Transmasc Advice Center

Eddie | he/him | auDHD | ftm | 19 | bisexual

[transmasc-advice-center]

Hey!

My names Eddie, and i’m a 19-year-old trans guy! I’m one year on T and pre-op, and i’ve been socially out since I was 12.

I started this blog to help out any fellow trans mascs who might be going through some shit or want to talk with someone who’s been transitioning for awhile.

If you’d like any advice or just wanna chat, my asks box and DMs are open. I welcome any and all trans people to chat, but if you want advice i’m more experienced with trans-masculine things.

Enjoy your stay, love yall🏳️‍⚧️💜

[transmasc-advice-center]

Idk if I need advice or just someone to have a conversation about this with..

So I changed my name socially in early December coming up on two years ago. I still like the name. my family only calls me a shortened version of it and I'm kinda tired of it. but if I change that then why not change the whole thing because the whole name reminds me of an abusive ex whatever they were to me

I feel bad for changing my name partly because of my family. the permanence of going to legally change my name (hopefully soon) is making this harder. AND I still like the name

I also know I'm autistic and I have hyperfixations that affect everything. So if I change my name what if I don't really like it anymore, I wanna change it because of an actor in a show I really really really like.

Yes I'm the same anon as before 😭 @i-still-wanted-to-be-tagged 🫪

Hey!

Welcome back! It's good to hear from you again.

I dunno if I've mentioned this before on this blog, but I changed my name 7 times before I finally decided. SEVEN.

It can be awkward to change your name after you've been going by it for awhile, but it's not unusual or impossible. It's your transition, and you deserve to have a name that brings you joy.

There's an amazing website called The Pronoun Dressing Room where you can try out names and pronouns, and see what makes you feel good.

Even if you've changed your name legally, you can always change it again. It's a hassle, but you should do what brings you joy. It's YOUR name, nobody else's, and it should make you happy.

Love ya, stay cool🧡

-TAC

[transmasc-advice-center]

I don't know what my identity is but for now I'm going by transmasc transneutral boyflux

I'm a minor and I've been out as nonbinary to my family for two years now

My parents and I recently had a conversation about legally changing my name and sex marker. My mother was really dead set on changing my sex marker to M even though I've never expressed that that's what I want and the only thing even close was I told a doctor when they asked my pronouns they/them and he/him. And I think she's only doing it to try to give me male privilege but it sucks cause at the same time she's been being sexist against all men.

I want an M but she's making me not want it because of how she is.

And she keeps saying shit that is mildly transphobic/misgendering me and I don't know what to do. She's the kind of parent that is like "stand up against authority but absolutely never if it's me or I will guilt trip you about how I'm never heard because I'm a woman and I'm kind"

@i-still-wanted-to-be-tagged

Hey Nonnie!

Being around people who are ignorant or spiteful can be incredibly draining, and can even lead tog to doubt yourself. Try to always remember that your identity is valid and your feelings matter, despite the feedback you may be receiving.

I was not able to do much beyond socially transition as a minor, which was incredibly frustrating, but also in hindsight forced me to think deeper about my transition goals.

My advice to you is to keep learning about yourself and what you want. Find people who will give you positive feedback and reflect the love you show them. Those people will make the waiting bearable until you can legally do things without the assistance of your parents.

Keep experimenting, keep learning, and keep talking with your parents about your identity and goals. No matter how hard it is to discuss, often times it is better to remain honest and give them the privilege of your trust. Isolation will only make things worse.

Remember you are loved, your feelings are important, and that you are not falling behind. It is never too late to change your mind, your name, or your goals in life. Humans are meant to evolve, and being trans is inherent to the human experience.

I'm here if you want to chat or follow up ever, I love connecting with other transmascs.

-TAC

[homoidioticus]

Commenters praise the girls frugality

[bace-jeleren]

[ratbastarddotfuck]

Reblog if you’re part of a hostile nation that’s declared war on Australia

[mycroftrh]

Oh my god though guys you don’t know the best thing!  The best thing is: he’s right.

The Gay and Lesbian Kingdom of the Coral Sea Islands is a micronation near Australia.  This is their flag:

The Gay Kingdom (as it is colloquially known) was founded in 2004 in protest against Australia’s legal stance against same-sex marriage.

Here are some of their stamps:

They are currently ruled by Emperor Dale I, and their currency is the Pink Dollar.

