If someone subjects someone else to unsafe play, should the perpetrator continue to be welcome in the community? I think the most appropriate thing to do is ostracize the offender or else they'll keep offending. A neutralist take on this is exactly what's wrong with everyone right now.
I think ostracization will happen naturally if everyone decides for themselves to not associate with the perpetrator. This is what I mean by using the valuable information shared by those affected to shape your own boundaries against the exposed dangers.
What I don’t quite see the need for is demanding others to make the same boundaries and come to the same conclusions as you would, enforced by using social pressures and divisive judgement.
I fundamentally believe that in a community of adults, we should trust our peers to make decisions for themselves. Sharing cautionary information against dangerous behaviour is so amazing and welcomed. Perpetrators should absolutely own up to their mistakes and be held accountable. But we can achieve all of this without the demanding of others to react in the way that we feel is appropriate.
I’m not a neutral stance. I’m just respecting my peers’ autonomy and giving them the freedom to decide what’s best for themselves. How someone chooses to live their life does not impact my need to treat them with dignity and respect.
In a community like ours without an actual established justice system, where justice and truth are taken into our own individual hands to discover, it’s inevitable that not everyone will come to the same conclusions. We must accept that. Control the things within your control, like yourself; who you associate with, the boundaries you create, and the spaces you enter. Trying to control others will hurt your own peace, and by extension increase anxiety and tension throughout the rest of the community too.
This was my whole take. This is what I meant by the possibility of achieving safety without aggression and hate.
But once again, this is MY personal preferred approach to life and conflict. I am not all knowing, I don’t know if my way is truly better in practice than everyone else’s ways, and I openly admit that. You are welcome to form your own conclusions, and I respect and see the value in all the conclusions I’ve read that are different from my own.
As always, I value correction if anyone thinks I’m missing anything, as my intention is to solve the problems here and so I will never deny an opportunity to be shown angles I may have missed. Please try to hear my heart on this, it would make me happy if I wasn’t misunderstood again <3 (not just to u but to everyone still sending asks lol)
