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What happened to me is not your story to tell.

You only know a small part of my story, not everything. You weren't there during the hardest moments, and you don't fully understand what I had to do to get through them.

So stop acting like you know the whole picture. My experiences, my struggles, my growth are mine to share, on my terms. If you truly care, respect my boundaries and don’t speak on things you don't completely know.

My story is mine to tell, not yours to assure or shame.

Grief is such a traitor. One day you’re ok. Then out of nowhere, you’ll spiral down. 🫂

Pag nagstay parin yung tao sayo kahit mas matimbang na yung sama ng loob nya sayo kesa sa pagmamahal, maniwala ka sobrang mahal na mahal ka niyan!

Mas mahal ka pa nya kesa sa sarili niya, binalewala niya yung sakit na nararamdaman nya sayo ,para lang hindi ka mawala sa kanya at hindi kayo maghiwalay.

Maswerte ka kase ikaw na yung gusto niyang makasama hanggang sa pag tanda nya.

Tandaan mo bilang nalang yung ganyang taong buo pa din yung pagmamahal kahit nakita na yung pinaka madilim na parte ng pagkatao mo.

It hurts when people twist the story to fit what makes them look better. They cut parts out, erase their mistakes, and leave you looking like the villain. But deep down, you know what really happened. You remember every word, every moment, and every scar it left behind. You lived it. You felt every moment they tried to cover up.

There’s comfort in knowing you don’t have to lie to prove your side. Time has a way of revealing what’s real. You don’t need to shout or defend yourself to those who already chose a side. The truth may not be loud, but it never disappears.

You don’t need to fight for the spotlight or prove yourself to people who already chose sides. The truth doesn’t need to shout. It stays quiet, but it never disappears. One day, it speaks for itself.

No matter what you do, people will always have something to say. You can give your best, move with good intentions, and still be misunderstood. You can fall, make mistakes, and they’ll talk even louder. The truth is, the world will always have opinions, and not all of them will be fair. That’s just how it goes. So do what feels right for you. Live in a way that brings you peace, not just approval. You don’t owe anyone a perfect version of yourself just to silence their noise .Let them talk. Let them guess. As long as you’re honest with yourself, their words lose power. Keep going. You’re not here to impress, you’re here to grow.

I am replaceable in many aspects—at work, in friendships, even in love. Life keeps moving, people find new connections, and I quietly step aside like I was never a constant. It’s a hard truth to swallow, watching how quickly others adjust without me. But I don’t pretend to be perfect or irreplaceable. I just know that when I show up, I do it with everything I have. I give my time, my heart, my energy—not because I expect anything in return, but because that’s who I am.

My intentions are always honest. I don’t play games, and I don’t hold back. Even when I’m hurting, I try to show up with love. And maybe that’s what makes it harder—knowing I gave my all and still wasn’t enough to be someone’s “can’t lose.” But I hold on to the fact that my worth doesn’t vanish just because I was left behind. I may be replaceable in this world, but I refuse to let that make me any less real.

I no longer sit on tables where I don't feel like I belong. I don't want to force myself into some people's lives. I'll sit where I feel appreciated and valued. It's really tiring to be with the ones who can't offer genuine connections or even simple respect. I don't like being with people who never truly value my presence in their lives, and I hate to pretend that I need them. The only people I need in my life are those who make me feel loved and happy, not those who try to ruin my peace of mind.

I went through a lot in life, and I have learned that not everyone deserves my time. Not everyone is genuine. Some people are fráuds, and they will only drain my soul. I now make sure to only keep the ones who deserve to stay in my life, and I choose to let go of the ones who cannot see my worth. Perhaps I really changed a lot, and that's because I learned the hard way.

When you notice my changes, remember your actions.

I didn't become distant or guarded for no reason. Every shift in me was a response to how you made me feel-unheard, unseen, or unimportant. I had to adjust to protect my peace.

So before you point out how I've changed, ask yourself what made me feel like I had to.

You can't mistreat people and then act like they betrayed you. That's delusional. You can’t repeatedly disrespect someone’s time, energy, or emotions, and then play the victim when they finally decide to walk away. If someone gave you their loyalty, their patience, and their love despite the hurt you caused and you kept taking advantage of that, the moment they choose themselves over your mistreatment isn’t betrayal. It’s survival. When they leave, it's not out of cruelty it’s because they finally realized their worth.

When you're proud of me in private, but not in public, it hurts. I deserve to be celebrated and respected, not hidden. If I'm worthy of laughter, love, and quiet moments, why am I invisible when it matters most?

"MAHALIN MO ANG ASAWA MO,

Kung mabait ka sa ibang tao,

dapat mas mabait ka sa asawa mo.

Kung lagi ka andyan para sa iba,

dapat ganun ka rin sa asawa mo.

Kung kaya mo gastusan yung iba tao,

dapat mas kaya mong mag provide sa asawa mo.

Kung may respeto ka sa iba,

dapat mas mataas respeto mo sa asawa mo.

Kasi at the end of the day yung asawa mo lang din naman yung sinasandalan mo pag tinalikuran ka ng mundo." ❤️

In the end, hurting a good woman will only hurt you more… because not many genuine people exist. You might think she’ll always be there, or that someone else will come along… but when you hurt a woman who truly loves you, you’re not just losing her—you’re losing a rare kind of love.

The kind of love rooted in loyalty, kindness, and authenticity. The kind of woman who stood by you, saw the good in you, and believed in your best even when you didn’t. And when she’s gone, you’ll realize you didn’t just lose a relationship… you lost a partner, a best friend, a love that’s hard to find in a world full of temporary connections.

Because once a good woman walks away, she doesn’t look back. And one day, it’ll hit you… you never really understood what you had until it was gone.

-ctto

This is strange and funny. Those people will always complain and talk about how you reacted, but they will never talk about how they triggered you to react the way you did. This is why always be calm and cool. Respond

The old saying is "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never break me. Not true. Words carry the power to heal and words carry the power to hurt and harm. Words can't break bones but can break hearts 💔

Anger will pass but the mean words said will scar. Best to keep our peace and tighten our lips when

People who truly value you don’t let you slip away so easily. They fight for you, they show up, and they make the effort to keep you in their life. If they can let you go without a second thought, it’s a clear sign that their heart was never fully in it.

You deserve someone who sees your worth, who knows what a loss it would be to not have you around. If they’re willing to walk away, let them. The right person will never be okay with losing you—they’ll do whatever it takes to stay.

I wanna be a happy wife. A submissive wife. A glowy wife. I want my husband to love me and take care of me in ways money can't. I want random "i miss you" text when he's at work. I want growing together kind of love. I want random dates, flowers, forehead kisses and love letters.✨❤️

Maybe my "multo" is not a person but the old achiever in me- haunting me with every failure, whispering that I'll never be good as I once was and crushing me under the weight of my own expectation. I miss the achiever in me so much....

But soon.....I'll be back! Mommy duties my priorities first..

🙏 give me strength and peace of mind..

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