if i look back, i am lost
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he wasn't even looking at me and he found me
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Polyamory
Reblog if you’re polyamorous/open to polyamory in the future/in a polycule or open to one/interested in polyamory I want to see how many of us there are
And like if you think polyamory is okay, can be healthy, and doesn’t “go against human nature”
You know it’s time to move on when …
1. They treat you as if you are not important.
2. They prioritise other people and things over you.
3. They show more interest in another person.
4. They push you away when you try to get close
5. They deliberately hurt you, and they don’t seem to care.
6. They complicate life in unnecessary ways.
7. They leave you feeling miserable, unwanted and upset.
5 simple exercises to awaken dormant muscles
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5 simple exercises to awaken dormant muscles
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imagine the woman you want to become. think of what her daily life looks like. her habits. her routines + her actions. start showing up to these commitments. start building upon them. step by step. day by day. you don't become her overnight. you start somewhere. anywhere. you become so invested and consistent in everything you do to build her.
How to Stop Being a People Pleaser
1. Recognize that you have choices. Usually people-pleasers feel as if they don’t have a choice, and they have to say yes when someone asks for their help. But you DO have a choice – and it’s Ok to say no.
2. Decide on your priorities. If you already have commitments or you have set priorities then it’s easy to say no as you’ve a genuine excuse. Do what matters most to you, and remember - it’s your life!
3. Stall for time – don’t give an answer right away. Say you need some time before you make up your mind. That allows you time and space to think about the consequences. For other things will likely suffer if you take on far too much.
4. Don’t be afraid to add conditions to your yeses. For example, say you’ll only say yes if someone else says yes as well – or only take on a new task for a set period of time.
5. Are you being manipulated? There are plenty who will use you to help their plans succeed. So so watch out for those compliments and empty flattery.
6. Be firm when you say no. The first time you say no it feels uncomfortable and hard. But once you’ve done it a few times it starts to feel much easier. Also, if you sound confident then others take you seriously.
7. Don’t defend you decision. You have a right to say no – and to NOT defend yourself. It’s your life after all. You don’t have to explain why, or come up with excuses, or be pushed and pressurised. Also, don’t apologise, Saying no is not a crime.
Green Flags in People 💚
They speak clearly, listen to you carefully, and are honest when they talk.
They understand and respect your personal space and limits.
They show they understand and care about your feelings and what you're going through.
You can count on them because they do what they say they will.
They know what they're feeling and handle their emotions well. They also understand how you feel.
They have their own hobbies, friends, and things they like to do.
They help you and are excited when good things happen to you.
They stay calm and solve problems without being mean or avoiding them.
You both like some of the same things and believe in similar ideas.
They admit when they make a mistake and don't blame others all the time.
They generally look on the bright side of life but are still realistic.
They are open to new ideas and want to keep getting better.
You feel happy and full of energy after spending time with them.
You don't have to act differently; you can be who you really are.
When you're with them, you don't worry and feel secure.
You don't have to be careful with your words; you can say what you think.
Green Flags in Communication 💚💬
"I want to know when I hurt your feelings."
This shows they are willing to understand and acknowledge the impact of their actions.
"I don't want you to feel alone in this."
This shows empathy and indicates that the person is supportive and does not want the person to deal with issues alone.
"I've been struggling with ___”
This demonstrates vulnerability and trust, as the person is open about their struggles.
"How have you been feeling about ___? I know it's been on your mind a lot."
This shows concern for the other person's issues or worries, showing that they are listening and care about what's important to the other person.
"I feel __ when you __; are you open to trying __ next time?"
This is an example of constructive communication.
"What do you need from me when this happens with your family?"
This shows awareness and sensitivity to the persons family dynamics and a willingness to provide support.
"I appreciate when you ___.”
Expressing appreciation is vital for positive reinforcement and acknowledging the efforts and qualities of the other person.
"I didn't handle that well."
This is a sign of self-awareness and accountability, recognizing one's own mistakes and being open to learning and growth.
"I'm sorry, I was wrong to say that. I'll try to be more mindful in the future."
Shows you are able to apologize genuinely and a commitment to improving behavior.
"Tell me more about that; I'm really interested in hearing your perspective."
Indicates a genuine interest in the other person's thoughts and feelings.
"I noticed you seemed a bit off today. Is everything okay?"
It shows you are attentive to the other person's emotional state and a readiness to provide support.
"I'm here for you, no matter what you need."
Offers unconditional support, creating a sense of security in the relationship.
"I love how passionate you are about your hobbies. It's inspiring to see."
Expresses admiration for the other person's interests.
"Let's work on a solution together. What do you think would be fair?"
Focusing on collaboration rather than conflict.
"I trust your judgment on this."
Trust and respect for the other person's decision-making abilities.
"Your happiness is important to me. Let's make sure you're taking time for yourself."
Prioritizes the other person's happiness and emphasizes the importance of self care.
"It's okay to feel that way. Do you want to talk about it more?"
Validates the other person's feelings.
"I appreciate how you handled that situation. You're really good at ___."
Praises specific strengths or skills, boosting the other person's self-esteem.
"I know we disagree, but I respect your point of view."
Acknowledges differences in opinion while still maintaining respect and understanding.
snoopy of the day
"My biggest regrets in life are being too damn nice, apologizing when I didn’t do anything wrong, and making unworthy people a priority in my life." - LOMASDOPE.COM
"You sometimes think you want to disappear, but all you really want is to be found." - Kid Cudi
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How to Love an Introvert
1. Try not to take their need for space personally. It doesn’t mean they don’t love you.
2. Don’t try to fix them. Accept an introvert for who they are and they’ll be loyal to you for life.
3. Know that introverts don’t let many people in, so you must be pretty important to them.
4. Introverts hate confrontation. Give them time to process things instead of pressing for immediate answers.
5. If you want an introvert to open up more, truly listen without interrupting when they do talk.
6. Recognize an introvert’s need for alone time is crucial to their health and happiness.
7. Know that introverts are fiercely loyal when they love someone and they expect the same in return.
IntrovertSpring.com
Normalise boys needing to be cuddled, held and have their hair played with pls
