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For #2020, when I hear a #metoo story, I'm going to post this image. I won't include any details of the story - as Tarana Burke says, "metoo" can be the start of a conversation or the end of a conversation. But I still know people who tell me they don't know anyone who's been sexually assaulted or harassed. And I talk to a lot of people who want to write about sex, but forget that their audience is crowded with survivors. I want to show what the world looks like from where I'm standing, and what I see is survivors. All kinds of survivors in every different place they could be in their survivorship. It's beautiful. But there are so many I've lost count. And I want them all to count. via Instagram https://ift.tt/2TyK3md

Hello I participated in my own governance today. Decisions are made by the people who show up etc. #SuperTuesday #WhenWeAllVote #VotingWhileWeStillHaveElections via Instagram https://ift.tt/2IeGhcD

For #2020, when I hear a #metoo story, I'm going to post this image. I won't include any details of the story - as @taranajaneen says, "metoo" can be the start of a conversation or the end of a conversation. But I still know people who tell me they don't know anyone who's been sexually assaulted or harassed. And I talk to a lot of people who want to write about sex, but forget that their audience is crowded with survivors. I want to show what the world looks like from where I'm standing, and what I see is survivors. All kinds of survivors in every different place they could be in their survivorship. It's beautiful. But there are so many I've lost count. And I want them all to count. via Instagram https://ift.tt/2vo0g5y

Over the last 5yrs it has become increasingly difficult to talk about women's sexual pleasure without directly addressing the fubar narratives of masculine sexuality. Peggy's book is the clearest statement of this fucked up blend of misogyny with masculine sexual shaming I've ever read. Read it if you want to understand the core of the problem. #Repost @coffeeandresearch • • • • • Tl;dr: Boys, gender roles, and male sexuality . Peggy Orenstein (@pjorenstein) has done it again. I read her “Girls & Sex” for my dissertation, now I’m reading her latest “Boys & Sex” for an upcoming paper and further research. . There’s so many gems in this book that I can’t capture them all in one post. Here are the major ones that stood out: . 3️⃣You have to be on guard and always present yourself as a “bro” and athlete. . 4️⃣The three legs of toxic masculinity: disparagement of the feminine, emotional suppression, and bragging about sexual conquest. . 5️⃣Masculinity isn’t about what they can do and say, but about what they can’t do or say when they wish they could. Being silent around sexism is how they become men. . 6️⃣Sex is something that men do to women rather than something to do with women. It’s to provide men with an orgasm. . 7️⃣Queer boys were better able to negotiate sexual consent. “Yes” begins the conversation. “What are you into?” is empowering. . 8️⃣White guys control who’s hypersexual (black men) and who is hyposexual (Asian men). . 9️⃣Good guys can do bad things. . 🔟Consent is imperative but it’s the baseline. It’s what makes sex legal, but it doesn’t make it ethical, let alone good. Ethical sex means taking into account the well-being of the participants but others who are affected. “Good” sex is pleasurable and satisfying. . This book is powerful in seeing how men are confined to gender roles and the breakaway is to continually engage with them, questioning the norms while they’re young. . #ResearchWithShaun #SexResearch #SexEducation #SexualityEducation #SexEd #SexualAutonomy #SexualConsent #AcademicResearch #AcademicReading #MaleSexuality #PositiveSexuality #PositiveMaleSexuality #BeingABetterMan #BetterMen #BoysAndSex via Instagram https://ift.tt/2viW0V4

#mood (no but really.) #Repost @gottmaninstitute • • • • • Anger is felt by everyone at one point or another but it can be symptomatic of other unexpressed emotions, used to defend the raw feelings that lie beneath it.⁠ ⁠ If you’re unsure of why you’re feeling angry, try thinking of anger like an iceberg. Most of an iceberg is hidden below the surface of the water.⁠ ⁠ Similarly, when we’re angry, there can be other emotions hidden beneath the surface. It’s easy to see a person’s anger, but it can be difficult to see the underlying feelings the anger is protecting.⁠ ⁠ Learn more about the Anger Iceberg and three helpful tips for listening to anger on the #GottmanRelationshipBlog. ⁠ ⁠ Illustration by @drlaurenfogelmersy ⁠ via Instagram https://ift.tt/2TsA02f

