the haute goddess

makia, aka the haute goddess, is a mother, daughter, friend, blogger, spelman graduate, empath, and divorcee here to love and be loved. she has been through the fire and back. inspired by her divorce and forced to rebuild her life, the haute goddess began a spiritual journey almost 10 years ago. she has turned pain into wisdom and is excited to share her experiences to support a movement of empowered, self-loving, resilient women doing the necessary work every day to be doubt slaying, challenge conquering, wound healing, magical warrior goddesses capable of amazing things! Sign Up Now For Email Marketing you can trust.

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#messy2magic: mindset transformation course ENROLLING NOW

hey, boo! i see you look great and have and do ALL the things...but… - [email protected] - Gmail hey, boo! i see you look great and have and do ALL the things...but how are you REALLY? how is your spirit? how are things REALLY working out for you? 

the bad news: is it’s all about your current mindset. everything in your life is based on how you THINK.

the good new is:YOU have the power to change it all NOW. *has your current mindset provided you with the tools to create the life of your dreams?

*do you have a specific framework you follow to make lasting changes to your mindset?

*are you as confident about/in your career as your romantic/interpersonal relationships?

*are you confident that you are currently living your ABSOLUTE best life? 

if you answered “no” to any of these questions, let’s chat! i’m positive my program #messy2magic is perfect for you.

#messy2magic is a four-week, 2x/week group coaching experience that combines spiritual, practical AND scientific concepts (this is science, y’all!) and utilizes my unique CURE method - Clarity, Understanding, Reprogrammig, Evolution - which i believe presents a logical phased approach that lays the foundation for each concept.

utilizing my CURE method, i created habits that helped me:lose 15 lbs during quarantine (and gain a TON of self-confidence)discover PROFOUND insights about the “blocks” that have been holding me back, and tools that have led to deep and lasting healinglive #DRAMAFREE after accepting MY ROLE in the things that have shown up in my life, and forgiving myself for 100% of my mistakeslearned to TRULY love myself and cultivate a POWERFUL sense of self-worth

AND YOU CAN DO IT TOO!

i read the books, done the work, and made the mistakes – and i am so EXCITED and PROUD and i know my experiences were not in vain and can help you achieve #TRANSFORMATIONAL results! i am so confident about this approach that i GUARANTEE results, and offer a 100% money back policy! would you like to chat about how i did it, and how YOU can make this magic happen for yourself? 

click the link to schedule a 30 min “alignment” call for more details!

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creative director: ig @lelebe26

#letsgrow #selfimprovement #magicmama #growth #healing #lightandlove #subconsciousblocks #heal #grow 

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hautegoddess on “the unshakeable woman” podcast

i had the honor of speaking the on the @unshakeablewoman #podcast hosted by cheryl stabler about #healing from #divorce. 

this was my very first interview, and i was scared and intimidated, but i did it anyway! i hope you are inspired to do something difficult today, and that enjoy the content. link below :) 

#lightandlove #selfimprovement #growthafterdivorce #healingfromdivorce #divorcedmom #divorcerecovery #divorcedwomen #divorcesucks 

https://anchor.fm/cheryl-stabler/episodes/036---Makia-Thomas-speaks-on-Finding-Your-Power-After-Divorce-egvlmv

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transform your life NOW!

the #drama of it all, chile 😊 over the last 10 years, i have been through it all – #divorce, #death, #heartbreak, the end of #toxicfriendships, #breakdowns, false starts, #selfsabotage, #impostersyndrome – you name it! but guess what? i overcame it all and completely #TRANSFORMED my life. i am so proud that i: ✨lost 14 lbs during quarantine ✨discovered PROFOUND insights about the “blocks” that have been holding me back, and tools that have led to deep and lasting healing ✨live #DRAMAFREE after accepting MY ROLE in the things that have shown up in my life, and forgiving myself for 100% of my mistakes ✨learned to TRULY love myself and cultivate a POWERFUL sense of self-worth ✨and you can do it too!✨ i am developing a system i want to share with the world to help everyone live a life of peace, love and power through #selfreflection and #selfcorrection. i have read the books, done the work, and made the mistakes – and i am so EXCITED and PROUD and i know my experiences were not in vain and can help you achieve #TRANSFORMATIONAL results! would you like to chat about how I did it, and how YOU can make this magic happen for yourself? let's talk!

