The Troubles Of Being Trans

The troubles of dysphoria, social unacceptance and misunderstanding, feeling like the only one- This page has to do with how to cope with those things, and letting you know you're not alone. 

[florallychaotic]

Im gonna be so real can yall actually talk about ways we can support trans women in the UK instead of giving all the attention to fucking JKR. I already know that Harry Poter sucks, I wanna know how to actually HELP people. Something something you have to love the oppressed more than you hate the oppressor

[snowonthebeachmp3]

trans actual uk - trans led and run advocacy, education and empowerment organisation

fiveforfive - collective fund for trans women and girls and transfem causes

gendered intelligence - trans led advocacy org

mermaids - supports trans youth

akt - lgbtq youth homelessness charity

loving me - domestic abuse service for trans people in england

not a phase - for trans adults

[transgendad]

spectra - trans led advocacy, education, and other support, also focuses on sexual and mental wellbeing, London-based

trans creative uk - trans artists countering media negativity by raising trans voices, Manchester-based with national reach

trans unite - directory of support groups in the uk

trans kids deserve better - action network by and for trans+ youth

the outside project - LGBTIQ+ centre and shelter (their insta is more up to date)

[official-anti-jkr-posts]

This is an official anti-JKR post

[gaytanic-panic]

YO!!!!!!!

@bigbrujabruja @reidio-silence @mindfulbrat A LOT OF OTHER PEOPLE LETS GOOOOOOO

[abigailspinach]

https://dieworkwear.com/2022/08/26/how-to-develop-good-taste-pt-1/

From the comments "In my experience clothing on anyone looks best when it is done with confidence. We are all different shapes and sizes. I was really struck by your post on dressing well that included John Goodman in a faded t-shirt and jeans. He rocks it!"

Excellent advice, whatever gender or style one is looking for. Thank you

I'm a trans guy and Derek, I can tell you my wardrobe has improved a huge amount simply by reading your threads. The "dress for your body type" stuff never worked well for me; your threads about putting together an intentional look and for getting a good fit - that's 99% of the game.

derek guy (@dieworkwear.bsky.social)

I get this question a lot. I don't have strong views on how transmasc people should dress, but since I often get the question, I've thought

[lilitasticc]

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[marithlizard]

I know people aren't here for the news, but trans folks, I'm thinking of you tonight and how you deserve better.

[arcticarthropod]

Trans student’s arrest for violating Florida bathroom law is thought to be a first

Marcy Rheintgen, 20, faces a misdemeanor trespassing charge punishable by up to 60 days in jail and is due to appear in court in May.

This girl is an actual hero and we need to donate to her defense fund please

[slapbass]

Providing additional information that I could find from her socials. Here’s the link I found to donate to her:

Marcy was arrested for washing her hands in a women's restroom because she is trans. She deserves better than what will happen to her if she

Furthermore, Marcy says that her arraignment is today (May 8th) with the trial likely to start in late July. Please donate, support, and pray; please continue to share her story.

[c3rvida3]

POC who bind: I can confirm after having dyed about a dozen binders for friends of mine and probably literal hundreds of pairs of tights that pretty much any method that reliably dyes pale-nude dance/theatre tights to a deeper nude will also dye binders to a deeper nude. Just something to keep in mind if a company that doesn't make your shade is a more comfortable cut or fit, or is running a sale on a shade that doesn't work for you.

A lot of people find this Rit Dye chart helpful specifically since their dyes are typically accessible and affordable.

[bingbuang]

wait binders are supposed to be my skin color?

[c3rvida3]

They don't have to be if it doesn't bother you that they aren't! Some people find it a little bit less dysphoria-inducing if their undergarments are close to their skin tone. The biggest issue is obviously that pale skin tones are often offered as the universal and only nude to begin with. From, like, a practical standpoint, if you're wearing a white or light-colored shirt, a binder or bra that's close to your skin tone isn't going to have as much contrast against your skin as a lighter one, and won't show up as much under the garment. A lot of people think if you're wearing a white shirt for example, you should wear a white bra or binder underneath it, but you actually want whatever your version of nude is.