And, indeed - they declared war on Australia for not recognizing same-sex marriages performed outside the country.  (Second link.)

[sailurmars]

You’re telling me there has been a Gay Island this ENTIRE TIME and I’m only just finding out about it????

[feitanswife]

WHAT

[gondorsfinest]

okay, but not enough people know the details on this. people at pride were upset about gay rights in australia. so they decided to sail 200 miles into the coral sea just ‘cause and put a rainbow flag on a fucking empty island out of spite. and i’m talking empty. no inhabitants. zero. it was a flat piece of land with a bit of dry grass. now it has a camp site and a post office. 

they have a declaration of independence that talks a bit about gay rights and then just flat out copies the “life liberty and the pursuit of happiness” part from the american declaration of independence. and here’s the best part: the founding group actually elected their emperor. he was originally going to be called the “administrator” of a republic. their website, however, says that “upon legal advice, his title was changed to that of Sovereign on the grounds that under Australian law a defacto prince trying to claim his crown cannot be charged with treason”. so they made it a kingdom and he now claims to be a descendent of edward ii.

everything about this is glorious and everyone should know about it.

Keep reading

[ileolai]

Not one of you mentioned that the anthem for this nation is I Am What I Am by Gloria Gaynor. Not. One. Of. You.

[ebonykain]

This is the greatest thing I’ve ever read

[faejilly]

Highlights from the timeline via wikipedia as this thread is from 2017:

As previously mentioned, the idea originated at Pride (Brisbane 2003) in reaction to punitive anti-marriage legislation

“On the 14th day of June 2004, at this highest point in the Coral Sea, Emperor Dale Parker Anderson raised the gay rainbow flag and claimed the islands of the Coral Sea in his name as homeland for the gay and lesbian peoples of the world. God Save our King!”

The campsite/capital Heaven was named after the London nightclub

War was declared on Australia in September 2004

The aforementioned stamps were issued in July 2006 “with the aim of creating a high and distinctive reputation amongst the philatelic fraternity”

They were never recognized legally/internationally as a micronation (and in fact Anderson refused to attend a conference in 2010 because they weren’t actually trying to be a sovereign nation)

In Feb 2017, Abetz was objecting to the flag of a “hostile nation” being flown

The Gay and Lesbian Kingdom of the Coral Sea Islands was dissolved in November 2017 (when same-sex marriage was legalized)

[transmasc-advice-center]

hi!!!!

so i need some advice....

I've identified as non-binary for the last 5 years and have completely social transitioned in that aspect, they/them pronouns, name change, etc. However, recently I've been thinking more about my gender and I think I might actually be a trans guy rather than nb. There have been many instances, recently and in the past, that make me question my gender again and I need some advice and ig trans man professional options lol

For example, when I legally changed my name (~3yrs ago) I purposely choose an extremely masculine name because "it would be funny to see people confused." Really though I think I was just dressing up my desire to be more masculine as a joke to like idk "get away with it" while having the name people actually call me be the shorter gender-neutral version.

When I was a kid I would basically dream and imagine what it would be like to have a d!ck which as a kid meant wondering what it would be like to pee standing up (lol).

I first started experimenting with my gender in 2020, as so many people did during quarantine, and I tried out many different pronouns with my friends and I always felt happiest when someone called me "he." But I later ended up going with "they/them" as my preferred pronouns because I started out identifying as genderfluid and they/them, I thought, encapsulated that the best. Eventually though, that later devolved into me identifying as nb and keeping they/them around.

I came out at school and had everyone call me they/them and my new name. In the beginning it was really that simple and that felt good-ish. But after a few years, the general consciousness at my school got "less woke" is the best way to put it and I started getting misgender a lot more often. I tried correctly people for a while, but it got so exhausting that by the start of my senior yr of hs (this year) I kinda gave up entirely.

And let me tell you, being called "she" makes me actively want to jump out a window (hyperbole I'm not suicidal!). It is just wrong, entirely wrong and I feel like maybe my stronger gender feelings as of late has been a response to the constant misgendering I've experienced at school rather than being transmasc? But at the same time, I was always happier being called "he" it's only now that I realize it. And I don't really feel comfortable telling anyone that I'd rather use "he/him" because I know people at my school won't accept me and I know they already have zero respect for me as person because I'm visibly queer. So for a couple months I've felt like it's pointless and that I'll just get ostracized further, so why tell anyone?