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above all, be the heroine of your life, not the victim.

nora eprhon

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a goddess smiles

are you conscious of how much you smile? a few months ago, i was told that i come off unapproachable because i do not smile enough. i had never thought about this. the conversation came up because we were discussing why i was single, and i mentioned that men rarely approach me and i do not believe in approaching men. she mentioned that because i do not smile, i do not read as inviting, so men are less likely take the chance. i thought about this and decided she may be correct. i realized that sometimes when i am going about my day, my mind is in a million different places – i may be thinking about errands i have to run later, or the meeting from which i just came, and was unaware of how this may affect my energy. so, i decided to smile more the next day when i went out for lunch. as i was walking along, forcing myself to smile, i felt like a complete psycho. lol. i looked like a crazy person with this insincere smile plastered on my face and decided on a different approach. there is research that shows that when you smile, your serotonin levels automatically increase. when i read this, i decided that i wanted to smile as much as possible! a goddess smiles! 

do not get me wrong, i know that we are not dolls, here to smile pretty for men (there is nothing more frustrating to me than to be told to smile by some random man). but deeper than attracting a mate, smiling is an automatic vibration boost. to change from looking pensive and serious, i decided to mentally recite some of my favorite mantras while i am walking around in the world. i shut off all the chatter that made me feel stressed and serious, and focused on pouring into myself. it worked like a charm. i was genuinely smiling thinking about all the good things in my life, and it felt great.

are you walking around looking evil and glum? do yourself a favor and think good thoughts. commit to focusing on what is good in your life, and all the amazing things coming down the pike. nothing is more attractive than a happy person. this awareness also reinforces the idea that our thoughts create our lives – we want to think as many high-vibration thoughts as we can to realize a high-vibration life! smile, pretty girl! the world needs you at your highest vibe! and so, it is!

blessings 😊

meditation moment: today commit to smiling for 60 straight seconds. It will feel weird at first, but I promise once your mind starts to align with the idea of being happy, you will be flooded with a feeling of joy.

let’s discuss – log in to disqus to comment! you are a goddess – love yourself! now go do your work 😊 until next time!

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i know my worth.

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in life there is no real safety except for self-belief.

madonna

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a goddess has a plan!

when i think about some of the times in my life when i felt frustrated and helpless, it was often because i was completely unsure of what the future held. i had no clue the direction in which i was going, but i was clear that my current situation was NOT where i wanted to be. of course, none of us know what is going to happen from moment to moment but we do have the power to get clear on what we would like to happen and start taking steps toward it. a goddess has a plan! one of the most valuable improvements we can make in our lives is to live with a sense of empowerment. we are not passive observers watching life happen to us – we have the power to take control. we can choose our thoughts and make decisions that can change our trajectory. we all have difficult experiences that can make us feel as though the universe has completely abandoned us, but this is a complete illusion. we are never alone, and we always have free will to choose to think differently in any moment, and we must experience discomfort to propel forward. but sometimes we feel stuck! and when that happens, instead of going into victim mode, the most empowering thing we can do for ourselves is to create a plan to assist us on our journey to the other side. this plan does not have to be elaborate – just a few simple steps we can take to improve our current situation. this is critical because it raises our vibration from helpless to hopeless. when we are in a state of action, we attract more thoughts and situations that create forward movement. conversely, when we are down in the dumps feeling like life is unfair, we attract more of the like. in our spirits, we know what to do next – we always have the answers but often do not trust ourselves enough to act. 