[theygender]

Having a vagina honestly sucks bc it's like you have to do fucking alchemy just to prevent yourself from getting sick. You've got an intricate ecosystem of microorganisms down there that you're dependent on for your own well-being and they can be set off by the tiniest fucking thing

Keeping your pubes too short can cause yeast infections, but letting them get too long can also cause yeast infections. Washing the area with specialized soap can help prevent yeast infections, but it can also cause them. Your periods can cause yeast infections, and so can the medicine you take to stop your periods. Having sex can cause yeast infections, especially if the person you're having sex with is diabetic (???). Being diabetic can cause yeast infections. Wearing the wrong clothes or eating the wrong things can cause yeast infections. Not getting enough fucking sleep can cause yeast infections. The list is neverending

Luckily, yeast infections are fairly easy to treat with OTC medicine that you can find at any Walmart. BUT! Even if all of your symptoms indicate that you have a yeast infection, you have to take a test first to confirm that it's a yeast infection (they do not sell the tests at Walmart) bc you might actually have the opposite of a yeast infection (bacterial vaginosis) which has the exact same symptoms as a yeast infection but is caused by an imbalance of different microorganisms. And if you use yeast infection medicine to treat a bacterial infection it will light your pussy on fire. So if you have a bacterial infection, you must instead visit your local witch doctor (gynecologist) and get prescribed special potions (antibiotics) to treat it

Antibiotics can also cause yeast infections

[spamandemotions]

Reboot for afab health tips

[theygender]

Not all afab people have vaginas actually, and trans women & transfems who undergo bottom surgery are just as capable of getting vaginal yeast infections as people who were born with their vaginas. I appreciate the urge to use inclusive language, but this post is not exclusive to afab people! In cases like these, naming the specific body part (ie. "vagina health tips") is more precise and inclusive

[tuulikki]

For those who only have the time to skim this: the “just as capable” line links to an article that isn’t about comparing rates, but is actually documenting (for the first time on the medical record!) that it does indeed happen.

If you’ve had bottom surgery and have a yeast infection, the article suggests that miconazole capsules/tablets are preferable to creams, though either would do in a pinch.

[certifiedsexed]

Certified Sex Ed Post!

[sunnyrabbit05-deactivated202508]

please

[mutationgirl]

trans women. we will live. we will thrive. we will be around long after this terrible fucking website runs itself into the ground. you are all my sisters, may the wind be at your backs and good fortune touch your hands.

[mutationgirl]

it isn’t gonna be easy and I’m not an expert- hell, I’m not particularly far along my journey. I would do it all again in a heartbeat. I am an extremely indecisive person, and this is the most sure I have ever been. You will live & thrive. I will too. We have to. I love you.

[strange-aeons]

My friend @wordslikesilver asked me if she could promo this in my discord server and I thought it could be helpful to share on Tumbr as well.

This is a study being run by the Canadian Drug Administration to improve Trans Healthcare in Canada — they’re looking for Canadian Trans Women / anyone on Estrogen who isn’t Cis to participate.

The study is explicitly about oral vs transdermal HRT usage. This doesn’t include injected estrogen or testosterone suppressants but does include things like progesterone & other hormone medications if you’re taking them with your oral/transdermal estrogen.

Details for contacting them directly to participate as well as compensation details are in the final screenshot!

[13yearslater]

Successful trans men

I wish I knew about men like these growing up, I wish I knew that trans men could be successful after a lifetime of never seeing anyone ‘like me’ excelling in life. So here are some trans men - some that you may have heard of, some that you may not - that are successful in a range of careers. Never let being trans hold you back, never think you can’t do something, never think there is not a place for you.

