Hey!
I'm sorry you experience the bad part of the fandom so much right now. It's really tiring. Whenever I'm on tiktok and open the comments it's always stuff like "oh, this is harco, right? Right???? That's the only way this could be nice."
Why can't we just enjoy different forms of art? Why do we have the need to put two queer characters into strict stereotypes even though being queer often is about not fitting the norm? Why is that the stuff we're talking about instead of discussing the characters themselves without putting the focus on their assumed gender and sex roles?
Also, I've experienced people intentionally attacking a (random?) person who creates drarry content. So this poor artist who just wants to be creative with characters they learned to love gets bashed af. As if the problem was people creating queer stuff based on a queerphobic story and not the queerphobic story itself which tries to push people like that creator down. That only results in people bashing queer stuff one way or another.
Don't get me wrong, I understand why this is a highly discussed topic and I think it's important to not consume HP related stuff without questioning the concept of it. But I simply see no harm in it. Honestly, during my life writing and reading HP/DM-fanfiction sometimes was the only thing that kept me going.
Well, idk, this actually is just me rambling but it makes me so mad and sad at the same time because this definitely isn't what made me fall in love with this ship. I guess I just wanted you to know you're not alone with your feelings.
I hope you're well, even though it's alright if not 🫶🏻
Exactly this! I never see Drarry because “THE SEX IS HOT” No, it's their dynamic and how people create their relationship and all stories that make me fall in love with Drarry!
The first Drarry fic that makes me fall in love with Drarry is HP-DM. And love every second of it.
But many stories that fit my taste are DMHP. But I found that many HP-DM stories have a trope that harms my journey as queer person. So I leave it, and I still cherish those amazing HP DM stories that made me fall in love with them.
And that's what makes it fun. Many people enjoying like this and that and there always a million way to have fun with the characters! It's giving more options on how people like it.
If you don't, rather than hate on it or shove it in people's faces, it's much more fun if you “oh okay, I have to fight and find people who also enjoy how I like my character being portrayed.”