One of my closest friends is actually a passing trans guy, let's just say Chris, and I've had my far share of in depth talks with him in the last couple months about maybe being a guy. He's the only person I've actually told about questioning my gender and those conversations have been really wonderful. He's suggested many things to me to make me feel better about my identity, but most of them I've felt to scared to implement because it involves too much vulnerability to admit to people. Being trans masc and telling other people about it feels like sharing a very personal and intimate thing with the world, and it's also a fact that I'm not 100% sure about which has pushed me off telling anyone else.

My close friends would be supportive of me and I know my family would be as well. But I can't really bring myself to tell anyone else anything about my gender because of how vulnerable it feels and how suffocating my school environment is.

Luckily for me my last day of HS was the 10th!!! But now I kinda feel like I should... do something about my gender without the pressure of my evil hs....? but I don't know what to do? or if I'm actually transmasc?

I've always been very feminine as a child and even after I came out at nb yk dresses, makeup, and the like and I've always felt neutral about it? I've never felt happy to be feminine, it just was a fact that I accepted. It never felt particularly "wrong" until a couple months ago when I really started to question my gender.

I've dressed masc from time to time over the years since I came out at nb and I've had days in the past where I've felt like being feminine would make me explode. But, I've never felt like this so constantly and for so long. I don't know if I was ignoring the feelings in the past or if they been accentuated recently.

For example, for senior prom, I wore a dress and for like a couple days leading up to the event I felt like throwing up and throwing the dress away, a feeling I never told anyone about. But I didn't do any of that and I wore that dress to prom and I thought it was a really cute fit but I didn't feel particularly excited or extremely happy to be feminine.

For my graduation ceremony, I cried to my mom about not wanting to wear a dress or a skirt because I hated the idea of looking like a girl for such an event and we ended up going out and buying dress pants for me to wear. I felt much happier wearing pants.

But for so long I've felt so neutral about my body and my gender that I'm like confused now. I never really thought about being a guy before, in fact I've gone through periods of time when I thought I was just a cis woman who didn't like experiencing misogyny and then distanced myself from womanhood but that was definitely wrong. But I've been think about being a guy and I think my life would just be better if everyone perceived me as a guy? So that makes go back to questions because am I guy or do I just want other people to think I'm a guy and treat me like one? is there a distinction?

Idk and I hate not knowing!!! I feel scared that I'm somehow faking it or that if I do anything I'll regret it? ...

idk what to do from here or what else to say. Any advice in general or for next steps would be appreciated.

Thanks for reading all this.

Hey Anon!

Thanks for reaching out! Talking about gender stuff can be super awkward and weird, so I'm glad you chose to drop me an ask!

You are not alone in being unsure if you're nb or transmasc, or identifying with both at different times in your life. I came out as nonbinary and used they/them pronouns for a couple of years before realizing Im a man and transitioning medically and socially to male.

My best advice to you would be to experiment! Ask your friends to use he/him pronouns, change up your gender expression, and see what makes you feel best. It's super frustrating to not know who/what you are, and I've found the best way to combat that is to fuck around and find out.

Also, if you're going to college in the fall, this could be a great time to try out new expression or a new set of pronouns! Same goes for a new job, moving out, etc. Anytime that you get to be around new people is a great opportunity to share a new name/pronouns without people's preconceptions of you.

My final piece of advice is to remember that there is nothing wrong with changing your mind. You're young, and you've got your whole life to find out who you are and find out what makes you happy. If you identify as male right now but you don't in 10 years, that's okay. I found that I have never regretted the decisions I made in my transition that didn't last forever (old names, pronouns, etc). Everything you're doing has value because it's helping make you happy and comfortable in your own skin.

So change up your pronouns, get an adventurous haircut, try out binding or packing or hormones. You will find what makes you happy. And if it stops making you happy, that's okay! You are allowed (and encouraged!) to change❤️

Don't be afraid to reach out if you need anything or just want to talk. My door is always open

-TAC

[mynameforthiswebsite]

LGBTQ Acting Hateful

The LGBTQ community is not just about securing bedroom-rights. LGBTQ community-members are promoting Marxism and posting their sexual fantasies about people.

Sex-Pest Transgender Advocates Posting Their Sexual Fantasies About People.

