MamaofthreewithBPD

Learning to live and love with BPD after 32 years.

[awesomacious]

One of the best moments

[theonenonlyrach]

Relatable.

[ruinedchildhood]

[Retweet]

[theonenonlyrach]

I'm not crying, you're crying.

[advice-animal]

Kinda wholesome

[advice-animal]

I should do this

[theonenonlyrach]

AMA: I Have Borderline Personality Disorder

Diagnosed at 27, I have spent the past five years learning everything there is to know about my diagnosis, causes, struggles and my flaws. I would love for people to hear a story that leads to success, not the ones we always hear about the "lost causes." BPD is treatable and manageable, even if that can start at a snail's pace. Ask me anything. No question will be disregarded, even ones made in jest.

[theonenonlyrach]

Female Friends in Awkward Situations, Weird Read

This story popped into my head today and I was curious about other females. Please read.

Once, forever ago (see: two years at most) my friend at the time and I went to a club. She was clearly wasted and uncomfortable by a guy's very handsy advances that she repeatedly rejected and he repeatedly ignored her refusals so I did what ANY friend would do. But for funsies, why don't you guess what it was?

1) Politely remove my friend from the situation and leave the bar.

-or-

2) Give the guy an earful, make a scene and have security escort us out?

TRICK QUESTION. I pretended to pass out, going so far as allowing people to help carry me (whilst fully aware of my surroundings and a couple other girls in on it) and got us out of the bar.

Sounds stupid, even dangerous, it's a lie, why not just be up front? I'll answer.

She WAS up front. He pushed hard enough to make her give up. Why don't I try the original options? Because here is what could happen.

Say I politely reject him FOR my friend. This will inevitably leave cause for him to ask her himself, again. She is clearly not comfortable enough to verbally express her distaste... And can land us in square one, where her silence is seen as tacit compliance. Then anything I say from that point on will also be ignored.

I could try politeness and then escalate to "do you understand the words coming out of my mouth?!" ala Rush Hour but we're relatively small girls and security would likely have us put up too, unless we happen to get one in a good mood. After all, I WOULD BE running my mouth.

Security has a lot going on and getting them to help a woman who is uncomfortable versus in actual trouble can be complicated.

What I did was nuts. Batshit crazy. But it worked. I've had examples of similar moments where I just politely told the guy my friend wasn't interested and they took it graciously so save the not all men shenanigans, I know. But I can't possibly be the only female who has had to come up with some kind of story to get out of a random situation. Maybe not as weird and dramatic as my version but another. Please share below.

[meantfortheshore]

[moremetalthanyourmom]

Okay but after seeing this I started doing it too and it’s amazing how many men I’ve run into bc they expected me to move

[youcangofindatree-deactivated20]

Gotta try it

[clevermanka]

I work (and walk) on a college campus. I’ve lost count of how many men I’ve smacked shoulders with.

[emmagrant01]

Recently, I was standing outside my son’s classroom waiting to talk to his teacher. I stood on one side of the hallway, not even close to the center. At some point, a man came walking along. I was standing right in his path, but the hallway was empty, so I logically expected him to swerve around me. Instead he kept walking right toward me, got to me, and stopped, as if waiting for me to get out of his way. I didn’t; I just smiled politely at him. He finally walked around me, clearly annoyed that I hadn’t leapt out of his manly path.

Now I’m wishing I’d leapt aside, taken off my jacket and laid it on the floor before him, then bowed deeply and said, “My Liege!”

[mercurialkitty]

I also work at a college campus. I smack shoulders sometimes, but I find that if I stare straight ahead and follow the advice below, people get the heck out of the way.

[songbirde108]

Honestly this post changed how I carry myself when walking alone in public, or in a situation where I’m the one leading. People definitely move for the murder gaze.

[onethingconstant]

Confirmed. I once had to rush back inside a convention hall as the con was closing in order to a retrieve a sick friend’s medication, and I didn’t understand why people in the crowd were jumping out of my way (literally—one guy vaulted a table) until I realized I was dressed as the Winter Soldier and doing the Murder Walk because that’s just how I walk in those boots. I got the meds, got out, and made a mental note.

I repeated the experiment later, wearing the boots but otherwise my usual clothing and mimicking the expression I thought I’d had at that moment. People parted like I was Charlton Heston.

I now wear that style of boots whenever possible. I recently had a man do a double-take as I walked by and ask me, politely, where I had served because I “looked like a soldier.” I’m not current or former military. I was wearing a flowy purple peasant top and looked as un-soldierlike as possible.

Moral of the story: wear comfortable shoes, square your shoulders, and walk like you’ve been sent to murder Captain America.

[naeonnoir]

WALK LIKE YOU’VE BEEN SENT TO MURDER CAPTAIN AMERICA

[retroasgardian-deactivated20180]

[spiduhgirl]

It’s called the Murder Strut.

[elegantmess100]

IT’S BACK!!!!!! I was searching for this to show my daughter the other day and couldn’t find it. I’m so glad IT’S BACK!! I will always reblog the Murder Strut!!

[b3gayd0crim3]

A guy on a bike went around me because he could tell I had no intention of moving. Thanks to this post.

[daybreak96]

This post went from Scientific to Feminist to Educational to HILARIOUS!

[radiotopia]

#make men get the fuck out of the way 2k17

[angryschnauzer]

I do this now. Stand my ground. Men look flabberghasted that i wont move out of the way. The most annoying thing is when i’m walking along holding Superpups hand (he’s 2.5 years old), and people walk right up to us and expect to go between us… so for me to let go of my toddlers hand for the sake of them. One person i actually had to put my free hand out and onto their chest to block the person to stop before they ploughed into us.

[theonenonlyrach]

at The Children's Hospital at OU Medical Center

[theonenonlyrach]

#theotherrachel #hemonc #theboywholived

[theonenonlyrach]

One eyeing it today. #fouryearold #birthdayparty #fml

[theonenonlyrach]

I slept my day away. Crap.

[theonenonlyrach]

#beingsilly #momsworkisneverdone #oldestson #underarmour #theboywholived #paintball

[theonenonlyrach]

We'll never forget and my children will always know.

[theonenonlyrach]

#oneofus #theboywholived #survivor #oldestson

[theonenonlyrach]

#paintballday #paintball #finally

[theonenonlyrach]

I'm very blue today. #makesmefeellikeriverdancing

[theonenonlyrach]

We need more teachers like this.