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[thegoodluckpirate]

Every time I get a text notification I just have to whisper a little “oh for fuck’s sake” and swipe it away before I spend fifteen minutes psyching myself up to respond

[narcissisticpdcultureis]

npd culture is not wanting to be famous because of the media scrutiny, but wanting to be the best in your field/liked by everyone

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[fluentisonus]

I love when ancient poets talk about how doomed & hubristic seafaring is. like yess lets surpass our natural limitations and travel to unknown places. let's test the boundaries between life and death with our human ambition. let's shipwreck ourselves and bring nothing but grief and tragedy to human history with our overstep. this is so sexy

[whysoseven]

Okay so I'm tired and bitchy and I've had a rough morning, and because of that I'm probably about to drop an unpopular opinion here, but I really dont care.

Narcissist is starting to become the new sociopath/psychopath/psycho, and I am really, really concerned with where this is heading.

It's the exact same thing I've been seeing for years with my own diagnosis. You say you're a sociopath, and immediately you're now an asshole. I've had people actually ask me if I have ever hurt someone/wanted to hurt someone because I'm a sociopath, and I've had to explain over and over again that no, that's not what that means, it just means empathy is not something that I can experience like everyone else. I can still be compassionate, I can still be a kind person, I can have no desire to hurt anyone ever, but I still get treated like a ticking time bomb. Even though my disorder actually helps me in a job that saves lives (I work in tissue donation, so not feeling empathy makes handling donor tissue from a 15 year old a lot easier), I still get asked by people at that same job about my "secret dark side" and if I ever did/do things like torture animals.

The same thing is happening to narcissists. You say you're a narcissist, and now suddenly you're an abuser. You want to paint someone as a bad person? Call them a narcissist, then everyone will understand how mean and evil they are. I am so sick and tired of seeing tiktoks, tweets, and Tumblr posts going on and on about how horrible narcissists are and how much people hate them. As if narcissists aren't people! As if narcissists aren't people experiencing a personality disorder! Y'all are all about "neurodivergent/mental illness solidarity uwu" until you bring in the "undesirable" mental illnesses and personality disorders, and then suddenly it's "All x people are mean and evil and abusive blah blah blah they can't get better/better themselves blah blah blah here's how to argue with them except I'm not going to actually talk about that I'm actually going to just say how horrible they are and how they're bad people blah blah blah" and it's like shut up! Shut the fuck up! Those are people! Those are real people with real feelings and you're just out here saying they're inherently bad, and for what? For likes? For clout? Do you have any idea how hard it is to come to terms with a diagnosis like that when your view on it is so incredibly skewed, when you think you're being assigned the Bad Person Disease™️ after you've tried so hard to be a kind person and uplift those around you? And now you're left thinking it was all for nothing, because now you can never be a good person no matter how hard you try because you have Bad Person Disease? Do you have literally any idea how damaging that is, and how much that hurts? But hey, ableism isn't ableism when it's against the "bad" people, right?

Anyway, if you're a sociopath, psychopath, narcissist, have bpd, are bipolar in the "wrong" way, are schizophrenic or psychotic, are the "wrong" type of autistic, or anything else, I see you and you're doing amazing. Your diagnosis doesn't dictate who you are and, even though some things are harder for us than they are for others, that doesn't mean you're a bad person.

[indifferentvincent-deactivated2]

Twitter thread by user charitieropati from Nov 09, 2022, regarding the Indian Child Welfare Act (ICWA):

hearing justices on scotus ask “what if the child doesn’t want to be treated indian” during the ICWA hearings makes me so sick. They don’t understand how tribal sovereignty functions at all.

literally still in shock after hearing those comments. It is so scary that ICWA lies in the hands of people who have no understanding about how our tribal nations work. The hypotheticals and questions were just shocking.

Like no basic understanding. I feel so sick and anxious.

And the casual laughter in the courtroom & the question about natives being “at war” while tribal sovereignty is being threatened. It’s disrespectful and sick.

[gooeymirror]

“What if the child doesn’t want to be treated Indian” pretty rich coming from the crowd that vehemently opposes critical race theory or having anyone in the queer umbrella near their children in schools, and wants to further entrench Christian ideology in public schools & government

[2spirit-1spoon]

The same exact crowd that wouldn't let children make the choice to use puberty blockers now wants to allow children the permanent choice of whether or not they leave their entire history and culture behind.

