How to lose a guy 10 different ways...
Us girls are always making classic mistakes when we enter in a relationship with guys. In my single state, I've been doing a lot of reflecting and observing and have complied this list of simple mistakes that WE ALL make and ways to counteract them.
Not starting like you want to finish- From day one when you begin dating a guy, you need to be clear about what you are looking for. A guy already knows where it's going, even if he doesn't tell you, so speak up. The issue here is that as women we are fearful that if we open with what we want, he may not stick around. And YES you're right, BUT he's not worth it, if he can't live up to your standards.
When he shows you who he is, You think he will change (HE WONT BELIEVE HIM AND MOVE ON). Every girl secretly wants to think that she is so amazing that even the most stubborn guy will change for her. HE wont. He will change when he's good and damn ready and that may or may not be when he's dating yo ass.
Being afraid to establish a timeline-When you set goals for your life, they should always have a timeline. The easiest way not to meet your goals is giving yourself an infinite amount of time to achieve them. The way you interact with guys is no different. If you're just dating a guy, there's nothing wrong with deciding, I am not going to sleep with him until we've been dating for a certain amount of time. Or if you are already in a serious relationship, you should not be afraid to say, I don't wanna be a girlfriend for the next ten years, I want to be a wife eventually, which brings me to the next mistake...
Being afraid to establish what exactly your relationship is-THIS IS THE AHA MOMENT LADIES SO LISTEN UP. No matter what the consequence, the conversation of what you're doing with the guy you're dating has to happen. If not, you will roll along in life for years being exclusive to a guy who may or may not be exclusive to you. I realize he may not say what you want to hear, but at least you will know and can act accordingly.
Showing all your cards-There are fundamental differences between a jumpoff, main chick, girlfriend, and a wife. ACT LIKE IT. Keep him on his toes waiting for what you will reveal next. For each level of relationships, a guy should have to earn certain things (you can decide what those are) BUT he should NEVER receive all of you without giving you the same (THIS MEANS EXCLUSIVITY).
Don't forget why he choose you-The biggest issue with complacency in a relationship is that you tend to stop doing the things that got you in the relationship in the first place. Like don't start wearing granny panties around the house when you used to stay in lace thongs 6 months ago. Men have ADHD when it comes to relationships, if they become distracted and find someone else that excites them, it's pretty much over. In his eyes, you should always be getting better. This is why #5 is key because if he's always earning new things as your relationship improves, he'll never get bored. GET IT?
Know when to punish/walk away - Sometimes negative reinforcement is necessary. Men will do what you let them do. If he does some shit you don't like....TELL HIS ASS. If he hangs up in your face....DON'T call his disrespectful ass back and refuse to communicate until he apologizes. If he disrespects you in anyway that you feel is intolerable...WALK AWAY....it doesn't have to be forever but there's something to be said when he knows that you will walk away when he does something that you refuse to deal with.
Don't think you're special. If he did it with you, he will do it to you-Close your eyes and Imagine being a girl and having your man taken away from you. EXACTLY, shit sucks. SO DON'T DO IT TO ANOTHER CHICK. Karma's a bitch, remember that.
Stop telling your girlfriends all your damn business-This is self explanatory. The energy you spend telling your girls how mad he made you today, is the same energy you could use to communicate properly with your significant other.
Not knowing what you want- The most important relationship you can have is the one you have with yourself (s/o to Sex and The City). Until you know and love yourself, you're going to look to others to fill voids that can't be filled by anyone but you. A relationship is a merging of two individuals, and if you're not bringing a whole piece to the table, please don't expect him to bring his half and fill the rest of yours too. Take the time to get to know you, BE single, date without attachments. LIVE GIRL!