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Something I like... really feel like people should be more informed about when it comes to talking about economic insecurity is that poor kids learn to grow up with disordered and are actively shamed for their eating habits. It manifests in so many different ways...
Kids learning that an insanely small portion is normal, kids eating so little that their stomachs are unable to adjust to healthy serving sizes, or on the flip side, kids taking any opportunity to eat as much as they can because they know they won't get another meal for long periods of time- and then kids being shamed for those habits. People shaming kids "why do you eat so little? you're all skin and bones!" "oh finally someone's eating" or "you're so greedy, don't eat so much, don't eat so fast". Teachers and supervisors labeling kids who try to eat as much as they can when they have the opportunity as opportunistic, or kids who eat too little as picky or abnormal- even though picky eating is also a symptom of poverty! How does a kid become comfortable eating fruits, vegetables, and other foreign foods when they never got the chance to expose themselves to it?
Just makes me so sad.
is this just me or
When we talk about why we hate landlords, we need to tie gentrification into the conversation. We can't just assume people understand why renting is bad, because renting is insanely normalized. Everyone knows someone who rents, which is precisely why we should be talking about this more. When someone asks, well why do you hate landlords? We say: Because of gentrification. Because we are losing housing as we speak. Because when poor neighborhoods are renovated and re-valued, they run poor and middle class people out of their homes, their communities, and then sell back to us the properties that were already ours. We say, because it's why we have homelessness. Because when we adjust incomes for inflation, housing continues to get pricier and pricier and if it doesn't stop, none of us will have housing. There will be a point when rent is too expensive for any of us lower, middle-class, working-class people to afford, and we are reaching that point, and landlords telling us nicely that we can pay them insane amounts of money for houses and communities that were ours 10 to 20 years ago is the most shameless scam that we have ever normalized and it needs to go. Our wages are getting smaller. Our costs of living larger. It really is an encroaching problem, and it doesn't stop if you're a homeowner, it doesn't stop if you're a renter. It will get worse, and if buying a home is expensive now, be assured that your children will not be able to buy or rent in the coming decades. This is a problem that concerns the vast majority of people in the U.S. painted as an issue that only influences minorities because we were the ones who were hit first. Why do you think those in minority groups are always the first to become advocates for these issues? First it's us, but then it's you.
Ender has lied about their age, trauma, their gender, their sexuality, disorders, their interests, and so much more. Ender is a sick fuck and the truth must be spread.
â˘Age. Ender has either lied about their previous age or current age, both of which being disgusting. They claim that their abusive dad hid it from them, and that instead of being 23 or 24, they were actually 18. That claim is not only ridiculous as they claim to have come from France to the United States- how could they have come to here without documentation? Answer is they couldnât. So either they knew their age all along, or they lied about being French. Lying about being French would make sense as well, since they claim to have âforgotten all Frenchâ yet still constantly remind their followers that English is their âsecond language.â I actually believe that they are lying about both- they are not from France, and they are not the age they currently claim. Iâll explain more in a further point.
â˘Trauma. After going over every mention of trauma on their current and previous blog as well as a discord server, I have come to this storyline of Enderâs so called trauma: They claim to have been born into basically sex slavery. Their father used them for sex frequently and punished them severely. They attended school for several years and claims to have dropped out at one point because âit was too much,â so presumably they were somehow in high school despite being the âwrong age.â Their mother was neglectful, an alcoholic, and a heroin addict. Meanwhile, their dad was fine with Ender smoking, drinking, and doing drugs. Somehow their dad ended up getting arrested, and Ender left to go to the United states where they lived with their now ex.
Thereâs several reasons why this is absolute bull shit. Iâll start with their age, which I have already debunked but Iâll go further. If Ender was 18 when thought to be 23, thatâs a whopping 5 years younger. According to my research, the youngest you can drop out of school in France is at 16. So you mean to tell me that Ender dropped out of school at... 11. And nobody cared? Nobody called CPS? That also begs the question, did 16 year old high schoolers, nearly adults, actually think that an 11 year old was in their grade? Nobody would believe that. Pre-pubescent children and teenagers look and act nothing alike. Also, when their father was arrested, the police would have discovered enderâs true age and they would have been notified of this. They wouldâve most likely been taken into adoption, if their mom truly was just an alcoholic addict.
