Whether it's a girlfriend-boyfriend relationship, or a marriage, or a friendship, or even a parent-child relationship.. It’s all I see around me, it’s happened to me.. Breakup and distance within family and lovers. Is it that we becoming more and more selfish?
Instead of working on our relationships with the people around us people take the easy way out. Nobody wants to sit down and calmly discuss the issue in hand.
Why? because giving up is the easy way out, whereas working on a relationship requires time, effort, understanding and patience.
People expect every day to bring them complete happiness..
Love isn't love letters and breakfast in bed everyday. Life is full of ups and downs and a relationship won't be any different. Just because you feel like the spark has gone, does not mean you should give up.
I hate how apt the awful life quote of the grass being greener on the other side is, it’s pathetic.
It might be, "His/her mum is so much cooler and laid back than you" or "see, how he treats his girlfriend like a princess", “Why can’t you be like this persons child, why do you have to be such hard work?”. People are too quick to forget the sacrifices their own significant others, or parents, or someone important makes for them.
It seems to be deeply ingrained in human nature to look out for something better which causes discard what should have been perfect for us for the most asinine of reasons. Somebody once raised the idea to me that we, as people don’t truly possess free will, and I think I am starting to understand where they were coming from. I didn’t think that I agreed with determinism at all, I thought it to be sophistry, lazy thinking. I thought that people who subscribed to these ideas were nothing more than nihilists, cynics, and simply didn’t give humanity enough credit. I am starting to believe see that people suffer from tribalism far more than I first thought.
Maybe it’s just because I have had a hard time this year that I am letting my mind contort in this fashion, but I don’t think I am imagining this. It’s ugly, even those of use who seem beautiful at first are truly vile. I guess i’m losing hope. People used to actually try, long before I was around at least.
It’s upsetting to realise that they only put the effort into their relationships because they HAD to, otherwise they would wither and die. You couldn’t just hop, skip, jump from one relationship to another, you had to make a family or you were fucked. Now? It doesn’t matter at all, and we are indulging our base desires and throwing everything that matters into the void.
I guess that one of the biggest harbingers of this awful reality has been the internet. A tool I love, don’t get me wrong. Though, I start to question whether or not the benefits outweigh the negatives. People have no sense of what is 'real' anymore. They hide behind their screens more than they actually talk. They have many other options in case the relationship doesn't work out, courtesy of social media. It’s sickening, what we are becoming.
I spent two years with somebody I thought may have been the one, and maybe she could have been, but she wasn’t strong enough to see it through. I can blame myself for wasting that time, I can blame myself for starving the relationship myself much in the same way I have illustrated above. I ran away from my problems. I however, wasn’t ready to give up. This is one of the many reasons I find myself feeling so alien and distanced from the rest of society.
We aim so high but we place less and less value in what matters. Why are we so broken? I used to sympathise with transhumanism, but how can I now that we appear to be going backwards so fast? Our technology may be advancing at a rapid rate, but our souls are degrading, regressing. We are becoming sentient shells, our vanity knowing no bounds with constant streams of selfies and endless selfishness.
I found out recently that my ex got straight onto Tinder, I think it was 1 month, maybe two after she ended things. It’s just that simple. I wonder what she has decided to do with that. Yeah, maybe she doesn’t want an actual relationship with anybody right now and just wants a hot dicking, that only draws a thicker, and thicker outline to the issue.
“I don’t want a relationship anymore..”
How do you wake up one day and decide that. I am starting to think her more and more naive as the days go by, it’s a shame I can’t shake her from my head. I guess I must somehow have that information ingrained into my genetics or something, I struggle to give up on relationships. I guess my ancestors done something right, either that or I missed some kind of indoctrination that society has began to spew at us.
I don’t think myself above others, and i’m sure I have been guilty of this sin at times in my life, I recognise it now though. I see how much it matters and I've learned a valuable lesson.. I just wish the rest of us would just wake up and begin rejecting this awful way of life, it’s only hurting us. It’s no wonder people are statistically fare more miserable than they have been in decades, don’t blame everything on terror and look in the mirror.
Maybe I should start some guerrilla counter-culture campaign, as silly as it sounds. Viral satire criticising this malignant way of life.
I don’t think I am going to even consider dating somebody in the future unless they can convince me that they do not have this modern disease.
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