Ben Barres American neurobiologist for Stanford University and advocate for women in science. Barre’s research on the interactions between glial cells and neurons changed the way that we understand the brain and opened up a whole new field of research.

Stephen Whittle Professor of equalities law. Founder of FTM Network in 1989 and Press for Change in 1992. Whittle has been heavily involved in trans activism since joining the Self Help Association for Transsexuals in 1979. His research and activism has been instrumental in ensuring the rights of trans people in the UK.

Michael D Cohen Actor, teacher and coach. Making his break in award-winning Nickelodeon sitcoms Harvey Danger and Danger Force he was the first series regular actor to publicly come out as transgender. Cohen has a BSc in cell biology and a masters degree in adult education, teaching at his own acting studio and providing workshops.

Chris Mosier American triathlete and award-winning coach. Six time member of Team USA in both duathlon and triathlon, Mosier also won two national championships in racewalking and was the first transgender athlete to qualify for the Olympic trials to compete against other members of his gender.

Yance Ford African-American film producer and director. Ford received an Emmy for Exceptional Merit in Documentary Filmmaking and was nominated for an Oscar for his part in producing and directing the documentary Strong Island which follows the death of his brother.

Kael McKenzie Canadian judge. Serving in the Canadian Armed Forces for several years, McKenzie later attended law school and and worked as a lawyer before being appointed as a judge to the Provincial Court of Manitoba in 2015. 

Shane Ortega Native American former flight engineer in the US army, former marine and professional bodybuilder. Throughout his career Ortega has served in Iraq and Afghanistan in over 400 combat missions. He has a long history of advocating for the repeal of Don’t Ask Don’t Tell and the recent banning on transgender service members in the US army. 

Drago Renteria Chicano photojournalist and deaf and LGBT activist. Renteria founded the Deaf Queer Resource and is CEO of DeafVision - a webhosting and development company run by deaf people and the founder of the National Deaf LGBTQ Archives. Renteria has been instrumental in both creating and hosting many online deaf/queer spaces online along with being heavily involved in real-world activism for decades.

Phillipe Cunningham Elected city councillor for ward 4 Minneapolis and previous special education teacher, Cunningham holds a masters degrees in Organizational Leadership & Civic Engagement and in Police Administration and is passionate about tacking inequalities in his community. 

[jenroses]

The vast majority of these men did not get puberty blockers early. I think that’s important for trans youth to know… that stupid legislation can’t stop them from being trans and transitioning well, even if the hoops are worse and take longer. (I think trans youth should be able to transition when and how they need to, but in the face of current transphobic legislation, you need to understand that even if they manage to delay you, they can’t stop you.)

[grison-in-space]

Ben Barres, in fact, didn’t transition until he was 43 and already a full fledged neuroscientist in a faculty position. He chose to use his circumstances, and the differences in treatment he experienced after transitioning, to draw attention to gender discrimination in his chosen field in all directions. I’ve spoken to a number of people who knew him over the years and have never heard anyone express anything but profound affection and admiration for him as a mentor and a teacher as well as a groundbreaking scientist.

So, you know. They really can’t stop you. Sometimes in science I hear trans folks, especially transmasc folks, expressing fear that they’re somehow letting the side down by choosing to live life in the way that feels most authentic to themselves. Ben’s legacy puts the lie to that fear: in choosing to transition in 1997, very publicly — in academia your name is part of your publication record and all his previous work was obviously published under his deadname — he was able to use his particular perspective and unique experiences to advocate for others even harder than he might otherwise have been able to do.

His memory is a blessing. His legacy is a gift.

[estroqueen]

Can we normalize the idea that women can have deep voices? please?? Especially for trans women who feel gross or out of place for their deep voice.

Please, break the standard that all women have high pitched, perfect, feminine voices.

[bracelet00]

My car got towed on NYE, so after unsuccessfully trying every number programmed into my phone, I called my dad’s ass up at 2 AM to pick up myself and my friends to go get my vehicle out of impound (my dad is awesome. More on that later.)