Secondly, what is the likelihood of an individual actually being born to be used solely for sex? There are fucked up people on earth, but the chance is slim to none... especially the chance that the child would also be intersex, would have schizophrenia, would develop DID, would end up being LGBT, and would find their way here happily on Tumblr. An unlikely event like that wouldâve made news. The press notices when these happen and itâs reported on. Third, if that truly did happen to Jean as they claim, they would be much more fucked up. Currently they go to college. They held a job in the past. They have a partner. They go to the store. Nobody who goes through something as horrific as that would be so normal. Itâs just not feasible.
How can anybody even believe in their traumatic backstory? Itâs impossible for them to have magically gotten into the US without a visa and a birth certificate, lol. They just recently acquired a passport as well. Suspicious, isnât it? Again, nobody would even believe that an 11 year old is in high school. No older man would believe somebody maybe 13 or 14 is their age and date them, and even if they did, youâre telling me nobody would question it? They donât even know their supposed âfirst language,â and in fact, theyâre attempting to learn it now. How can English be their second language if thatâs all they know? Itâs a cheap ploy to get sympathy and to back into when they misunderstand something.
â˘Disorders. Jean claims to have many disorders going on all at once, and every week there appears to be a new problem. Hereâs a running list of everything theyâve mentioned: schizophrenia, DID, BPD, C-PTSD, ED related issues, autism, misophonia, hypersexuality, and fibromyalgia. Iâm positive thereâs more as well. For starters, if their trauma even is real, schizophrenia is not formed due to trauma. It is most likely genetic, and considering how wildly unbelievable their background is, Iâm sure that some schizophrenia thrown in the mix would just be ridiculous. Not to mention ableist, claiming that schizos are âharmfulâ and âviolent.â DID is extremely unlikely as itâs very rare, not to mention their âaltersâ hardly seem to be present on the blog. Itâs just Jean. BPD is actually believable but I doubt itâs from as severe trauma as they say, considering one of their âtriggersâ is being blocked. Yeah. PTSD might be likely but C-PTSD comes from repetitive abuse and the diagnosis would not be present if DID was. ED related issues are most likely overblown bullshit. Not long ago Ender blew up on their tumblr faking starving themselves for attention. Autism is highly unlikely as they wouldâve had to have been born with it. Misophonia is just a ridiculous thing to flaunt around. Hypersexuality is simply their excuse to behave inappropriately and goes against their claim of being asexual. I could go on forever about how ridiculous this shit is.
â˘Their âinterests.â This is where things get even more fucked up, coupled with everything above. To start small, Ender enjoys very problematic forms of media, and seemingly only that. Thereâs even one form thatâs âso badâ they refuse to say what it is. But some of what the enjoy includes Harry Potter, Umbrella Academy, Markiplier, Criminal Minds, and much more. Moving to heavy stuff...
I have reason to believe that Ender engages in incest porn and CP as well. Unfortunately for the incest porn I no long have evidence as that blog was deleted, but not too long ago they complained to their blog of having an extreme problem and appeared to be panicking. I saw my chance and messaged saying I was willing to help them with anything, no matter how heavy it was. They proceeded to tell me they were having a dilemma understanding why incest was bad. I tried to ask them what started this mindset but they were vague and avoided the question. At one point they did mention having certain âfeelingsâ and enjoying incest. As for the CP, on an old blog somebody accused them of watching it. They have also mentioned before of being very wary around children. And this is where their age ties back... many of their friends are minors or almost minors. I believe that Jean saw an opportunity to grow closer to them to fuel their pedophilic desires, so they simply... aged themselves down. They knew nobody would question the rape victim, so they took advantage of their lies.