This was a VERY fun conversation and covered some topics I rarely get a chance to talk about! Check out @lisanicolebell's IG for the podcast, website, and everything else! via Instagram https://ift.tt/2UkQZFt

Catching up on email after a long stint on the road, so this was inevitable - which is infuriating, right? Because these thing shouldn't happen. But it's also glorious, because it's always glorious when survivors tell and own their stories. #Repost @enagoski • • • • • For #2020, when I hear a #metoo story, I'm going to post this image. I won't include any details of the story - "metoo" can be the start of a conversation or the end of a conversation. But I still know people who tell me they don't know anyone who's been sexually assaulted or harassed. And I talk to a lot of people who want to write about sex, but forget that their audience is crowded with survivors. I want to show what the world looks like from where I'm standing, and what I see is survivors. All kinds of survivors in every different place they could be in their survivorship. It's beautiful. But there are so many I've lost count. And I want them all to count. via Instagram https://ift.tt/2RHmfgn

I love when people use what is technically my "official" author photo, back when I told my publisher "I have blue hair, you know," and they were like "ummmm could you maybe just have blue streaks?" and I was like "... I guess?" And that's the story of this photo. (Also this podcast was super fun to record and I think you'll enjoy listening to it.) #Repost @healingfeelingshitshow • • • • • Come As You Are!!!!!! Did you read it? The NYTime's best selling Author Emily Nagoski talked to HFSS about female sexuality, how female pleasure is revolutionary and the way FEELINGS (and moving them) has everything to do with fulfilling sex, and avoiding burnout. This is one of my favorite episodes and the penultimate of Season 2! Dropping hot, steamy, and pleasurable Tuesday 9 PM PST/12 AM EST. #emilynagoski #comeasyouare #femalesexuality #femalepleasure #youarenormal #feministsurvivalproject #podcast #healingfeelingshitshow #emotionalresilienceisthenewhappy #feelthatshitorfullofshit #pleasureasrevolution via Instagram https://ift.tt/2S1754A

At a recent obgyn appointment I talked to my doc about Health at Every Size and non-stigmatizing care. She said talking about weight was "standard practice." I replied with a sigh, "I know. But standard practice doesn't mean evidence-based practice." She looked at me like I had slapped her, and she changed the subject. Click through to @haes_studentdoctor for the whole slide deck of recommendations. #Repost @haes_studentdoctor • • • • • [Please share 🙏 this needs 👀 on it] A summary of 5 assumptions made about weight in public policy & corresponding recommendations towards weight inclusive approach to health policy from this excellent paper: . . Hunger, Jeffrey M., Joslyn P. Smith, and A. Janet Tomiyama. "An Evidence‐Based Rationale for Adopting Weight‐Inclusive Health Policy." Social Issues and Policy Review 14.1 (2020): 73-107. . . This is a slide deck with 5 assumptions, 5 recommendations & some interesting soundbites from the rationale. . . The authors present the evidence that approaches focussing on weight (loss) and weight surveillance are both ineffective at improving health but also harmful; ultimately contributing to worse mental and physical health outcomes mediated by weight stigma. . . Their recommendations are an “approach would best be rooted in existing perspectives regarding Health at Every Size (HAES), size diversity, and body respect”. . . A must read. Please share widely. . . . . . . . . #haes #healthateverysize #sizediversity #healthcare #healthnotdiets #riotsnotdiets #antidiet #weightneutral #weightloss #nondietapproaches #bodyrespect #bodyposi #medicine #medical #weightstigma #edrecovery #intuitiveeating #nondiet #nutrition #nutritionist #dietitian #rd2b #haes_studentdoctor #medstudent #fatpositive via Instagram https://ift.tt/37GljOO