in one of my favorite books #ahappypocketfullofmoney by #davidcamerongikandi, he talks about the steps to attracting wealth, and states that you cannot honestly say that you do not know the next step you can take to become wealthy. i am sure you have a business idea, or a debt reduction strategy already in mind – we all do – even if it is as simple as spending less money and saving more. the trick is after you take that one step, the universe will reveal another, and then another, until you can see a clearer path to your goal.

you are more than a conqueror, and you are well able to manage whatever shows up in your path. you are powerful beyond belief and have overcome so much. you can do this. believe in yourself. get clear on what you want and TAKE ACTION ASAP. even baby steps are progress. you know what to do, goddess…go get to work! and so, it is!

blessings 😊

meditation moment: think of a situation you would like to improve. write down three immediate things you can do to change the situation for the better. commit to completing one task per week until you have exhausted the list. watch your vibe soar, and more information, opportunities and guidance appear. repeat as necessary!

let’s discuss – log in to disqus to comment! you are a goddess – love yourself! now go do your work 😊 until next time!

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my mind is full of brilliant ideas.

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everything goes my way...even when it doesn't...

the haute goddess

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a goddess lives in a state of  “wow, is me!”

despite whatever is going on in your life there is always something for which you can rejoice. the easier path is to stay in a state of regret, self-doubt, sadness, disappointment and self-pity, but you are a victor, not a victim. you have the power to focus on the good stuff, and steer clear of the “woe, is me” moments - a goddess lives in a state of “wow, is me!” as amazing as life can be, it is also challenging and full of discomfort. for some reason, when we are in these necessary and inevitable seasons, we tend to think: 1. they are abnormal and 2. they will last forever. the key is to focus on the fact that you are surviving everything that comes across your path. look at yourself with in amazement and with wonder! you are a conqueror and a survivor, and you deserve praise and acknowledgement for all that you have endured. you beat that cancer! you had the balls to leave that cheating man! you got that degree! you raised those kids by yourself! you got that promotion against all odds! you bought that house on your own! you got yourself out of debt! you are keeping the lights on, food on the table and your babies safe and healthy every day! wow, boo! YOU DID THAT! pardon the grammar, but wow is YOU! no matter the difficulty, you survived to tell the story, learn the lessons and evolve. some people gave up after the exact same experiences. i am so proud of you and hope you are proud of yourself! pour into yourself and own your power to persevere.

even though we live in a culture that only displays and highlights wins, no one walking this earth is immune to struggle. you are not wrong, bad, incapable, or inadequate because you are in a tough moment. this is the human experience, my love, and just as you did many times before, you will get to the other side. you are well-able and divinely protected. take pride in your ability to push through when it gets tough. these moments are required for greatness, and you are most certainly awesome. hang in there and remember who you are – a mother*cking goddess and warrior queen, who gets up every morning and gets sh*t done, despite the pain, difficulty and hurt you may face. #neverforget and so, it is!

Blessings 😊 meditation moment: make a list of three difficult moments you conquered. read each one aloud, smile and say “wow is me! i did that” this will immediately raise your vibration!

let’s discuss – log in to disqus to comment! you are a goddess – love yourself! now go do your work 😊 until next time!

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i put my energy into things that matter to me.

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you are not stuck where you are unless you decide to be.

wayne dyer

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a goddess counts her blessings!

there is SO much for which we can be grateful! if you are reading this, it means you have sight, a mind well enough to read and receive, the resources to access this information, and a body with enough strength to click or type. that alone is enough to celebrate! we must be VIGILANT about focusing on the positive. despite our challenges, we are so incredibly privileged in ways we take for granted, especially as americans (even with all the madness we are experiencing). your phone likely costs between $500-1200! you have running water, electricity, food, shelter and access to basic resources. you do not have to flee for safety or take asylum in a country that may not receive or welcome you. what on earth are we b*tching about? slow wifi, your starbucks order not being perfect, or taking too long?? we sound completely crazy. Of course, things could be better, but they can most certainly be worse. i recently visited a facility for the homeless, and immediately felt like a complete as*hole for complaining about anything. WE MUST COUNT OUR BLESSINGS. this is a good habit in general, but it is very important when the goal is to live a #highvibration lifestyle. we get more of what we focus on – so minimize obsessing about what you feel may be lacking. we must develop the habit of turning low vibration “woe is me” thoughts to empowering energy. YOU ARE NOT A VICTIM. you can control your mind and what you think. it takes practice but it is completely possible.