I figure out I had ADHD last year, but I didnât seek an official diagnosis and medication until this year. Iâm 30 years old, my school days are long behind me. I slipped through the cracks because I have predominately inattentive type and I was a quiet little girl. Having ADHD does not mean you have to be hyperactive and loud, it means you have a processing problem in your brain that doesnât allow you to regulate your focus or emotions.Â
Mental health even now is still taboo to talk about. People are more open now than ever about it however and that gives me hope.Â
This is a profoundly personal comic and it only reflects my own experience with ADHD. It is on a spectrum with a wide range of personalities. But if my story connects with someone else and helps them, that would mean the world to me.
Excerpts from âA Practical Guide to Complex PTSD: Compassionate by Arielle Schwartzâ on âManaging Emotional Dysregulationâ
Many individuals who grew up in abusive or neglectful households have difficulty expressing emotions in a healthy way. Either they find themselves losing their temper, crying uncontrollably, and feeling out of control, or they shut down and feel cut off from their feelings.
e.g âIt all started because my husband told me that he has to go away for a business trip. Logically, I know that he loves me and that itâs only a short trip. But I got this horrible feeling that heâs going to leave me. I felt so out of control. Then, I got angry and couldnât stop myself from yelling. Afterwards, I felt so bad about myself. Now, I canât stop crying and I donât know what to do.â
Like Christine, you might have a fear of abandonment. Alternatively, you might feel triggered by someone elseâs behavior or feel distressed when someone you care about is disappointed with you. Emotional dysregulation often leads to behaviors you later regret.
These behaviors tend to increase to a downward spiral in which you feel consumed by self-hatred or start to think about suicide as the only way out of your pain. Emotional dysregulation is common among survivors of childhood trauma.
The patterns learned in childhood can come out in adulthood as a tendency to cry uncontrollably, get angry easily, feel lethargic and dull, or be overly attuned to the feelings of others. These patterns of emotional dysregulation indicate that you are outside your âwindow of tolerance,â a term created by Dr. Dan Siegel to describe the range of stress that a person can manage without becoming overwhelmed.
When you are outside your window of tolerance, you might feel high-arousal emotions, such as fear, irritability, restlessness, anger, or excessive crying. These feelings mean that your sympathetic nervous system has kicked in. Low-arousal emotions mean that you are feeling a parasympathetic system response. You might feel fatigued, lethargic, helpless, emotionally dull, numb, or depressed. Often, those with C-PTSD alternate between these highs and lows.
Patterns of dysregulation learned in childhood often continue into adulthood. You might notice a tendency toward fight, flight, fawn, freeze, and faint responses.
Fight: If you are prone to a fight response, you might feel critical of yourself and others or be angry or full of rage. You might have a strong need to feel in control. If you relate to this pattern, you may need to work with your anger in therapy.
Flight: If you tend toward the flight response, you might notice a tendency to startle easily, feel hypervigilant to your surroundings, and be on guard. You might feel flighty, âcaught in your head,â have racing thoughts, or feel disconnected from your body.
Fawn: When a child learns to cope by taking care of the parentâs emotional needs, that child is relying on another defense structure, termed the âfawnâ response by Pete Walker. The fawn response involves trying to appease or please a person who is a source of threat. In adulthood, an unresolved fawn response might lead to patterns of codependence, in which you sacrifice your own needs for the sake of maintaining relationships. It will be important to focus on developing your boundaries and improving your sense of self-worth.
Freeze: A freeze response happens when you become absolutely still in anticipation of your life being threatened. Think of a deer in a carâs headlights. Often, there is a tendency to hold your breath, and you might feel frozen, like you cannot move your body.
Faint: The faint response happens when our bodies decide we are under threat and that we need to conserve energy in order to survive. With this response, you might feel disconnected, dissociative, numb, or have the urge to withdraw from others. Or you might experience nausea, dizziness, or difficulty with your vision. These symptoms indicate that you are relying upon a primitive defense system that kicks in when it senses that death may be unavoidable.
You can increase your window of tolerance by paying attention to uncomfortable emotions and bodily sensations while also recognizing that these feelings do not require knee-jerk reactivity. For example, you might notice a sense of irritability, a change in how you are breathing, a loss of focus, or that you suddenly become tired. Instead of pushing these feelings away, you can become curious. You might discover that these feelings are connected to the past.
