Some are so busy trying to avoid accountability that you become apart of their projections.
I told someone something in confidence and they told someone else. That person feels guilty of something I never even accused them of so much so that they come to me to “reveal” something.
Now at the time I didn’t put two and two together but I felt that what they said should have been said amongst the three of us. So I OPENLY shared that.
The person begins to say I took what they said the wrong way when the context was clear. Unbeknownst to me they had already received my very personal information and began to project onto me as if I accused them.
Now many things are wrong with this but for the sake of keeping this post short… I’ll just focus on these key things.
1. I’ve learned that there is really no one you can trust. Which is isolating & traumatic.
2. people will take your story and try to change it or make it their own to avoid personal accountability for their actions.
3. so many people have so much guilt and shame from skeletons in their closet that they are constantly tormented and looking for someone to torment verses standing in their own truth.
4. People are always exposing themselves and using your kindness or softness towards them to force you into fairness and forgiveness when they don’t even respect your personal boundaries.
I am a firm believer in sharing stories but I believe even more that those stories should be shared BY THOSE WHOSE EXPERIENCE IT IS. Period.
People have such a worry and a panic because they have ignored their intuition down to needing proof even if that proof comes from exposing someone else.
I’m no idiot but the amount of manipulation I’ve endured should indeed be studied.
And honestly I had no idea that the people around me was everything but who I saw them to be or thought they were.
It’s even worse when you’ve already been on a path to releasing friendships and “family”, it’s just as bad.
Also, let’s be real if you had an inkling that someone violated someone in any kind of way why would you still choose to associate with them ? Be their friend ? Their business partner or co worker ? Their spouse or lover ?
Our intuition should be enough but due to the extreme amount of times having to suppress and ignore it, unfortunately it just can’t be.