The Green Dragon

Female. Artist. Total nerd.

[teaboot]

I hate that thing some people do where it's like. "I left my wallet on the table to see if you'd say anything" or "I wanted to see if you'd wash the car if I stopped doing it"

Cause like

I dont know about anyone else

But I am perpetually hovering three inches above the strong subconscious belief that everyone knows what they're doing at all times except me, so if you change your normal patterns and I notice, then I will assume it is an intentional choice with a thought-out plan behind it and I will avoid interfering

And if I don't notice, because I won't, because why would I, because not much bothers me and if you don't say anything to indicate you are bothered then how would I KNOW

[teaboot]

Alternatives to experimenting on me like a lab rat when you suspect me of being inconsiderate:

"I feel like I'm the only one who does this chore. Can we start taking turns?"

"I'd like you to ask me how I'm doing more often."

"It bothers me when this area stays messy so long. Can you do X when Y happens?"

"I feel like the onus is on me to initiate X, and it's wearing me down. Could you try making the first move more? Like 3-4 times a week?"

"I'm feeling upset right now and I'd like to spend some time with you."

"When X happens, I feel like you're taking my work for granted."

"I'm feeling neglected. Could you do X?"

"I'm burnt out and need help."

"I feel like I'm the only one putting effort into X."

"Do you notice this?"

"Are you bothered by this?"

"I am bothered when this happens."

"X habit of yours bothers me."

"When X is like this, I feel bad. Can you [action] when you notice X?"

[hug-your-face]

[theeternalbeast]

We have to change our paradigm on people. No more comparison to see who's better or worse. Each person is a flavor. When you're eating food, one flavor isn't better than another. It's just different. Some people love spicy and others have more of a sweet tooth. Find your flavor (know who you are), then find what your flavor mixes well with (date others). You may be pineapple who's in a delicious relationship with a chicken (teriyaki). Excellent choice. Your flavors are mixing well and you're benefiting those around you. If you go all the way and decide to get married that's a wonderful meal you can give your children. If things don't work out, you may meet a ham of a guy and decide to go for pizza (Hawaiian). Another excellent choice. One relationship is not better than another, it's just different. You are finding who you are and who you pair well with. If you like the taste of the meal you're cooking now (the relationship you're in) stick with it. Stop considering if someone "better" "could possibly, one day, maybe come". You're ruining the meal you're cooking. If it doesn't taste good, get out of the kitchen. Otherwise, enjoy the meal and see how well you blend together and how others are benefiting and enjoying the taste of your relationship.

Abram Goff

I am not a religious person in the slightest, but I really liked the way this guy explained relationships in his article. It’s applicable to platonic relationships, too.

[theeternalbeast]

Beginner drummer be like—

Me, in the shower, drinking a pint of microbrew, bopping up and down like Gene in the Bob's Burger opening: Boom ch bop boom ch boom bop boom, boom ch bop boom ch boom bop boom, ...

[fooodforthot]

that feeling

[pangur-and-grim]

I’ve started the cats on a diet (gotta get rid of those small saggy bellies), & this has resulted in Pangur shadowing me for the last 2 hours, screaming & biting whatever body part I leave accessible

[pangur-and-grim]

no more ankle-biting!

Pangur, why

[pangur-and-grim]

[theeternalbeast]

[theeternalbeast]

“If there’s something you need, something you really have to have—not just want to but have to, you’ll find a way to get it. ”

—Naomi Alderman (The Power)

[theeternalbeast]

No, it's not fair, but what makes earth feel like Hell is our expectation that it should feel like Heaven. Earth is earth.

Chuck Palahniuk (Damned)

[theeternalbeast]

Seeing is like hunting and like dreaming, and even like falling in love. It is entangled in the passions—jealousy, violence, possessiveness; and it is soaked in affect—in pleasure and displeasure, and in pain. Ultimately, seeing alters the thing that is seen and transforms the seer. Seeing is metamorphosis, not mechanism.

—James Elkins (The Object Stares Back)

[theeternalbeast]

The idea that you will be suddenly discovered is a myth, and a disempowering one at that.

What They Didn’t Teach You In Art School

[theeternalbeast]

Developing your identity can only happen by allowing yourself the time and space to progress, to experiment, and to follow your own instincts.

What They Didn’t Teach You In Art School

[artistluv]

When the honeymoon stage ends what happens

…………

[ceraycarter]

You’re more honest with each other. Bodily functions are something to laugh about. Sweatpants and tee shirts are a regular thing. They know what you look like without all the makeup. Being “laid up and watching Netflix” is the only thing you’re looking forward to after work. You don’t go on fancy dates as often but you trade that for quality time. You find yourself being more vulnerable and you open up more. They become your best friend. You will able to talk about anything. You won’t be worried about impressing their parents, you’re just gonna love them anyway regardless of how their parents may feel. You will have inside jokes that no one else will get. Sex is not as often but, twice as passionate. Little fights will happen, but you’ll learn not to sweat the small stuff. You’ll learn what compromise really is about. You’ll dream about the future together. Grow together. Be on each other’s team. See their ugly crying face, and be the one to wipe the tears away & do something stupid to make them life. things are amazing after the honeymoon stage. However, it’s a time about giving up your walls and open up some doors you have locked a long time ago.

That’s why some people don’t make it past this point, because they don’t know what unconditional self-love means. Remain open and optimistic, love will never fail you.

[ceraycarter]

I love when this post resurfaces. It’s like a gentle reminder.

[throwdownyourheart]

Relevant for me right now.

[trappeds0ull-deactivated2020072]

To be honest, I believe in this.

[emperorozark]

[theeternalbeast]

Hearing someone talk about the things they're passionate about is intriguing, and quite honestly, rather attractive.

Damien Bloodmarch (Dream Daddy)

[theeternalbeast]

Too many people—and this isn't necessarily you—but too many people think that they have to fill the dead air with noise. Personally I think they're afraid of the silence. Or they're afraid of what the other person is gonna think of the silence.

Robert Small (Dream Daddy)

[theeternalbeast]

I worry that people who are against e-readers are more in love with the idea of books than actually reading them

[theeternalbeast]

You are a lotion that moisturizes my heart. Without you, my soul has eczema.

Aziz Ansari (Modern Romance)

[theeternalbeast]

Played Cards Against Humanity with coworkers and friends at the bar last night and this was probably play of the night.