A significant number of transgender people pester heterosexuals for unwanted homosexual sex and pester homosexuals for unwanted heterosexual sex, trying to demonize both heterosexuality and homosexuality.

A substantial number of transgender people coercively deceive heterosexuals into unwanted homosexual contact, which is sexual assault/rape. Deceiving one’s partners about his biological sex vitiates informed consent. See here. A transgender person and a transgender advocate defend the practice.

Transgender advocacy is attacking society.

Is such hate part of LGBTQ culture? 🙄

Related Article: Gender dysphoria (or transgender identity) is strongly associated with left-wing political views

[smallratboy]

I loooove being a pervert!!

oo i'm freakyyy and horny oooo im gonna make you gayyy

Keep it up cause I'm only going to get weirder. You can't fathom the levels of freak that I can reach

[mellifluouscountess]

Let it be known that this blog celebrates the T in LGBTQ+

Trans rights are human rights motherfucker.

[dogboyapple]

inspired by my girlfriend ehehe

[queerpersonwhodosentknow]

holy fuck. please people spread the word.

moot- @pansexual-frog-offical

and some blogs im following- @satan-offical @pukicho @laciffo-natas @sapphic-offical @homosexuality-offical

[narinder-offical]

SHITSHITSHITSHITSHITSHITSHIT

@len-the-antagonist @7-eleven-offical @did-someone-say-divorce @unstable-bird @life-wife-stealer-gen @chickfila-offical @ena-the-eepy @satan-offical @pukicho @pokemonheritageposts @pokemon

[unstable-bird]

PLS SPREAD AWARENESS OF THIS

@dying-pen-offical @satan-offical plus @narinder-offical’s tags

[dying-pen-offical]

Woah WHAT the FFUUU—*gets run over*

@sacabambaspis-offical @ashelf66 @amnesia-offical @death-offical @grisha-offical @da-police-offical @britishtea-again @transmasc-offical @genderqueer-offical @unlabelled-offical @unshipper-offical @confused-cookie-blog @toaster-waffle-offical @satan-offical (sorry for tagging you again) @star-offical @evilpineapple-offical @no-one-offical @homosexuality-offical @herobrine-offical @somebody-offical uhm random people go!!!!

[britishtea-again-deactivated202]

this genuinely pisses me off

I get some people in this world are homophobic but do they really have to go this far but disrespecting their rights? OUR AMERICAN DECLARATION OF INDEPENDENCE STATES, FUCKING STATES, that EVERY yes EVERY SINGLE PERSON STANDING ON AMERICAN SOIL, must be treated with equality, additionally being provided with inalienable rights. This applies to trans people too. They are human, not an object to be throwing and putting labels on.

Why do the conservatives have to deny every queer thing? Like come fucking on, I get it that majority of you are respecting your religion but do you know the phrase “be yourself?” If a person isnt what they believe they are, let them modify into someone they think is them. God fucking dammit give me a break

uhm tags…?

@nefariouslittleschemer @paranoia-offical @s0l4rb4llsf4n @mtx-art @da-police-offical @moonjellyfisho @laciffo-natas @satan-offical (sorry again to u satan 😭) @no-one-offical @heterosexuality-official

[snurphlee]

please please please at least reblog this even if you don't live in the us!! i am so fucking pissed that this is happening as a trans teen. not only will it make it harder to be accepted in my red state of texas, it will put a target on my head even if my parents give permission for me to be marked as male. genuinely fuck the government.

@theloverislost @dandelion-cryptid @extra-extra-unhinged @youllstealannuduh @burnininhell @xxmichaelplayer1xx @gaysfordionysus @sunnfl0w3rr @b33brained @newsiesiswhyimhere @iheartgaymusicals @whimsy-creature @a-literal-tornado @newsiesforever1899 @specss-missing-shoe @frankenspade @crunchie-morris @viscupcakecait @crunchie-morris @eldest-daughter-syndrome @crazymadeline @atthispointeverythingischaos @daisygaiaz

[silly-blue-gosling]

keep trans kids safe

spread the word, even if you dont live in the U.S.

