So when a kid is laying on the floor in a shop screaming u get down to their level n say ohhh noooo darling don't do that pleaaaase that's naughty cmon get up be a good boy or girl. The kids gonna stop n get up lmao. U say if u don't get up right now I'm gonna give ya a whip on the arse..1...2...n I bet they'll get up.
No. You remove your child from the scene (because children are often reacting to overstimulation such as the grocery store is too loud, the room is too bright, there’s people they don’t know around, they’ve been there too long etc) and go somewhere quiet. You then sit with them as they cry, reassuring them that you are present, and once they have stopped crying you offer comfort and ask if they know what it is that they were so upset about. Then you calmly talk to them so they - and you - can understand and fix the problem that was the root of the tantrum.
Bad example;‘Why are you crying?’‘I’m hungry’‘Well we’re going home soon!’
Good example;‘Do you know why you were crying?’‘I’m hungry’ ‘We’re at the grocery store to get food. We only have three more aisles to go. We can count them down together. Then we’ll go home and we can eat.’
Children don’t understand ‘soon’; even for adults, ‘soon’ is a relative term. children understand things like ‘three aisles. Two. One. Now we’re going home!’
Children need communication, understanding and teaching. Not beating, intimidating or belittling.
Get therapy.
I’m always amazed by posts like this, because they get mad at the child for “deciding to cry” without once consider that the child has an internal mental state and is unhappy. It just never occurs to make the child no longer unhappy, just to make the child shut up.
What gets me is that there are people who are going to be like “But taking the child out of the store is inconvenient. They should just get up and keep quiet so we can go home sooner”
If you wanted convenience you shouldn’t have had a fucking kid Karen.
