If it happened at all, it happened like that

Scatterbrain. Bi. She/Her. Certified Grown Up™. This is not a consistent blog. AO3: BeautifulSoup Runner of many sideblogs: @stedebonntits / @speakingskies

[sealssometimes]

Rock

[dogpuppy]

[cannibalchicken]

[julie-su]

[anxietyproblem]

[zero-two-ten]

this site has one setting

[jenroses]

I’m laughing, but there’s a super useful corollary, which my husband calls “the Red Balloon.” He was a defense lawyer and had a fair number of drug addicts come through, and there is a thing where if you’re like, on your first offense, they’ll do a thing where you can go to treatment and if you complete it they’ll take the conviction off your record.  And he would tell his clients, “Look, everyone’s going to tell you not to do drugs. They’re going to say it over and over again. And it’s like, if people tell you not to think of a white elephant, you’re going to think of a white elephant. But the trick to not thinking about a white elephant is to think of a red balloon. So you need to find your red balloon. For some people it’s yoga. For others it’s woodworking. For some people it’s scrapbooking or gardening or any of a long list of things to do. They focus on that, it’s a lot easier to succeed in ignoring the white elephant.” So yeah, “watch yourself” is one thing… but the better idea is to watch something else. (Even if it’s fanfic about werewolves fucking.)

It’s a form of productive dissociation, and is super, super helpful. It’s easy for me to get bogged down in how much pain I’m in… but some of the most painful periods of my life have also been the most productive, writing-wise, because writing is one of my red balloons. 

[kittydorkling]

There is a phrase I use A LOT in my parenting and my son gets very sick of it, but it’s true:

The thing you practise is the thing you get good at.

You may not intentionally be practicing “being grumpy” but if you don’t put effort into practicing “not being grumpy” then I’m afraid that’s what you’re doing. It’s hard! It’s really hard! Sometimes, for some things, it’s pretty much impossible and that sucks!

But being carefully aware that you are going to get good at the things you do most of is a good way to be more careful of what those things are. If that makes sense.

[bogleech]

You gotta appreciate sometimes how tumblr works in such a way that everyone who wants to reblog this interesting or useful psychological advice is also forced to reblog the thing about werewolf fucking

[can-i-make-image-descriptions]

[Image IDs: Image #1: Tweet from Seneca (@/ CryptoSeneca) on 15/01/2019 reading: Easy to spot a yellow car when you are always thinking of a yellow care.

Easy to spot opportunity when you are always thinking of opportunity.

Easy to spot reasons to be mad when you are always thinking of being mad.

You become what you constantly think about. Watch yourself.

Image #2: Tumblr tag reading: #hm. time to constantly think about getting fucked by a pack of werewolves. /End IDs]

[thesunnahthebetter]

they should normalize saying "I'm thinking of you fondly but don't have much to say and frankly I don't even really want to talk rn but you have appeared in my thoughts and it's nice"

[knitmeapony]

FWIW with IRL people I send a postcard or a greeting card. I doodle some flowers or a lil UFO or a cat or something and basically say this. "Was just thinking of you and it makes me smile, hope your life is good."

[tranarchist]

I love this because like 99% of this kind of paleoart is patriarchal Man the Hunter type fantasies but these guys are just like “fuck it we’re outta here”

[musiclovingmoth]

we have not changed.

[bigmickswingin]

The Flight Before The Mammoth. Paul Jamin. 1885

Behind The Scenes Of National Geographic. Teodor Vladimorov, Brandon Smith. 2011. read more

[cecilias-cool-stuff]

Never stop hating

[ofswordsandpens]

surely there has to be another option between "churning out 20-episode seasons every year and the actors never see their family or friends and don't have time to do any other job and hate the show at this point" and "maybe you'll get 8 episodes every 2 to 4 years :)"

[fidelcostco]

can't believe the only options are 30 minutes early or 10 minutes late. if only there were some other way. but what can you do

[mushroom-soup-is-my-religion]

[somafalls]

[random-brushstrokes]

Rupert Bunny - Sunbath (ca. 1915-1916)

[dramaticpokemonpictures]

Rest in peace Akihiro Miwa (1935-2026)

I haven't seen anyone talking about this and just wanted to make a quick post on here.

Akihiro Miwa recently passed away peacefully june 20th, and was not only a drag queen and a queer icon, but also the japanese voice of Arceus in the movie Arceus and the jewel of life, as well as the witch from Howl's moving castle and Moro from Princess Mononoke.

Rest in peace and thank you for the wonderfull impact you made in this world.

[ispyspookymansion]

did you do anything gay and or trans to celebrate pride month this year

yes

no

Remaining time: 9 hours 29 minutes

decide the nuance of your answer for yourself this is your call

[ispyspookymansion]

can more losers reblog this please where are my fellow No’s

[screenshotsofdespair]

[ominous-signs]

Official ominous sign

[haveyoureadthisbook-poll]

Have you read The Fountains of Silence by Ruta Sepetys (2019)?

yes

no

I didn't finish it

I've never heard of it

Remaining time: 5 days 23 hours

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

so what you're gonna do is you're gonna trim the top off a bulb of garlic, using the knife's edge to take off the tip of every individual clove, that's important. you're gonna place the garlic face-up in a square of tinfoil, drizzle with olive oil, wrap completely in foil, place in baking tray, repeat with a copious amount of garlic bulbs. you're gonna put that baking tray in an oven set to 375-400°F, for 30-50 minutes, until soft and browned. you're gonna toast some good bread, slather generously with butter and honey, maybe a tiny lil bit o' salt. and then. you're gonna SQUEEZE. OUT. THAT. ROASTED GARLIC. onto the butter honey toast. and you're gonna eat it. food stolen directly from the plate of the gods. that's what you're gonna do.

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

the garlic. it beckons you

[thesweetestsupervillains]

It occurs to me that "1920s gangster doing a cooking show while holding you at gunpoint" is an untapped market.

We've had normal cooking shows. Now we need period piece cooking shows in character.

[dogpuppy]