Now, instead of reacting impulsively, you can use positive coping strategies and choose wiser behaviors, such as setting a boundary, advocating for yourself, or mindfully ending an unhealthy relationship.
âHurrDurr the left calls everyone nazis!!â Donât mind the fact that the term âfeminaziâ was coined before fucking 2004. Yeah, youâre the victim buddy!
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I think some adults need to realize that teens donât dislike adults because teens are rebellious and punk, a lot of kids and teens dislike adults because every interaction theyâve had with them is dismissing and condescendingÂ
Never worked like that for me⌠I didnât have a good relationship with most other teenagers but I got along fine with most adults (except some teachers I would have gladly strangled with my own bare hands). I can never relate to people telling me about their rebellious teenage years
Thatâs probably because this post is saying that they didnât have rebellious teenage years. It was just an illusion that many adults had to invalidate teenagers opinions. âYouâre just a hormonal teenagerâ âyou just donât like authority because youâre a teenâ âyouâre only acting this way because youâre youngâ instead of actually listening to their problems and concerns and dealing with it in a healthy manner.
No one said you werenât valid. Stop spreading false information about me. I said it was fucked of you to use the title of CSA victim SOLEY to drive a political agenda, and then when I expressed, that I, a rape victim, disagreed with your politics despite being sexually assaulted you told me that unless I agreed with you we could not be friends. You held that political opinion before your assault and you held it afterward- saying that I, or anyone else, cannot disagree with you because of a personal event you had that had very little to do with the thing you deem to hold an ultimate opinion on is incredibly manipulative. Also, I did support you. You can literally pull up the callout post YOU made in which you stated that I am the one who helped you, and told you to leave that situation from which your trauma stems. I never said you werenât abused. You put words in my mouth and I ignored you because we were not talking about that and I was not going to have you twist my words. You said not to talk to you or about you after we stopped being friends so I expect the same from you. If you need me to pull up screenshots, I will.
If this goes on I *will* bring it to the school counselor. Quit it.
Also âbuild a bridge and get over yourselfâ? I was literally raped. Not only did I not fucking say that but youâre actually saying Iâm over exaggerating my RAPE. LMAO.
Me: Ugh, i feel so alienated and weird about my female bod-
A tucute, putting her hands over my mouth: NO!!! Shhh!! You are a Boy so you have a male body!! Some Boys⢠have boobies and thatâs ok!! Love urself uwu
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The Thing About Abuse
The thing about abuse that people who havenât been abused donât tend to understand is that everything and anything can turn into your fault when youâre the target of abuse.
Thatâs why we flinch when someone spills something. Or someone burns their food on the stove.
Thatâs why we go to hide quietly in another room when someone trips or stubs their toe.
Thatâs why we automatically back away and put eight feet of distance between us and another person when they realize something went wrong or they get bad news.
Thatâs why we get anxiety attacks when someone canât find an item theyâre looking for and they begin to get frustrated.
Thatâs why our heart skips a beat when anyone raises their voice, even if theyâre cheering for a sports team on TV.
Thatâs why weâre so geared to apologize for things that have nothing to do with us.
When youâve been abused you are accustomed to being blamed for things that arenât your fault.
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PTSD isnât just flashbacks. while a lot of movies, books, games etc equate post traumatic stress disorder to having extremely vivid flashbacks in which one thinks the trauma is happening again, this is not the only symptom of PTSD, nor is it a requirement for having the disorder.
other symptoms of PTSD include
problems sleeping
nightmaresÂ
hypervigilance (constantly checking surroundings for safety, looking for any possible threat)
being easily startled
being emotionally numb or not experiencing joy
seeing the world as a terrible place
memory lossÂ
trouble relating to others
physiological or strong emotional reactions to reminders of traumaÂ
intrusive thoughts about the trauma
(full list of criteria here)
flashbacks are not the be all and end all of PTSD. itâs a much more complex disorder than itâs portrayed in a lot of media, nor is it military exclusive. i hope this post can at least help educate some people beyond the incomplete and in some cases outright wrong information that a lot of people have.