m fat. You don’t have to want to fuck me, but you will treat me like a human.

the-princesshoneybee

It's totally a valid reason, and for some people it's not as important. Some people are ace or demi and enjoy romantic relationships without a physical component. Some people have specific attractions and some people have broad interests. It's never ok to be an asshole, but saying only underwear models are fuckable is a really narrow space to live in that reflects a desire for social status more than it does a realistic sexual desire.