@boatemholes @itshamwich @aroace-ryland-grace @mostlyvoid-partiallyturtles @liamthesnail @echora-aura @spenchag @originalsphererook @twohourstoolong @llamasocks-lou @lessthcn3 @dino-the-raptor @bl00dlungs @theenickknack @thefourthnorn @xergogyl @xiomara-voidtree25

[echora-aura]

“If all you old men were hares on the mountain / how many young girls would take guns and go huntin’?” (Magnanimity by Rabbitology)

I saw this earlier this week. God I’m so tired of this goddamn administration. Keep trans kids alive and creeps away from our fucking bodies.

Tagging mutuals as always, thank you @silly-blue-gosling for the tag

@liamthesnail @sir-froggs @swagerly @lynx-of-clouds (Ik the rule but I’m breaking it bc this is important ^^) @hyperfixatedmythosgirl @stankycheez @ruginabug @buymyfinepies @randomperson3071 @crypticraccoon96 @m0thwithaflashlight @kounelisbrunch

@hashediedyet pls make a post abt this if you can 🩵

[randomperson3071]

HOLY FUCK

We can't let these creeps get away with this kind of shit. Please spread the word about this. GO MY MOOTS

@reshramlove1ob @sir-froggs @provvywovvy @baxs-tblr

[sir-froggs]

Some of my best friends and the greatest people I know are trans.

I will not stand for this BULLSHIT!

Even if this "might not effect you" WHICH IT WILL, REGARDLESS IF YOU'RE TRANS OR NOT! We shouldn't be letting this happen anywhere in the world.

Open tags, please reblog this!!!

@yes-your-ouppy @m0thwithaflashlight @provvywovvy @caminatiom @shamiisu @imabibich @duck-lorrd @bar0n19 @inky2cu @deepestbear-phantom @muted--dreamer @sellmyfinepies @kizili

Apologies if I've never tagged you in anything before, and this is the first time I'm tagging you, I'm aware I don't know a handful of you guys very well, and I know a few of you guys don't live in the US, but I'm hoping to spread the awareness as much as I can!

[s1cklysw33tt]

as a trans kid myself I am TERRIFIED it is absolutely sickening that the government thinks they have the right to do this.

@art1stxsl4sh @lucthekindahuman @theplanetmarzz @thec4rtyc4t @bl000dyyy

@lexilexipoowhereareyou @rawrxp-casper @yourmasteramon @m0nt3cr15t0 +open tags ofc

[lexilexipoowhereareyou]

This feels like it's straight out of a dystopian horror novel. I'm sickened by the kind of monsters that would do this when we have so much research proving that transitioning saves lives. They're planning on killing kids in the worst way possible, by torturing them until they see no other way out other than killing themselves. This is so utterly cruel. My heart goes out to any trans kid in the USA that's scared for their safety and future rn. Don't give up, we will get through this together.

@willgrahamsbum @theyaoimonster @talesofruby01 @freakomens @lethallyunfunny @milo-the-clown + open tags

[lethallyunfunny]

speechless. that's fucking terrifying.

@raventhecrispy-offical @art1stxsl4sh @willgrahamsbum2 @zianathebi @elliot-the-awesome @wtfhowdibecomehuumann @cornstarch-official @blahajajajajaj @nineinchneedles @mosqu1tobytes @maple-leifarts @g3rardbae @one-and-only-dandeo @otherworldly-official @uterus-stealer-offical @snailsrawesomeashell + open taga

[snailsrawesomeashell]

I’m not American, but I seriously fear for all our trans siblings over there. This is sickening. Spread the word and do what you can.

@genderlesgremlin, @tax-frogs, @cheesepurple63 @brasscyanide, @catastrophiccapybaraconundrum, @wordsmithofdoom, @i-am-an-omniscient-snail, @fullyconsumedbywhatlovesme, @rinnosetti, @shortshortking, @mybedismytruelove, @perryjhonsondemi-god, @monster-fucker69, @saggybraindumpz, @neuroqueerings, @katth3lesbian, @pileofjunk, @elijahscottkennedy, @kissmyfloppydisc, @compacteddisc + open tags

[brasscyanide]

i uh. Cant actually see what the video is and have no way of doing so but I assume it's important so. Spread the word!