Included in my group of friends was my friend Anna who had recently come forward as trans. She had very recently started presenting as a woman, and was pretty insecure in it, and had never met my father previously, so it wasn’t as though I had time to brief him on the situation. Anna was pretty shy during the whole ride, tucked in the back and letting her friends talk over her. She only spoke up after I had gotten my car back, thanking him for helping out.

The next day, I called to thank him for that night, and he asked me who was the girl with the deep voice. At first my heart sink in my guts, but without missing a beat, he started raving about how he LOVED her voice. He listed off a few actresses from his day who had had very deep voices, and how he adored it, and that kind of slow sultry speaking had been fading more and more as pop culture pushed for childish voices in women.

Your deep voice is gorgeous trans friends (and cis friends too.) it is warm and low and smooth like honey and perfect in every way. It is smoldering and evocative and absolutely beautiful.

[estroqueen]

Honestly this is the most beautiful story ever, I’ve read it like 5 times over. Thank you so much for this.

[themaddahlia-deactivated2023040]

I really needed to hear this

[subjugatedmind]

@transpokelover

[homunculus-argument]

The human body's response to HRT is actually admirable in the sheer indifference. Just pure I Don't Give A Shit, I Just Fucking Work Here compliance to the new instructions. You can get testosterone injected straight into your body and it doesn't even question where that shit came from, coming back from a coffee break and just going

"Okay, everything seems to be in ord- oh fuck now what? Oh huh. Alright fine. New orders came in, cancel the menstrual cycle. Dig up the genetic balding patterns from somewhere, I don't fucking know they're buried somewhere in the dna. I'm greenlighting the growing-hair-on-your-toes thing. Yeah just cancel the ongoing maintenance processes, new orders came in so this is apparently what we're doing now."

[tanadrin]

genuinely i think a big problem with science education is we spend too much time in high school telling students DNA is like, the Magical Essence of an Organism.

dna is mostly just instructions for building proteins, and not very persuasive ones at that. it sits in the nucleus of the cell, and what happens after RNA transcription isn't any of its business. this is a good thing! it means we can override it sometimes when we need to (and when we know how). but a lot of rhetoric around DNA (and therefore gender and sex and morphological freedom in general) treats it like this Platonic sorcery that must be obeyed, lest we incur the wrath of the gods. and it's nothing so special!

[tiktoks-for-dead-pope]

[mossdftba]

Clip 1: This is my voice 1 day on T.

Clip 2: It's been a while since I've done a voice update. So, this is my voice. 16 months on testosterone... Keep moving forward.

[allthegeopolitics]

Church offers grants to trans youth for gender-affirming care

An LGBTQ- inclusive church in Texas is offering grants to help trans youth access vital gender-affirming care.

An LGBTQ-inclusive church in Texas is offering grants to trans youth who require gender-affirming care but can’t access it because of the state’s “cruel ban”. Galileo Church, in Kennedale (about 30 miles east of Dallas), vows: “To do justice for LGBTQ+ people and support the people who love them”, by setting up a network to help transgender youngsters.  Introduced in August, the North Texas TRANSportation Network (NTTN), a group of individuals and organisations, provides travel grants to families from the area who seek out-of-state care for trans and gender-diverse minors.  Following a referral, a travel grant of $1,000 (£825) is sent to the applicant. To be eligible, they must live within one of 19 Texas counties.

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[d0gg-rr4tt3zz]

anyone who acts like there's some kind of implicit understanding or sisterhood between all women is straight up lying

[d0gg-rr4tt3zz]

i made this post specifically about a friend of mine, so let me say this: if you want to be a girl, but feel like you can't because you would never be comfortable in The Club of Womanhood, don't worry! feeling like an alienated little weirdo who will never Get what other girls seem to pick up naturally is in fact an extremely Girl experience