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about me

julia | 28 | she/they

i enjoy writing sapphic domesticity with nervous system care ☁️

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you already have what you need to get through this. let me remind you of that while i’m here.

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i’ll sit beside you while you find your own steadiness again.

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it’s okay, my love. come here. let me take care of you. lay your head in my lap. let me help you return to yourself. i’ll brush the stray hairs out of your face. take your time. find your breath & follow it. can you stay like that for me? you’re not going to feel this way forever. you’ll grow through it. as you’ve done each time before. you can do hard things. good job, my love. carry your breath with you.

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unfortunately, the only way out is through it.

fortunately, you don't have to go alone.

let's walk together.

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you don't have to rush. you don't have to perform being okay. i'll sit with you while you find your way back.

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can you do something for me, my love? close your eyes & find your pulse. anywhere on your body. it could be your neck, wrist, or ankle. good job, baby. can you focus on that? notice how much pressure you're putting on that spot. notice how steady your heartbeat is. close your eyes & stay like that for five breaths. good. just like that, baby. when you're ready open your eyes & come back.

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i'm here.

take your time.

i'll be here when you're ready.

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gentle reminder: your judgments create distance. in that distance, resentment can grow.

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hi babygirl, how was your day? sounds like long day. do you want to talk about it or have self-care time? of course, you can have a hug, baby. come here. you need a moment? okay, we can stay like this as long as you need. look at me. what can i do? i can run you a bath & make you a snack. would you like that? yeah? let's do it, my love.

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keep showing up

keep being your authentic self

you can do this

i believe in you

be proud of yourself

i'm proud of you

that's all

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things are going to feel easier, my love

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good morning, my love. do you want to cuddle for a bit? c'mon here let me hold you. settle into my arms. press your cheek to my chest & relax into me. i'll give you soft kisses on your temple & play with your hair. i got you, okay? i promise you've got me, always. oh, that was a big sigh. getting comfortable, baby? good. focus on my voice. focus on my hands. focus on my breathing. you're safe, my love.

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hi my love,

what do you need to be 10 percent more relaxed in this moment? good job naming it, love. i know that can be tricky. now what's something we can do to help you settle another 5 percent? only 5 more percent. there has to be something teeny tiny we can adjust.

take my hands. let's take a breath together. feel your ribs move as you inhale. can you hold your breath longer than you normally would? bring your awareness to the pause. now slowly exhale. good job, baby. let's do one more. sometimes staying present is hard.

come on, my love, let's sit on the bar stools. i'll make your favorite tea. three cubes of sugar & a splash of milk. the kettle's broken, so the water's going to take longer than usual. in the meantime, i'll try to make you laugh & challenge you to an arm wrestling match. let's see if you can beat me. that will be fun.

if you win, can i have a kiss?

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i want to build a life i love, and if someone joins me in it, that would be wonderful

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hey baby, do you want to go for a bike ride? we can ride to the park & find a shady spot to set up a picnic. of course, we can find a place near the water. yes, i'll pack the hammock. how about we bring the book you've been reading? i can read to you while you rest in my arms. how does that sound, baby? nothing i'd rather be doing with my time than spending it with you.

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good afternoon, my love. i wanted to check in & see how you're feeling? how's your day been so far? what are you looking forward to? what are you thinking about? tell me everything, tell me anything, or we can sit in silence if you need that too. i want to be here with you. doesn't matter what that looks like, okay?