@purplefoxandpinkbear @radiant-sunlight-angel @chimso-writes @aveilliam @stuffedmuffins @mult1star

[purplefoxandpinkbear]

I don't really know what to say, but this is truly just saddening to me. :(

@creator-ammy-tdm @idontknowwhatimdoingpleasehelpah @smallratboy @sector2007 @aveilliam @starfles @ruffled-wings @lukasdoodles @matchesandnaiils @holiknight @zer09ine @fomipop @rabbitinwolvesclothing @dazzlinggleamgirl @fnsarchive @rigm0rmortis @murkingstarlight @redstonqueen @efficiency100111is0010011key @thegermanuber2 @megurineluka-03 @troglodyke1895 @mcsm-official @jessef3maleredhairlclip @unikittybeforethereign @theynerd @degenyuriwriter @factory-reset-required @leviwashere0 @maskleo @t-bird510 @stroke-6028 @hensrathhh @jezabatlovesbats @solarstrange @beanieduzartz @wanderinaballerina @dollydoodles28 @manul-with-a-gun @spritey100 @flowermonse @starfire20012001 @danny-tdm @scarleteevee1 @diaperlukas @starteas @cmdr-fil @theoneandonlyalexbrine2025 @wherewelooking @nighting-crow @maddiedraws @blondislukas @deobiidraws @foshyfin @rat-man-in-a-trenchcoat @teaforthebarnowl @coldwintermoonrise @papercatsz @soulstice-0610 @emb3rdition @c00lgv1 @justbrokemynailbed @floaties-envy-jam @itsgirlcraft @ceo-of-kirbandee @br0ken-camera @dracl-dragon @vistorn @freakatron6000 @liltigerrose @vhylpist @cameronmitchelljohn @crystalheartstone @digitalflatulencetm @ender-niffler @melodyssolarsystem @zuliuli-main @a1denkinni3 @stag-beetle-baybe @fyrnacx @idiot-with-a-3ds @idiotinsuspenders @wetheblazerods @sst4rryyy @staarrgaazer

[mousidy]

"mtf" and "amab" voted worst acronyms of all time

[mousidy]

we don't need "leftist" ways of calling trans women male actually

[mousidy]

you can say trans woman. you can just say trans woman

[mousidy]

people will criticize tme/tma calling it "the new gender binary" and then go around calling people amab and afab as if they just ran a find and replace in their vocabulary for "male" and "female"

[mousidy]

"sex is what's in your chromosomes" is not a neutral statement. that's one of the main reductive oversimplifications that the right have been pushing about sex for years. sex is a combination of physical characteristics, many of which can be changed or removed in the process of medical transition. I cannot wrap my head around why other trans people are so happy to uphold regressive binaristic thinking like this

[mousidy]

[silyaspider]

The weird thing about "sex is chromosomes" (apart from being reductive, binaristic, and generally not true) is that this isn't how it has ever worked operationally. We don't check someone's chromosomes in order to assign either sex or gender. It's wrong as biology and it's wrong as sociology. That is not how our culture does it.

I don't know what chromosomes I have. Haven't seen 'em. So far as I know, neither has anyone else.

[nepharim-tree]

The "sex is chromosomes!!!" argument, in my mind, has parallels to the "God of the gaps" pattern in Christianity. Where the more we learn and are able to disprove one argument, the more the goalposts shift and retreat to a thinner definition.

"Sex is your body type" -> physique is massively variable and humans have very low sexual dimorphism. also societal factors massively influence body type.

"Sex is what genitals you were born with" -> intersex people with ambiguous genitalia + SRS being feasible both deconstruct this argument for immutable sex

"Sex is your hormones" -> HRT

And now we're at "sex is your chromosomes." First of all, again, most people don't know their chromosomes or anyone else's. We assume most people have XX or XY because that's what high-school level biology teaches, but again, the mere existence of intersex people blows this binary out of the water. It's a bad model.

But also, like... we've shown that all other sex characteristics are mutable with sufficient scientific advancement. We can change hormones, we can change general physiques, we can change genitals. Why should chromosomes be any different? People have been working on gene editing for years. What's to say that in the future we won't have some ability to give someone whatever chromosomes they want?

"Immutable sex" is a god of the gaps. it just doesn't hold up so it retreats into whatever it can

[jessie-elle]

Also (speaking as an English teacher here for a minute, I know my shit here), "male" is the adjective related to "man" and "female" the adjective related to "woman", in the same way that "maternal" is the adjective of "mother", "solar" is the adjective of "sun", etc. If you're a woman you're female, if you're female you're a woman, end of. One literally implies the other. The trans man calling himself "female" is misgendering himself, anyone calling a trans woman "male" is misgendering her (and most of the time doing it on purpose).

