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beau; 26; it/he; plural; ΘΔ. nirvanna the band derangement era. you should look at my cat & add me on letterboxd :-) 🔪 7.8.2025

this is (usually) largely a horror blog, so i don't tag blood/gore/body horror/etc., but you can blacklist #horror. no dni list i'll just block you but no minors please! i block strangers like i'm paid to do it + i softblock if i don't want to follow back. no hard feelings. probably

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graceashcroft-deactivated202602

Shaun and Ed in SHAUN OF THE DEAD (2004)

#horror #shaun of the dead

I do think something happened to my brain to make me stupid and it's probably the sleep deprivation but what if I'm fucked

#🌹.txt #I never know what the hell is going on . !

melonflavored

I know we joke and all but i think my mind is destroyed for real

weedclown69

#ntbts #my best friend and his fiancé are both big into mtg so this is sort of what hanging out with them is like

jimprideauxs

Kubrick is getting NASA to make sure that his space movie looks like real space. And so we’re gonna use his space movie, to make sure the real space movie looks like space. — Operation Avalanche (2016) dir. Matt Johnson

#operation avalanche

basically everything is abysmal dogshit forever, but sometimes there's movies

Great moment

if a friend is experiencing/has experienced a loss and is grieving, and you don't have any experience in the arena of loss, please allow me to offer some advice on navigating conversations about the deceased loved one.

not every mention of their person is the saddest part of their day. sometimes saying "this was their favorite song" "oh they would have LOVED this" "God I wish they could hear the conversation happening at the next table" "I wish they were here" is lighthearted. the mention of their person can be joyful. or melancholic. or, of course, sad. it can be all of those things at once. but no matter, react to the sentiments as just another piece of the conversation.

you don't need to drop a 55 pound weight onto the conversation and stare at us in pity or silently stare in a combination of confusion and discomfort and sadness.

it's okay. we know they're dead. you acknowledging that in an equal state of nonchalantness will not shock us to death, it's not tasteless or crude. it's a relief. our dead people are still parts of our lives just like anything else, and giving your loved ones the space and comfort and safety to talk about their person is huge.

you can always respond by asking to hear more, by mimicking their tone. your friend laughs and says "they would have LOVED this", take it as a chance to learn why! was their favorite color yellow? did they love kitschy little throw pillows? did they utterly DESPISE kitschy throw pillows? are they referencing a specific story?

if they see someone that looks like their person and get a little sad, ask what reminds them of their person. what was their favorite feature of their person? does it make them mostly sad to see someone who looks like their person? did it make them feel a little bit happy for a moment?

we want to talk about our deceased loved ones. we yearn to mention people who shaped us. the way our society has conditioned us to behave around grief, to respond to the grieving, and to grieve ourselves is so backwards and void of empathy, so we often don't say what we wish we could say. (bell hooks has a wonderful chapter on this in all about love, new visions (ch 11))

by offering opportunities for people to reminisce you are truly making an impact and fostering a safe environment for those around you to grieve in ways we're often not offered.

#it's so alienating to be grieving and like. feel like you're making things weird just by existing #that's been one of the hardest parts for me I feel like a freak w this big Thing wrong with me that I can't talk about it it'll be Weird #and it's like. I feel like I should be embarrassed to keep putting things in my tag for him on here that I think he would like #like I feel like I look insane and depressing and like. I don't know. I do it because I want to and I like it when things remind me of him.#idk. this is a really good post #or it's not like I feel like I should be embarrassed i AM embarrassed I guess

pjackk

Dont be very woried about me since i deserve all of this

circusheart

I do think the post that's like "when they torture you to insanity and then torture you for being insane 😂🤣" is one of the most succinct and foundational analyses of interpersonal violence and conflict that had ever been written

#fucking lmao