[brightlotusmoon]

[angelslant]

(guy who hasnt eaten today voice) no no im fine its just yknow the horrors. yeah theyre unending again

[gothamguts-moved83747365]

clark does those annoyingly chipper good morning messages that's just out of pocket shade abt gotham

[gothamguts-moved83747365]

batman is still cc'd into these comms btw

[aropride]

i talk abt being alloaro quite a bit for a guy who has NO fucking sex

[hustlerose]

"i'm a good girl" actually i went to bad girl island and everyone there knew you

[hustlerose]

NO FURTHER QUESTIONS

[stay-the-knight]

[just-aro]

demiro doesn’t specify what type of emotional bond, would rivalry count? what if you got so deep into a rivalry you started crushing on them? would that be possible for a demiro

none of our system is demiromantic, so we don't feel comfortable giving a definitive answer. please ask demiromantic people questions about demiromanticism. @demiromantic-culture-is exists, maybe try there.

[thegoodluckpirate]

I don’t identify specifically as demiromantic but something more like demialterous probably, but at least for me the emotional connection really just comes from how interesting the person is to me, it absolutely can be negative interest or mixed positive/negative things (and often is). Because of this though the attraction isn’t always a very positive, all those negative emotions towards the person are still there with the attraction. I’ve just gotten out of an infatuation with someone I had very mixed feelings for and it’s a major stress relief to not have to deal with anymore.

[myautisticpov]

I'm always kind of wary of narratives of autistic interaction that are like "well, autistic people just aren't interested in relationships, they don't like meaningless social interactions"

Because I think there is a mix of trauma, alexithymia, and false narratives being pushed by literally everyone else that leads to this being the narrative that even autistic people tell when it might not actually be the whole story

Because, like, my mum remembers me being excluded from play by other kids before I have my first memories

We know that allistic kids can tell something is "off" about an autistic kid in seconds and not want to play with them

And we know that some of the methods used by neurotypical kids to bully neurodivergent kids is winding them up - deliberately setting off sensory issues or using frustration triggers that they've identified - and that leads to autistic kids being told "that's not bullying, that's you over reacting"

And this treatment begins very young

So now you've got an autistic kid who's, say, nine or ten, and they don't play with their peers - they sit with a book or on their Nintendo or whatever

And when people (parents/clinitions/etc) ask them "why don't you want to play with the other kids?", you get the combo of knowing that "other kids bully me" isn't believed and alexithymia meaning that they know that the idea of playing with other kids feels Bad but they can't quite put their finger on Why

And when they try to rationally look for an answer, the first one that's likely to come up it's all of the technical aspects of playing with other kids, like not liking small talk because it's "pointless", that come up instead of the trauma

And yeah, I'm wary of perpetuating this narrative as autistic adults that "autistic kids just don't like that kind of play and autistic people prefer to be alone, actually" because it just kind of reeks of the "the other kids only pick on you because you're smart" narrative that absolutely did nothing to help me deal with the trauma of being bullied or lead to healthy relationships in my adult life

[thegoodluckpirate]

“The other kids only pick on you because you’re smart” = “there’s some immutable characteristic about you that will keep you alone forever if you don’t hide it”

[thegoodluckpirate]

Sometimes healing/self care is strange little things. Sometimes it’s deleting and remaking a Netflix profile so that there’s no trace of someone else on it. It’s making spaces comfortable to be in again.

[likeadog]

people NEED to look into what diagnoses can affect their legal rights please ableism isnt just individual it is in the system!!! do your research!!! lie to the government!!!

[selfindulgentsaccharine]

You can't win with ASPD, because if you mask then you're a liar. If you make an effort to treat people with compassion you're manipulative. If you display symptoms you're either an edgelord or a scary sociopath not worthy of respect.

You'll struggle your entire life with the trauma that caused your disorder while people discredit your experiences, because obviously you're not allowed to feel pain or let anything bother you.

Chasers fetishize your disorder while ableists screech about how you should be locked up, denied basic human rights, or put down. Media that glamorizes your disorder for shock value will make beaucoup bucks while you're unable to find a single therapist willing and able to treat you. Psych literature will state that you're emotionally volatile while onlookers call you cold and incapable of human emotion. Psych literature will state that 50% of people with your diagnosis have a comorbid anxiety disorder, but textbooks will claim people like you are unable to feel fear in an effort to dehumanize you.

Any resources you find will be buried between ten times as many resources for victims of people like you, telling them to run and teaching them how to manipulate you. Even educators will fail to discuss your diagnosis in a practical way because they're too busy name-dropping Bundy and Dahmer. You will be told to fix yourself without any help doing so. You will be told to fix yourself while being told that people like you are beyond saving. Other abuse survivors will tell you to not interact with them, so you'll make your own spaces and then they'll follow you into your own spaces to harass you.

People armchair diagnose politicians, cops, and abusers with your disorder as an explanation for their bigotry and cruelty. People armchair diagnose CEOs with your disorder to prove that you have some kind of unfair advantage over everyone else in society. They'll write articles about it for clicks and clout and everyone in the comments section will vent about their ex.

If you complain about any of it they'll accuse you of gaslighting and proving their point - that you're a terrible person who's not a person at all.

[thegoodluckpirate]

Why are the only three emotions I have when manic Finance, Sex, and Cry