In general, I'm pretty silent when it comes to social media, but I can't sit back and say nothing regarding this issue. For a very long time, I've thought Trump was a deplorable human being. I didn't know how so many others didn't see things the same way, but in general I try to be open-minded and respectful of the opinions of others. So despite the fact that I haven't spoken much about anything publicly, it seems timely to share how my writing experience has been.
Before I was published, I had watched many of my author friends go through the process. I thought I was prepared for the horrors of being on deadline. And I was. I was ready for the editorial letter, the bad reviews, the pure exhaustion. Only one thing completely took me by surprise: fan mail.
As one of the very few young adult Japanese American authors, I seem to draw many fans of anime and manga. Fabulous. I love both of those too. But what I didn't love were some of the messages I began to receive in which men and young teens thought it was perfectly fine to completely sexualize me—as if I'm not a real person. I've had threats of rape, gang rape, or death if I wouldn't add them on Facebook. I've had solicitations for naked pictures. I've had solicitations for different cosplay outfits they would like me to model, and I've been sent explicit images of positions they'd like me to be in when they rape me. I've received declarations of love and marriage proposals, which if they really knew me, they'd probably want to rescind both.
In the beginning, there were a few experiences in particular that made me afraid to leave my house. If you're wondering why I'm never on social media, this is part of the reason. Writers all experience some form of anxiety, but mine was astronomical. Some “friends” told me I might need to reign in my personality—that if I wasn't so nice and friendly to everyone, maybe things like this wouldn't happen. But. Let me be clear. THIS. IS. NOT. MY. FAULT. There's a reason I'm not friends with those people anymore. And for those of you still sending disgusting messages, I have a special file for you labeled “For the POLICE.”
Since then, it's been a hard and long struggle for me to get to where I am now. But the reality is, this is what I do. If you want to find me, it's not hard. And I refuse to let creeps take away something I've worked hard for.
So now we have a presidential candidate who thinks this kind of sexualization is acceptable. Maybe it was just “locker room” talk. We're expected to be okay with this kind of discussion because it's limited to one room? Let me tell you, it's never limited to the locker room. Men like him have made my life pure hell at times. Trump has perpetuated the notion that men do not have to be accountable for this kind of behavior, even if their actions include sexual assault. I find this offensive in every way possible, and I'm not even brushing upon the racist, bigot he is or all of the other problems I have with him.
To anyone who is still following my rant thus far, I don't care if you don't want to vote for Hillary. I'm not saying you have to. Please take into consideration, however, the values (or lack of values) Trump stands for.
And to Trump, I'd like to say these statements are not acceptable. Keep your apology, especially when there's nothing genuine behind the words. What has happened to me is not my fault. The accountability lies with sexist sentiments like yours.