I've been rewatching Schitt's Creek, now that I've finished the new season of Grace & Frankie (WAS THIS THEIR BEST SEASON YET????), YouTube cooking videos, and Full Frontal. Good Girls is up next, and then I'll check out @with_this_body's suggestion of Lost in Space. But honestly it would be hard to find *anything* to watch that's as actively destructive as Bergerst Lerser. #Repost @with_this_body • • • • • (3 of 3) Let me know ⬇️ below what YOU will be watching INSTEAD of The Biggest Loser. I am on episode 5 of Shrill Season 2. Loved Season 1 more but still so good. Also been watching reboot of Lost in Space on Netflix. Silly, fun, suspenseful, unrealistic spaceventures, and I’m loving they cast a female as Dr. Smith—Parker Posey is so good at playing bad! For serious, though, So many of my clients’ eating disorders developed from extreme dieting, extreme exercise, and a (misguided) focus on weight loss a la the same methods The Biggest Loser promotes. Increasingly, we know from the research that size does not correlate with health and that extreme dieting, extreme exercise, and preoccupation with thinness are barriers to health and wellness. Let’s do what *works.* Let’s invite individuals to explore Intuitive Eating, Fat Positive, Health At Every Size paradigms. Biggest Loser, we don’t need your reboot. #TheBiggestLoserIsTheBiggestFraud #TheBiggestFraud #TheBiggestLoserIsNotWell #WeightWatchersIsNotWell #WakeUpWeightWatchers #WeightWatchers #FatPositiveProvider #ProudHAESProvider #FatPositive via Instagram https://ift.tt/2GCZLa0

At last! Pub day for the #meandwhitesupremacy book by @laylafsaad. Fellow white people, if you haven't bought this book, please buy this book immediately. As Elizabeth Gilbert's blurb says: it's time. via Instagram https://ift.tt/2RCyb30

Okee dokee friends. This illustration by @fuckyeaherikamoen is of a ... That's right. A VULVA. I'm not the vocabulary police and I certainly wouldn't judge someone for not having learned something that isn't taught is almost any class. But it's important to me to call a vulva a vulva.and not a vagina because the words we use provide a mental framework within which we can understand the world. To call it a vagina is to erase from that mental framework all the most important parts for PLEASURE for most people who have one of these. The labia. The clitoris. The introitus. PS when Come As You Are was being copyedited, the copyeditor left a note on this illustration, "Can we PLEASE remove some of the pubic hair?" Answer: STET. (cc: @bcdreyer ) #vulva #sexbooks #sexeducation #sexeducator #SexEdIsSocialJustice via Instagram https://ift.tt/2RjpB98

Mmmbbyeeeeeeee! #Repost @lusterypov • • • • • pip pip, cheerio, toodle-oo 👋⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ via @bishmindz via Instagram https://ift.tt/38mAmwZ

For #2020, when I hear a #metoo story, I'm going to post this image. I won't include any details of the story - as Tarana Burke says, "metoo" can be the start of a conversation or the end of a conversation. But I still know people who tell me they don't know anyone who's been sexually assaulted or harassed. And I talk to a lot of people who want to write about sex, but forget that their audience is crowded with survivors. I want to show what the world looks like from where I'm standing, and what I see is survivors. All kinds of survivors in every different place they could be in their survivorship. It's beautiful. But there are so many I've lost count. And I want them all to count. via Instagram https://ift.tt/365vAm7

When was this? Where were we? It could be anytime between 1995-2002, I truly don't know. But I do know which one's me and which one's @burnoutbookgroup #tbt #twinstagram #twinsofinstagram #flumesofinstagram via Instagram https://ift.tt/2u7kSxS

Lookit. Sometimes you just need a purely escapist vacation where you help the Resistance battle against the First Order for control of a space port. And green alcohol. via Instagram https://ift.tt/2FTIybO

In #2020, when I hear a #metoo story, I'm going to post this image. I won't include any details of the story - as @taranajaneen says, "metoo" can be the start of a conversation or the end of a conversation. But I still know people who tell me they don't know anyone who's been sexually assaulted or harassed. And I talk to a lot of people who want to write about sex, but forget that their audience is crowded with survivors. I want to show what the world looks like from where I'm standing, and what I see is survivors. All kinds of survivors in every different place they could be in their survivorship. It's beautiful. But there are so many I've lost count. And I want them all to count. For the first week of 2020 I was mostly home. When I went out in the world to work... literally every day. via Instagram https://ift.tt/30oi3on

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