Aside from the whole idea of "biologically" male/female being bunk (see above), the whole notion that "male/female" without context/specifying refer to that is extremely recent and something TERFs have actively pushed into public discourse. That's simply not what those terms were understood to mean for most of my life and I'm not even that old. Anyone who uses "male/female" to refer to agab, congratulations: you're a rube and you don't know English.

[veliseraptor]

love writing a post and then discarding it immediately. microdosing on having an opinion

[tpwrtrmnky]

I do think "literally zero evidence indicates that gatekeeping medical transition does anything to prevent regret, but the harm done by gatekeeping is extensively documented" is a much stronger argument than "regret isn't real" cause there's always going to be some anecdote that puts you in a weak-looking rhetorical position for the latter, but the former is pretty unassailable.

[tpwrtrmnky]

You really need to approach this "debate" with an understanding that opponents of gender-affirming care are proposing treatments and methodologies backed by Jack Shit. "Gatekeep harder to prevent regret" has an equal amount of evidence backing it as "give them ivermectin to prevent regret" or "try to balance the humours?" or "try putting a scalpel in a glass of water then dilute that water at a 1:1000 ratio 40 times to make a homeopathic cure for the regret"

[batsandbutch]

@librarycards

[image description - Tumblr tags that read #we also desperately need to bring disability liberation particularly dignity of risk into the conversation #bc the violent ableism of the detrans/anti trans grifters is in many ways the fulcrum of their argument and overall politic #see also the discourse of med dependency and mutilation and psychosis/immaturity #it's ableism and sanism all the way down - TRANS PEOPLE NEED DISABILITY LIBERATION #WE WILL NOT WIN THIS FIGHT WITHOUT IT #cissexism]

[our-queer-experience]

i’m sure you guys have heard about kansas invalidating trans ids- just so you know it’s not all hopeless

[our-queer-experience]

hi did you know that trans christians spend their entire lives in faiths that try and convince them that on a cosmical level they should hate themselves and for them this would be emotionally fufilling? hi did you know that kansas is over 70% christian? hi did you know that just because you think atheism is the correct and the only thing that deserves respect that doesn’t mean that this isn’t incredibly impactful and meaningful for many people?

[donniehaspronouns]

reblogging this again to bring up that when my grandma said she didn’t understand trans people, and why would they betray the body God gave them, it would have been 0 help to explain to her all the biological and cultural and societal components to the existence of the concept of gender and trans people. You know what did make her pause and reconsider her stance? “Did you ever think that maybe God made trans people on purpose?” And we got to have a conversation about all the interesting things God has made so why wouldn’t God make trans people? And she came out of the conversation with more grace and understanding.

[tboy-cock]

hey so trans men are being forcibly detransitioned in prisons in the hopes to preserve their fertility. and the president admitted this but it didnt even start under him its been happening. why arent we talking about this? why isnt this a discussion?

[draggomon]

I know I'm trans fem but adding onto this since I'm a felon whose been inside and the issue is actually more fucked than it appears.

Part of why it isn't talked about is because of the method of detransition isn't always so black and white and it gives prisons a way to hide what they're doing. A devious and immoral slight of hand with the beurocracy.

When trans men are OFFERED to be put into the mens section, it's specifically as a threat. It's "Hey, we CAN put you with the other "men" but you know how men are....right? You KNOW how MEN ARE...right?"

There is a threat of rape and exploitation there far above what other inmates experience.

My pod mates were super chill with me being trans. Rules are different and you can't get offended easily, but it was the guards who kept touching me up, it was a guard who stabbed my hand with a pencil and gave me a scar there, and it was a guard who raped me.

So it's not just that trans men are being denied hrt and forcibly detransitioned.

It's that they are being told they have to pick between forced detransition in an environment where it will be AFAB bodied people exploiting them or they stick to their hrt and are in an environment where AMAB bodied people will be exploiting them.

These kinds of threats are big for trans people who are incarcerated. Many prisons and jails avoid it by just putting the person into lock down their entire stay (like me. My cell was 16 hand by 12 hands wide. I could walk my cell wirh 3 large steps. Sucked)

My language is imperfect but I hope my point is coming across that the issue is actually more devious than it comes across

[mousidy]

at my core I do just desperately want people to be normal to trans women

[trans]

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