also, strive to be an example of this way of thinking. unfortunately, most people do not naturally live this way, and it can be easy to be swayed to go in the other direction when you encounter low-vibration people. do not let them steal your joy! when they start hemming and hawing about their no-good husband, dead dog, or “haters” (which likely do not exist, but that is another post for another time), immediately stop them in their tracks – change the subject. act like you just remembered something you meant to tell them, ask them if they saw the latest episode of ______, ask about something you know makes them happy, or end the conversation. do whatever you have to do to not get sucked into their drama. keep your vibe high! thank the universe for everything is has done so far and will continue to do. you are divinely protected, and no matter outward appearances or temporary challenges, you are blessed beyond measures. remember who you are! and so it is!

blessings😊  

meditation moment: any time you feel tempted to focus on the negative, get in the habit of saying out loud “no” and immediately thinking three positive thoughts. the three thoughts i usually access are: “i am healthy. i have a wonderful son and mother. i have amazing friends who love me.” – what are your three?

let’s discuss – log in to disqus to comment! you are a goddess – love yourself! now go do your work 😊 until next time!

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i am becoming closer to my true self every day.

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without leaps of imagination, or dreaming, we lose the excitement of possibilities. dreaming, after all, is a form of planning.

gloria steinem

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a goddess nurtures her “muchness”

sometimes things happen that can make us forget who we are. when we have difficulties and challenges it can make us temporarily lose our #muchness. i love this term, which i got from #aliceinwonderland. at one point in the film, the #madhatter tells alice, “you’ve lost your muchness” and she never regains it. your “muchness” is your that “je ne sais quoi” that makes you YOU…your swag, presence, and vibe. there have been many moments that made me forget my muchness – engaging in toxic friendships and romantic relationships, dealing with negative work environments, experiencing financial struggles – but i have learned that none of those things can change who i am at my core –  a light, a reflection of the divine, and a magical f*cking unicorn of a goddess. and i now do whatever it takes every day to remember that. a goddess nurtures her muchness. it took me YEARS to understand the importance of this concept, which is a form of self-care. creating practices around pouring into yourself is crucial for a goddess in a world that may not understand or care about your worth and gifts. but no one needs to understand what you have to offer – all that matters is that YOU know who you are. everyone is not going to cheer for or support you (and that does not make them wrong), so we need to know how to champion ourselves! people will not always “get” you but that doesn’t make you any less fabulous! the second you depend on someone else’s opinion of you, you give them power over your life, and we all know that people, despite their best efforts, will disappoint you. the only thing that is eternal and unchanged and that should have power over your life is the love of God and you, my love, are an extension of this light! remember who you are!

as difficult as it can be, we must remember to not identify with temporary (and often meaningless) outward conditions. this too shall pass. you are not any less amazing, kind, loving, smart, capable, strong, or magnificent during a difficult season – you are still you! make pouring into yourself a DAILY practice. meditate on a mantra that compliments you, and makes you smile and feel good. i love to say “i am a goddess and a light”– i cannot help but smile when i say it. whenever i feel down, i say it over and over and reach for the feelings that align me to the truth of that statement. while you may lose your muchness for a spell, you are not like alice, pretty girl – you will always rise again! your muchness is right there waiting for you to claim it and stand boldly in its power. and so it is!

blessings😊  

meditation moment: create your own personal mantra to have in your toolbox in case you start to question your muchness! it must be something that makes you feel loved and nurtured (i.e., “i am well-able and fabulous”, “i am confident and strong”, etc.). keep it top of mind, goddess – you got this!

let’s discuss – log in to disqus to comment! you are a goddess – love yourself! now go do your work 😊 until next time!